TTC after my 2nd (possibly 3rd) MC

[4077girl]

Hello everyone. This is probably going to end up being a combination of venting and asking a question

I found out I was pregnant July 9th and went through the same exact thing as I did with my last pregnancy. Low (but doubling HCG) (doctors so optimistic) in the beginning, then slow to double HCG (doctors not so optimistic), then finally it started to dip back down (doctors finally SURE it was a MC). My first pregnancy I had spotting the whole time, but I hoped it was going to be different this time because I haven't had any bleeding, but then my stupid HCG did EXACTLY the same thing as last time (within just a few points!)

The doctor just told me to go home and take vitamints because I will probably start bleeding in a few days. I'm supposed to come back after 10 days to make sure my HCG is back to 0. The pregnancy was in my uterus because he did an ultrasound and showed me an "abnormal sack."

He didn't say anything about when or how to try again, and I didn't think to ask. He offered me a referral to a fertility specialist since it has happened twice in a row (possibly a 3rd time early in university but I don't know for sure) but he said he would sign the referral when I come back in 10 days. In the mean time, I'm wondering when is the best time to try again. After my last miscarriage, my cycle was a normal length, so I am assuming I can predict pretty well when I'll ovulate based on when I start bleeding this time, but I don't want to try this cycle if it's going to increase my chances of ANOTHER MC. I've heard in some places that it can, and others that it doesn't it's just for emotional reasons that you should maybe wait.

Should I skip this month and wait until after I've had an appointment with the fertility specialist? I have no clue how long that will take, as I'm in Canada and it can take months for a referral to finally give an appointment, especially since I'm guessing 2 MC in a 29 year old won't be a top priority. So I don't know if I should just wait, or keep trying and see what happens and just try not to get my hopes up.

I am only just 6 weeks now, so I'm assuming (hoping) it will be a pretty early MC....though I still have no signs of it coming...which is actually a bit frustrating.

What do you think? When should we try again? I am really eager to keep trying, espcially if it's going to take a lot of tries! I am very fortunate to have no difficulty getting pregnant (so far...knock on wood), I just can't seem to stay that way

 

[Phoeniix]

I miscarried early on too. I'm so sorry for your loss

The dr I met in the ER said that you should wait a minimum of one cycle. When you try before that, your chances of m/c increase as you haven't had time to build a proper lining/heal. She said that some studies have shown that fertility increases after a miscarriage in the 3-6 month range.

I was terribly upset and rude and informed her that I would TTC that month. She explained that doing so would not help my chances of a successful pregnancy, and one should never TTC after a mc until one cycle is complete.

My ob/gyn said 3 cycles. But my mom is a LD nurse and she said that tends to be on a cautious side, for older women with multiple miscarriages. She recommended 1-2 cycles to let hormones regulate and body heal.

I plan on waiting just one cycle.
Hope that helps

 

[4077girl]

Still waiting for the miscarriage to start. I'd be over 6 weeks now. My pregnancy symptoms have definitely decreased, I don't feel nauseated anymore and my boobs are feeling less full and painful. I wish it would just happen already so I could get on with things...My HCG wasn't even in the 1000s yet, so I thought it would have happened by now.