TTC and Beyond!

[Lotalaughs16]

I would call, I know you don't want to go back to L&D but if you feel like something is off then I wouldn't hesitate to call.

 

[wavescrash]

Hey ladies, I know I dont post a lot, but I read every day when I can at work. Usually cant write much with a supervisor that sits right next to me. Anyway I am 29 weeks now, and definetely notice a decrease in movement in general.....should I be going in or is it normal? I know babies have their quiet days, but I have been up since 430am and havent felt him yet (its almost 830 here). I have had a fruit smoothie that was cold, full of sugar, and still havent. I am a wreck, but don't wanna go into L&D again just yet! I have gone twice already in two weeks for pressure and contractions. I have had numerous BH already, which is daily for me.

I forget exactly when but it was something around 29-32 weeks, Leah had a period of decreased movement which I assume correlated with a growth spurt. I've read that babies aren't ever supposed to slow down in their movement, even during a growth spurt but Hannah & Leah both definitely did. One of the last times I went to L&D for decreased movement, I was told to lay on my left side with ice cold water for an hour and count kicks. If I didn't get much in that first hour, wait a little longer (1-2 hours) and try again. If still nothing, then call to be monitored. As they get older/bigger, their sleep/wake cycles in there change up a bit so while they normally were once active at 8am, now they may not be and their active period may be 11am.

And in the last few weeks, I remember every early afternoon (around 12-1pm) I'd say to myself "OMG I HAVEN'T FELT HER MOVE ALL DAY" and start panicking and then sure enough, she'd start moving lol.

Another suggestion given to me to stimulate movement is to put something that vibrates on your belly. It startles the baby and they don't like it so they tend to react/move in response. The midwife I saw for one of my appts suggested that. During an NST in the hospital, if baby isn't moving as much as they'd like after drinking ice water, sometimes they put something on the belly that sends a little "buzz" or vibrate every so often to try to get baby to move. So maybe the vibrate on your phone or if you can get your hands on an electric toothbrush (the midwife asked if I had a vibrator lol.)

Good luck!

 

[goldstns]

I would go in to l & d.

rachel- keep going babe. And go way past the let down. I was pumping yesterday while distracted working on my computer , to learn that I have 2 let downs. Only way I found out is cuz I wasn't paying attention and was connected to the pump for 30 min and the other let down happened. So even when u stop releasing milk stay on for a while. Even if u don't get another let down you will at least be telling your body you need more milk. Also drink lots of water and eat oatmeal, if you can.

 

[goldstns]

Mrsamk- honestly I'm sure baby is fine. I had the same thing when she went head down and faced my back. I couldn't feel kicks anymore. However, my doc said no matter what, if u don't get 10 kicks / 2 hr come in. .... So I'm sure baby is fine, but id go in. No point in risking it because of something is wrong it could be serious and we (on the tread) can't determine that via the internet/your info. And even though we may have experienced the same thing it could mean different things.

 

[Cowgirl07]

Molly I would go see what's up.
Rachel I hate those, I hope you feel better soon. Glad your little girl is doing so well
Amanda your craving those cracks me up. Yuck
Mirolee isn't today the day? Boy vote for me.
Afm after feeling rather crappy last night and like an awful person today is a new day. I ovulated I guess, I'm not fully convinced but I'm not good at it anyway. We will be moving cattle later today so I'll be busy.

 

[wavescrash]

The best news today is that DH bought me a new car as a push present. Hell to the yeah! I asked for a pandora bracelet but this is faaaaar better. Loaded to the max. I can't wait for summer so I can cool my ass off with the seat cooler lol

I saw that... SO JEALOUS! But so awesome. You deserve it mama

Ugh I hate pumping. My milk supply blows. Pretty sure my boobs are shriveling up. I only got 20cc at 2:30 and 35cc at 4:30 and I didn't bf her at all before either pumping

Not sure what advice you've been given but if you can get your hands on steel cut oats (as opposed to just quick oatmeal) & add flax to it, that is supposed to help supply. I can give you a recipe someone in my due date club shared for lactation cookies. It calls for brewer's yeast which is supposed to do wonders for supply (as is drinking a beer due to the yeast in it.) Among many other things.

Just some advice shared in our due date group, in case something is new info for you. Sorry if it's all stuff you've heard before

"Lots of water, fenugreek 3x a day, try cluster pumping and make sure your feeding or pumping at least once between 1am and 4am"

And the cookie recipe: https://m.allrecipes.com/recipe/232191/lactation-cookies

Waves, can't say it enough how CUTE Leah is and the pic of Hannah and Autumn holding her is precious

Thank you


Late to the party but regarding showering together: we used to shower together all the time when I was pregnant with Hannah and after she was born, up until I got pregnant with Leah & we moved into my parent's house. At first, OH was completely against the idea as he'd never showered with any previous girlfriends so he thought it was weird, but one day he finally decided to try it because I had been asking for awhile and he enjoyed it. We've had sex in the shower a small handful of times but it's pretty hard because I'm so much shorter than he is. I don't think we'll be showering together much now that we have both Leah & Hannah - unless they're at my mom's being babysat or something and I don't see that happening all too often lol.

One of the ladies in my due date club posted this last night: "Ruby was put in her Moses basket abiding by all the sleep safe rules to reduce cot death. Twice she made a wet noise like she was being sick but on checking nothing and she was super settled. I looked over one last time just before I was about to turn my lamp off and go to sleep to see milk running from her nose, her mouth open and full of milk and her eyes in the back of her head. She made NO noise! I grabbed her slung her over my knee and tried to get her going again. Ruby didnt breathe for a full minute and went gray. I got her going by clearing her airways and holding her upside down. We got bluelighted to hospital where she passed all checks and thankfully had not aspirated any."

How scary is that???!!!?!? I had decided that I would nurse Leah for her 8:30 feeding and then give her a bottle for her 11:30 feeding. But then my friend posted that and I panicked about her having formula and then us all going to sleep and her spitting up in her sleep but I wouldn't be awake to notice it. So I nursed her through the night and started this morning with the bottle.

OH fed her and when he sat her up to burp her, she just looked at me confused like she couldn't understand why she wasn't on my boob eating. I know she likely couldn't actually see me since I wasn't sitting close enough but still... I felt guilty. I don't want to get into all of it because I really don't know how to explain what I'm thinking/feeling regarding breastfeeding vs bottle feeding. And everyone telling me to just suck it up and keep breastfeeding is only making the guilt worse. I know the guilt will go away shortly --- it did when I stopped breastfeeding Hannah but it just sucks in the meantime. BF is a complete mental thing and I just can't battle it.

 

[morganwhite7]

Woah missed a lot lastnight! Lol you guys are funny.. shower sex blows bc I am clumsy and likely to fall and break my ass, I'd rather relax in bed lol.

Anywaysss.. Had an appt/ultrasound/NST this morning and Marley is estimated to weigh 6 lbs 2 oz!!! That is more than her big brother (5 lb 6 oz on March 29th)! Wowza, I hope she comes soon. More contractions registered, but nothing significant. Also, getting my cervix checked at the next check up in 2 weeks! I can't wait to hear.. also- I've been taking EPO orally since lastnight! So ready for this girl! After my shower in 2 weeks, I swear, I am onto operation: Marley eviction and packing my bags!!

Molly- I would go in.. but my babe definitely had a quiet period around there too.. maybe an NST?

Mirolee- What time will you KNOW?!?! I'm so excited. DH's sister just found out that she's having a boy, we went to their 4D. I think you are too

Katrina- You O'd it looks like! Get that new thermometer lol.. You have higher chances this month than any of the past ones bc of the HSG.. and if not, next month the femara!

BB- I hope you feel better soon love.

Nikki- How cool, I didn't know you have 2 let downs!

Waves- It is OK, you tried! I just saw a thing on national news the other night about how there is NO different/benefits to breastmilk or formula with how advanced it is now. The only difference is the bond. She will be a-okay just like Hannah.. don't feel bad!!! P.s. holy crap that excerpt about her turning gray is SCARY.. jeesh lol. I am not going to sleep for a month I don't think.

 

[MrsAmk]

Thank you ladies. I just felt him for the first time today. Would you still go in if its a lot less than 10 movements in an hour or two? I felt hiccups a little bit ago. And so of course I also worry about cord issues!

 

[wavescrash]

Waves- It is OK, you tried! I just saw a thing on national news the other night about how there is NO different/benefits to breastmilk or formula with how advanced it is now. The only difference is the bond. She will be a-okay just like Hannah.. don't feel bad!!! P.s. holy crap that excerpt about her turning gray is SCARY.. jeesh lol. I am not going to sleep for a month I don't think.

Thanks dear She's due for another feeding and to be honest, I'm going to breastfeed her. I already miss that little connection of having her nursing lol. I'm wondering if maybe combi-feeding would work better for us as it's still nursing most of the time but I can still get the occasional break. I just don't know how it's all going to play out once Hannah's home for good (right now it's not a huge deal if I'm glued to the couch all day because I don't have to tend to her needs.) I don't know. I really just don't know lol.

 

[Ingodshand]

Amanda- Great first beta number! My RE told me anything over 50 at 14DPO is really good.. you are perfect!!

Julie- You look great! Can not believe those babies are getting so big and strong! I really hope Olivia has flipped for you!

Mirolee- Love the bump!

Kara- That must be so scary to hear about the late loss cases. I would have been a mess too. Are you feeling better? Maybe the baby dropped and that is why you are feeling the extra pressure?

Rachel- Sorry you had to deal with a crappy doctor. Some just don’t get it. Why do they have to give her formula? Can they use donate breast milk? Can you try to pump while in the nursery with Ellie? I think being with your baby or at least looking at a picture of her can help with supply. Awesome present!!!

Katrina- Yay for femara!!! I know it will work for you!

Waves- Please do not feel so guilty about the breastfeeding. You are doing the best you can.

Morgan- Yay for little Marley!!

Shower sex- Not a fan!

AFM- Still can not believe we are full term! Been having some light cramping today so maybe something will get going soon!

 

[jury3]

I think the article was saying that there are not really any long term differences for the child between bottle feeding and breastfeeding, meaning breastfeeding isn't more likely to produce a genius than bottle feeding. The short term benefits are still there like the nutrition and immune boost. It's also still supposed to help lower chances of cancer in the mother as well.
That being said, Waves, you have done your best to make sure she's been getting your milk in her first week of life. That means she's already been getting that immune boost from you. If it doesn't work for you, it doesn't work for you. Of course we encourage you to try a little longer, like I said the other day I just don't want you to regret it if you give up too easily. However, that's coming from someone who has never had a child/breastfed. You know what's best for you and for Leah. If you are too stressed, then it's not going to be good for either one of you. Do what you gotta do girl! No matter what you decide, you know we are here to support you.

As far as movement, I was told to drink juice and then lay on my side for an hour, only focusing on baby movements. They wanted at least 5 movements in that hour. Olivia likes to scare me but always meets the 5 movements goal. Usually later that day or the next day she gets crazy again lol If she didn't meet the 5 or she didn't pick up movement again shortly, I would rather go in to be safe.

We have a guy here right now stretching and cleaning our carpets. After our basement flooded last spring, we still hadn't gotten the carpet stretched back or cleaned. We figured this would be a good time to do it, tax money and before babies! lol I'm excited to see how good it looks when he's done! We also got our mattresses and dresser for the babies yesterday, so we are going to do all that tonight. It's all starting to come together!

 

[HWPG]

hi all!
my appt is at 2pm EST - but my drs always run behind, and i have to tell family first, so please be patient (you guys always are )
for lunch i had cran-grape juice and a brownie, so hoping i'll get to see and feel some movement, but also hoping i didnt overdo it and we wont get a good money shot. we'll see! i'm pretty excited over here, so apologies for not responding to other people's posts. thanks for all the love and support; you guys are the best

 

[RobertRedford]

busy at work so I can't really catch up! but, Mirolee, cant wait to hear!! I still vote boy!

 

[jury3]

I can't wait to hear Mirolee! I don't think we are patient at all...we just don't have a choice! lol I don't think I ever said it but my vote is boy also!

 

[clynn11]

I vote boy also! I cannot wait until you find out!!! So so exciting! I'm going to laugh if it's a girl, only because this thread is SO DOMINATED by little girlies it's insane!!! Lol. I'm so stoked for you! Such an exciting day

 

[wavescrash]

Thanks for the support and advice ladies I nursed her this last feeding but I think I'm ok with just switching to bottles. My other girls turned out okay and don't hate me for not breastfeeding them (for long). Leah will be okay no matter which method I choose. For the most part BF is okay but ultimately it does stress me out and once Hannah's here, I would be even more stressed if I were glued to the couch with Leah nursing while Hannah needed tended to (which she does, often, because she's a little trouble maker).

Good luck Mirolee - I vote boy as well.

 

[Lotalaughs16]

Waves, you gave it a good try. My mom never BF me or my 2 sisters...not even the colostrum (sp?) and (I think) we turned out fine!

 

[RobertRedford]

Anyone else crazy bloated at 4.5 weeks?

For all the preggos who have not gotten a gift (or those who already had their babes and I slacked) Can you please PM me your address? Will be sending gifts this weekend

Im talking to you Waves, Rachel, Britt, Kara, Sarah, Julie, etc!

If you're uncomfortable with giving out your address, lmk and I will find a way to get you a gift

Also, if you want to join in on the gift giving, send me a message! If you're tight on funds but would like to join in, lmk, we can make it work. Its not about the money at all, its always the thought that counts!

 

[clynn11]

Yes! I was so bloated like, immediately after finding out. And it only gets worse! Lol.

 

[goldstns]

Just to be different .. I vote girl for mirolee