TTC and Beyond!

[CantHrdlyWait]

I'd love to breastfeed, but by the looks of it, i'll be going back to work at 6 weeks. I have NO idea what i'm doing. About anything right now. Daycare, selling my car, coming back to work.. it's driving me crazy.

 

[brunettebimbo]

I breastfed on demand until 18 months with Tristan. I think it would have been longer but he self weaned.

It can be tough but it can be so rewarding. I'm lazy and tight. I couldn't be arsed sterilising and begrudged paying for something I could get for free

I very rarely pumped as I couldn't bear to leave him so only had a hand pump.

 

[Cowgirl07]

I would babysit! I do plenty of it already!

 

[RobertRedford]

I will also breastfeed when ever I have a baby, and will try to continue for as long as I can-- I'll be shooting for a year, but I'll take what I can get. If BF'ing is a hassle or doesn't work, then I am not opposed to formula. nursing is just my no. 1 choice.

My work is really accommodating and has "rest" rooms on every floor, private rooms with big comfy chairs, snacks, etc. that can be used for any purpose. I see a lot of moms going in/out of with pumps throughout the day.

 

[Cowgirl07]

I will also try to breastfeed, if we have a baby. Since I will be a sahm of sorts anyway, my mom or dad will probably watch lo while I do chores for a couple hours a day.

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

I'm sorry but I need to vent. So I called this morning about getting Zofran. They said they called it in, so I went to my pharmacy at lunch. They said they had nothing for me. So I called the OB office, and they were at lunch, so I left a message. I hear nothing. I call my pharmacy back at 2ish and ask if they now have anything for me, and they tell me no. So I call my OB office, AGAIN. I sat on hold forever and then find out that they called it into the wrong pharmacy. So then I proceed to get 3 phone calls from different people telling me it's all sorted out. I think "Great, i'll go after work and i'll be feeling better soon". I just look at my cell and I have a voicemail. My insurance wants prior authorization before I can get this medicine and the woman said that could take 24 hours!!! So that means I may not even have it tomorrow if they don't hear back from them. The woman said she told them it was URGENT. I want to die. I'm so sick and I shouldn't have waited until i was at my breaking point before calling. I'm just.. SO PISSED.

my friends are like "well.. it'll all be worth it! You'll have a baby!" and that really makes me want to punch them. that's 8 months from now. That's not helping me at all when I feel like vomiting on myself ALL DAY LONG for a week straight.

*cries*

 

[Cowgirl07]

Oh boo, I hate insurance companies some time!

 

[morganwhite7]

I wish I could ship you my leftovers to you!! I have so many extra have pills and dissolvable tablets! I hate how insurance works, and that there are "business" days. OUR MS doesn't care about business days!!!!!! Sorry

And I guess that's true BB I only pumped since he couldn't feed, I hope I never have to use a single bottle!! And my DH thinks it's "weird" to BF until a year and over, but I totally agree with it being a great bond and a wonderful FREE food source!! I will BF this girl til she weans herself too, DH can kick rocks!

 

[pdxmom]

I'm sorry but I need to vent. So I called this morning about getting Zofran. They said they called it in, so I went to my pharmacy at lunch. They said they had nothing for me. So I called the OB office, and they were at lunch, so I left a message. I hear nothing. I call my pharmacy back at 2ish and ask if they now have anything for me, and they tell me no. So I call my OB office, AGAIN. I sat on hold forever and then find out that they called it into the wrong pharmacy. So then I proceed to get 3 phone calls from different people telling me it's all sorted out. I think "Great, i'll go after work and i'll be feeling better soon". I just look at my cell and I have a voicemail. My insurance wants prior authorization before I can get this medicine and the woman said that could take 24 hours!!! So that means I may not even have it tomorrow if they don't hear back from them. The woman said she told them it was URGENT. I want to die. I'm so sick and I shouldn't have waited until i was at my breaking point before calling. I'm just.. SO PISSED.

my friends are like "well.. it'll all be worth it! You'll have a baby!" and that really makes me want to punch them. that's 8 months from now. That's not helping me at all when I feel like vomiting on myself ALL DAY LONG for a week straight.

*cries*

Awww im sorry ur in such a sorry state hun...i know how terrible the feeling is...have u tried just putting a small pc of ginger root in your mouth and just sucking on it...i had some dried ginger stuff and tht seemed to help at least alil bit

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

Thanks ladies. I'm seriously on the verge of a breakdown. This isn't helping. Just give me the damn medicine.

Sonia- I HATE ginger, so no. LOL. I've tried the ginger tea and it's bad enough, right now I can barely stomach water let alone something I can't stand.

 

[morganwhite7]

Ice water, those MCD's parfaits we were talking about, popsicles?? Haha those were my lifeline these last few months. Make sure you keep hydrated at least, Gatorade is tasty too when you can't stomach much!

Lol I know how you feel. FX'd you have a wonderful DH bc I wanted to kick mine... it's so hard to be patient when you're MISERABLE and they just don't get it!

 

[goldstns]

its so weird (but awesome) that I can feel her body parts in my belly (when I touch my belly with my hand I can feel where she is)... but yet she is so far away. UGH can't wait to meet her! I love her already!

 

[Cowgirl07]

Nikki-Jan 14 is my dad's birthday!!

 

[goldstns]

my doc is thinks Jan 10th... but could be on your dad's bday!!

 

[wavescrash]

Waves-Your belly looks so tight, does it feel tight?...I love how your belly button kind of points upward lol

Not yet, fortunately but it will definitely be feeling that way before long. In my previous pregnancies, it got so tight and uncomfortable. I have a short torso so baby really has nowhere to go but out and carrying low? Ugh... I'm dreading it lol.


In unrelated news, OH and I have decided to postpone the wedding due to financial reasons. There's no way in the next 7 months, with our current financial situation, we can move out & buy tons of new baby stuff (new crib, double stroller, new monitors, breast pump, dresser), completely foot the bill of a wedding & support 3 kids as well as buy the minivan we're going to need (our Ford Focus will not fit 2 car seats & an 8 year old in the back seat, especially if we have to go grocery shopping or something like that.) A wedding can wait... nothing about the relationship will change other than we're going to be fiance's longer but who really cares? I don't want to make sacrifices on things that are important to me (even if they are silly like the details of my wedding.) And I definitely don't want my kids to go without so I could have the wedding I wanted or upgrade our vehicle to make us all fit comfortably, you know? And hey... that's 1 extra year of the tax credit for the kids lol. If we were married, we'd have to file our taxes "Married filing separately" because they take my tax return for student loans and I don't want them to take ALL of both of our returns, so we'd file separately but in doing so (while married) you forfeit any tax credits. Well that would be the year we could claim Leah AND Hannah & given our financial situation, we could use that extra so whatever... postponing the wedding is something we feel is the best option for us at this time. Our kids still have both of us in their lives, together, so no big deal really.

I'm going to ask our wedding photographer if we can use the deposit we made to cover a maternity photoshoot instead (the deposit is the same cost as a session with her) and then with our tax return this coming year, get a family session with her once Leah arrives. And then we wouldn't have to drop another $2100 on the wedding photographer with our upcoming tax return like we were going to have to and could instead use that toward a better minivan than we would have otherwise gotten.

So there's that.

 

[Disneybaby26]

Amazing how it grows Waves!! Love it!

And Kara- How long is your maternity leave?? & are you going to pump for the sitter?

Speaking of breastfeeding... are you girls going to try? I def know my milk comes in so I plan on it haha.. but wondering how long I'll be able to put up with a baby on my boob every 3 hrs lol. It will be tough. I also recommend that you buy an ELECTRIC DOUBLE pump vs. a hand pump. With having to feed so frequently when they're little by the time you pump (lots of milk and 2 boobs) and feed them, it's time to pump again! Haha that will be #1 on my registry.

Ill be taking 12 weeks off from work and definitely plan on breast feeding and then will be pumping for the sitter. My insurance covers a double electric pump for free! Just have to call 3months before due date and order it!

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

My insurance company denied my prescription for Zofran. Tell me how when every pregnant person I know takes it? SO PISSED.

 

[wavescrash]

WTF? Did they give a reason?

Morgan - could you just mail her your leftovers?

 

[Disneybaby26]

What the hell britt, that's really weird!! How much is it if you just paid cash for it??

 

[jury3]

Waves-Sounds like a good plan! You have to do what you have to do...I completely understand bc we are pretty stressed about money especially with having two.

Britt-I hate ginger too...I hated every ginger product I bought. The only thing I could handle were the ginger pills. Have you tried those?
I agree about sipping ice water. I also liked sherbet.
I wonder why they need prior authorization...that doesn't even makes sense! How ridiculous! I think my zofran was a dollar something after insurance.

Morgan-I definitely plan on breastfeeding and then pumping/breastfeeding when I go back to work. I'm looking into lactation consultants to help me out, especially bc I'll have two little babes to feed. I agree, it's free and the healthiest choice...I'm not opposed to formula if we need it, but I'll at least by trying my best!

Sonia-So jealous you'll get to be a stay at home mom...If we didn't need the money, I would be all over that! lol

Nikki-That's so awesome you can feel her! I can't wait to see her!

Kara-That's awesome! I think someone is giving us a pump, but I'll have to check my insurance and see if they offer anything...