TTC #2 after multiple losses - support

[bumbleberry]

Hi, just starting this thread as a way of support really, not sure where I really fit anymore. TTC forum is super busy and I had no response there and missing the ladies from 1st Tri forum

I'm currently in my 2nd day of having a miscarriage. This will be my 4th m/c but my 1st since having my daughter. I mistakenly (naively) thought that everything would be okay since I've managed to have a baby following 3 m/c's. So this one is hitting me quite hard.

I'm at the GP tomorrow to ask for another referral for investigations. Not sure whether they'll consider it since it's not '3 in a row' kind of thing, but I need to do something. I don't want to wait for another 2 before they'll do any kind of tests.

I have PCOS but feel I keep it under control with keeping my weight down and diet etc. I also figured because I can conceive it's not really affecting it but then the more I read, there's information stating that PCOS can increase the risk of miscarriages? I took metformin for about a month but was really sick on it, I think a few months after I fell pregnant again and was able to carry to full term and had my daughter. Now I'm wondering if that had any effect on my ability to carry to full term?

Sorry for the long post, I just don't know what to do, age is not on our side and we do want to TTC again as soon as we are able to.

I feel stuck in limbo and just seem to have many unanswered questions. Happy to chat if anyone has been in similar situations or has any experience or just wants to vent/chat/support etc

 

[Mummy2Corban]

Hello lovely, in so sorry for your loss. Sending you hugs. I've had 5 losses in total the last 2 being may and June both at 5 weeks. Maybe a trip to the dr might be an idea. I've read about 3 in a row but they might be able to answer some questions for you?! I'm currently cd14 (counting first day of mc as cd1) I'm hoping we get lucky because I don't wanna go to the Drs. Here if you wanna chat xx

 

[bumbleberry]

Thank you Mummy2Corban, means a lot. Sorry for your losses too it doesn't get any easier does it?

I'm still bleeding but have only passed very small clots. I'm hoping my body does what it's supposed to do naturally and soon, I don't want to prolong it and I don't really want to have yet another D&C.

I would be 10 weeks now, I just received my letters from the hospital this morning for my 12 week scan and next appointment with the consultant the 12 week scan was booked for 27th July which is ironically the same day I have booked for a scan to check everything has cleared

Fingers crossed you get lucky soon x

 

[Mummy2Corban]

Oh honey I'm just so sorry! And to receive your letters! It's so tough..... I'm sorry. Sending big hugs. No I don't think it gets easier. I had a complete molar and chemo nearly 5 years ago now and the mc bring that back too. Hopefully you pass everything naturally so you don't have to go down the d n c route. X

 

[Tweak0605]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I hope you can get some answers from your GP.

I'll be going through my 3rd miscarriage (1st since having my daughter) when my levels drop low enough. I went from 800 to 300 in 2 days.

Feel free to vent/chat away.

 

[bumbleberry]

So sorry you're going through this too Tweak

I feel like I'm in my own little bubble at the minute. I've kind of withdrawn from everything at the minute. I don't really want to see other people apart from my OH and DD.

I'm still bleeding but it's a lot lighter now, I don't know if I'm at the tail end of it now, to be honest I expected it to be a lot worse as I read some stories that it would be... I will have to take a pregnancy test I guess to find out.

 

[Tweak0605]

It's totally okay to be withdrawn Surround yourself with the love from your OH and daughter, and allow yourself to grieve. I honestly didn't think it would hit me this hard. Since I've been through 2 before, I figured I was kind of numb to it. But it's definitely been hard.

I think if it's getting lighter, that's a good sign. My 2nd m/c was like a super heavy period, not that bad, physically. So I was happy about that. I haven't even started bleeding yet Took a test this morning to see where I'm at, and it's still pretty dark. The waiting to miscarry is SO hard.

Big hugs. I hope the worst is over for you