TTC and Beyond!

[goldstns]

I'm glad u all r having this bf talk. IV almost felt like a bad person not loving bfing. I'm getting used to it, but still don't love it. I think there r two hard things for me...one, it can be painful at the nipple, however that has gone away mostly and two, IV been having issues being sooo needed every time she's hungry. I feel so bad about the second one because she's a baby and I knew what I was getting into. Well the 25 hour formula feed helped both of those things. I don't hurt anymore after giving the nips a break and I realized its ok if I need to run an errand and dh needs to bottle feed her, weather its out of my big breastmilk stock up in freezer or formula shell get food and that's all that matters.i think for me to succeed in breastfeeding I'll have to take 24 hr breaks every so often like that. Even some night breaks so dh can do night shift and let me sleep. I decided not to get down on myself about that and know we r doing our best.

as for nipple bleeding/cracking... Thank goodness and I haven't had this issue, but at least once a day I put on nipple cream. Let me know if u wanna know the brand and I'll let u know, but its great!

 

[wavescrash]

Glad to hear it's getting better for you Nikki It's far from easy (in my opinion.) Nobody could ever really prepare you for what it's like. Like I mentioned, I'd never heard of cluster feeding until Hannah started doing it and I was so drained from being glued to the couch with a baby on my boob, not having eaten or showered since God only knows when...

I used Lanolin last time (religiously) and plan to get it again but I'm also going to try other creams/ointments this time as well because the cracked/bleeding nipples was like hell lol.

 

[wavescrash]

So the people that live in the apartment right next to ours totally have a little yappy dog & dogs aren't allowed in our apartment complex. Every night around this same late hour (2:30am) they take the dog out back to use the bathroom and have to walk past our door to get out so I get to hear them clamoring through the hall with their dog. And they're not exactly quiet neighbors. The walls are thick enough we don't hear them through there but if they're in the hallway? Ugh...

To make it more annoying, ever since we've moved in we've smelled pot every other day. Very strongly. To each their own but I don't enjoy MY apartment smelling like it or my kids smelling it. We thought it was the people that live across the hall from us but the lady next to us that has the dog just took her dog outside (walked past our door) and went back into her apartment and now MY apartment reeks of pot.

Ugh.

 

[brunettebimbo]

Glad it's getting better Nikki.

Cluster feeding can be awful, I didn't enjoy that bit at all, thank goodness for Lansinoh!

 

[brunettebimbo]

To make it more annoying, ever since we've moved in we've smelled pot every other day. Very strongly. To each their own but I don't enjoy MY apartment smelling like it or my kids smelling it. We thought it was the people that live across the hall from us but the lady next to us that has the dog just took her dog outside (walked past our door) and went back into her apartment and now MY apartment reeks of pot.

Ugh.

We have the same problem with our neighbours next door I've been round a couple of times! Seems to make no difference though. They are lovely people and OK neighbours I just wish they'd smoke less pot!

 

[wavescrash]

To make it more annoying, ever since we've moved in we've smelled pot every other day. Very strongly. To each their own but I don't enjoy MY apartment smelling like it or my kids smelling it. We thought it was the people that live across the hall from us but the lady next to us that has the dog just took her dog outside (walked past our door) and went back into her apartment and now MY apartment reeks of pot.

Ugh.

We have the same problem with our neighbours next door I've been round a couple of times! Seems to make no difference though. They are lovely people and OK neighbours I just wish they'd smoke less pot!

We had the same problem at our old apartment with our downstairs neighbor. She and her boyfriend were very loud. Their bedroom was below ours and we heard them having sex ALL the time, so loud. To the point where I'd bang on the floor to try & get them to shut up. They constantly slammed their door, rattling things in our apartment. Always smoking pot and it filling up the entire building.

Apparently they were complained about a lot because when we first went to the office about them, they knew exactly who we were talking about without us saying much at all. The apartment couldn't do anything about the pot though because it was in this girl's "home" so we called the cops on a few occasions but unless the person opens the door and lets the cops enter the unit & they see it in plain sight, they can't do anything about it either which is so annoying.

However... realizing they're the same people that own the little dog, I wonder if I can get them kicked out or at least in trouble with the office. Like I said - to each their own but I'm just sick of my apartment reeking of it and my kids having to inhale it on a regular basis.

 

[brunettebimbo]

I totally get that. It makes me angry!

 

[frsttimemama]

Thanks for all the input on breastfeeding. I still have a long time to decide, thankfully. We will see what happens.

On another note, I'm not sure if it's too early, but ugh I feel lousy this morning. Like on the edge of puking. Bleh. I hope this doesn't stick around. I don't know if it's MS, something I ate, or what but not so nice.

 

[MrsAmk]

Hey girls, have any of you been suffering at all with SPD (symphysis pubic dysfunction)? Lately I notice my pelvis/crotch KILLS when I get up in the morning, like it feels super bruised like I was kicked really hard in the crotch/thighs. Ugh, I kind of remember feeling this with Silas, but it wasn't until at least 33 weeks. Not sure what to do. I dont want to stop doing yoga, but wondering if thats exasperating (sp?) it? OW!!

 

[wavescrash]

Yep second pregnancy with SPD. It's the reason I'm not working anymore.

 

[wavescrash]

Ugh okay... I know I have my fair share of pregnancy complaints but I swear the girls in my March due date club are in some unspoken competition to see who has the worst/most miserable pregnancy. Every day someone posts something new insisting something is wrong with the baby and they all swear they're going to go early because of this, that or the other. It's so depressing to login and read the newest comments or in the FB group they created lol.

 

[MrsAmk]

Yep second pregnancy with SPD. It's the reason I'm not working anymore.

I wish I were not working; this sitting all day bs sucks! What are you doing for your SPD?

 

[wavescrash]

Yep second pregnancy with SPD. It's the reason I'm not working anymore.

I wish I were not working; this sitting all day bs sucks! What are you doing for your SPD?

I was on my feet all day walking around, that sucked too lol. I've been off work since Christmas because of it. I'm not doing much but waiting to not be pregnant anymore. I sleep with a pillow between my knees and try to be careful how I get in and out of bed/the car, etc by keeping my knees together. They say to sit down to put your pants and such on instead of standing and raising 1 leg at a time. You can get a maternity girdle to help take some of the weight/pressure off your pelvis. A few months ago my OB gave me Vicodin which took the edge off but it's too late in my pregnancy to continue taking it. You can do a heating pad down there so long as you avoid your bump itself (I'd put it between my legs if I used it.) Tylenol for pain. Seeing a chiropractor or physical therapist is supposed to help as well.

 

[jury3]

I might have SPD, but I haven't talked to my doc about it. It was really bad for 2 days and has gone away a little. Every now and again I feel it coming back a little. The first day was the worst, I could barely walk.

Nikki-I would like to know what brand you are using please. And I think you are completely right, you have to do what is best for you and for baby. As long as baby is getting food, then that's what really matters. If you are all stressed out about feedings, then that can't be good for her, so a break can help both of you!

So, on Monday both babies were kicking and moving like crazy. Yesterday, Grayson was moving like crazy, but I don't remember feeling much from Olivia. I know she elbowed me or something at one point and it hurt, but I don't remember much other than that. I started paying attention last night to her movements and haven't felt much. I even tried putting my phone on my belly which usually gets them both kicking...Grayson was kicking/punching at it, but nothing from Olivia.
So, I called doc and they want me to drink a glass of oj and then monitor movement for an hour. After that they said to call back and see what my doc wants to do. I don't know why but it really upset me that they didn't just have me come in. Like, started crying when I got off the phone upset...I think she made me feel silly bc she made a comment about not feeling all of their movements. No duh lady, I know they move all the time and I don't feel all of it...the point is that I have been feeling them move like crazy and been feeling kicks and elbowings everyday from both of them and now I'm worried bc she hasn't moved as much.
Maybe I'm over reacting, I'm sure it's nothing. Going to get my oj now since we don't have any in the house...

 

[wavescrash]

Good luck Julie. Hopefully she's just sleeping/going through a growth spurt or turned in such a way that her movements are muffled. L&D told me to put something that vibrates on my belly when I'm having trouble feeling Leah move. Said they hate the feeling and almost always react to it. That's what they do when monitoring you for reduced movements sometimes... have a little device that sends a small vibration to annoy the baby and get them to move. She specifically asked if I had a vibrator which I found a little weird lol.

 

[jury3]

Lol maybe I'll go grab a vibrator out of the drawer and see if that works! Usually just my cell phone works though. Within seconds of putting it on my belly they will both start hitting it. Today it was just him. I'm trying not to worry, but even after finding out they were both breech and facing my back last week, I still felt all kinds of movements from them. So, that bothers me. I know she's moving, bc I've felt a few little things just not the big movements like usual.

 

[frsttimemama]

I had some sciatic pain last time, but luckily thats all.

Julie, totally get it. Coke would probably work too. Keep us posted! !

Waves, that would be such a downer. I'm avoiding the first tri boards because they scared me last time.

So I called triage to ask about a scan because of the twin risk. The lady said no scan until 18-20 weeks, that they might do a bedside ultrasound because I asked, and talk to my doctor. I don't think so! I can't wait for my doctor to get back. I need to see how many babies are in there and that they have heartbeats and everything is ok! I need to see that the cord is ok. I could slap the triage lady, just blowing ne off. If she only knew.. come walk in my shoes for a minute. A scan is such an easy way to put my mind at ease. I'm thinking of calling back to ask to talk to the doctor's nurse.

 

[RobertRedford]

holy moly so much to catch up on.

ASh, so sorry for the situation that your sister is in. i hope everything works out for her (and the baby, should she keep it). And, I don't think you have to worry about all the other babies stealing Lux's thunder.

Rachel, I'm so impressed with your thrifiness. I would have never really considered looking on FB swaps for stuff like that. I do know that when (if) I ever get preggo, I'll look on Craigslist, etc. for the stroller I want. No way I'm paying full price ($1,000!) for it!

I can't wait to meet all of the babes and keep up with you all once they're here!

back to work, busy busy busy but I'll try to catch up more later.

 

[Disneybaby26]

Julie- I'm had panic stricken moments like that too! I'm sure everything is fine but the nurse shouldn't just blow you off like that! I hope the OJ (or vibrator) help put your mind at ease! Xx

Sandy- same to you! Wtf is up with these nurses! I'd be calling back and telling them they are going to do a scan instead of asking! Totally sucks and feels bitchy but ya gotta be your own advocate sometimes! Hope they'll schedule you much sooner!

Ash-how are you feeling about the sister sitch today? Have you felt anymore movement from Lux?

 

[morganwhite7]

Molly- I sit at a desk all day too and OUCH! I can't imagine with SPD.. my back and bottom and hips, EVERYTHING, just aches from this stupid chair that (it seems) I live in during the week.

Waves- I also dislike my due date thread.. They are very whiney about NOTHING! Worrying about little things that don't matter in terms of baby needs. They all have every ailment in the book and want pregnancy to end etc. etc.. I don't know why I haven't unsubscribed (seems as if they're the ONLY April thread?) but yeah I only chime in every so often bc they are too much for me lolol.

Julie- I bet a vibrator would work great! FX'd little Olivia is just having a growth spurt.. I know they do right around 24-26 weeks!

Sandy- OMG! Put on your big girl pants and say HEY YOU LISTEN HERE! Haha seriously, tell them about the cord and risk of twins, etc. PUSH for it! That is unheard of... I mean not even a viability scan?! Bologna! If they say no, go to the ER or call the OB back in a day or two and say you're bleeding