TTC 8 Months Later With New Boyfriend

[dizzyc8]

Lost My Baby in February, before i knew the sex. The whole Pregnancy was hard. It was not planned, the dad was not who i at all thought would it would be for my first and i was alone. Lost the baby due to genetic problems i guess and then had a missed MC 2 weeke later. it was horrible my Bipolar made it ten times harder to deal with.

About 7 month ago i met my boyfriend now, basically he swept me off my feet. My mom always told me "you will know when its him, not you think. you will know." We have been happy, i honestly dont think i have ever been this happy before we got our own place, almost unpacked. and hes asks me 2 days ago "are you ready to try for a baby?"

Blew me away we havent been together that long not even married and he asks this, coming from a guy that wont even hold babies cuz hes scared to brake them. but when he does hes so good with them.

Basically im Scared to death, i want to get pregnant, but dont want to have another MC. it broke me in ways i thought didnt exists, We dont want to tell our friends our family because we know that they will tell us to wait till we have been together longer and i know thats the smart thing to do. but we both have baby fever. and have talked about what is going to happen when and if we conceive what we hope to happen even baby names.

Just need ladies to talk to for support.

 

[SleepyBaby]

Dont be afraid of a new pregnancy, every pregnancy is different but dont jump in with both feet unless you are sure!

My dad met and MARRIED his wife within 8 weeks of meeting her, 8 WEEKS! he said they just knew it was ment to be, 2o years on, 3 kids later she still posts soppy love notes to his facebook!

I met my sons dad, 2 years later i got pregnant, when my son was one we called it quits! I always thought he might be the one... so i tried to make him the one, but it never worked like that!

Lets face it, smart and logical dont fit into the real world, yes we would all love to have the perfect plan and for it to go step by step as we plan it but thats a dream world! It would be smart fo you to wait a while, unless you know for sure hes the one and you know he feels the same!

the only people who know if its a good idea, if it will work is you guys, its a big commitment and babies make relationships harder, they dont save them at all, its stresful and the strain can easily break couples who think they are in love but are not really, like me and my sons dad, or with the right teamwork and being able to rely on each other and love each other it can make it stronger!

I had a healthy 9lb son, followed by a miscarriage, followed by a healthy 8lb daughter, followed by a miscarriage... its not easy, but it shows each pregnancy for me is different, each pregnancy for everyone is different, there re no 100% guarentees in life, im not a church person so putting my faith in god isnt an option, its a roll of the dice, just because one roll was bad doesnt mean the next will be as bad..

I think i started rambling, ma wee head is whirling this morning, aanywho, long and short of it is, Are you ready in yourself to be pregnant? do you see you and the mr 20 years down the line still being in love and happy? Maybe leave it a month or two, get used to the idea and think it through, to be sure your sure you know what it is excatly you want and need?