TTC and Beyond!

[goldstns]

Rachel- I will not be douching...thx! Do you think instant oatmeal would do the trick? IV been doing real oatmeal.

 

[frsttimemama]

I'm really glad that I felt baby bubbles for the first time today. It helped with today being 9 months since our little man was born and left.

 

[clynn11]

Sandy

 

[Cowgirl07]

Hugs Sandy!

 

[goldstns]

Hugs sandy. Baby is just yelling you your little boy is watching over you all.

 

[Disneybaby26]

Hugs sandy! Xx

Rachel- tell me more about this soap...

Went to work after the doc this morning. The hospital was only taking emergencies-so after they made me panic they told me they couldn't see me until tomorrow. So my appt is 10am tomorrow. Thank you all so much for your support today. Such a lovely group of ladies-I feel very lucky to have you all to talk to. Xo

 

[frsttimemama]

Kara, that's crazy! At least they made you feel better in telling you that you can wait til tomorrow!

Thanks ladies! Hubby and I ended the day arguing about my work. (I hate it because we rarely argue; we almost always get along!) I have to work a crazy midnight 13 hour shift tomorrow night and he's pissed to say the least. He's worried bout how it's going to affect me, my sugars, my diet, the baby, and all of that. I know he's scared that something is going to happen to me because I almost died when we had our son.. he lost so much that night, and he almost lost us both. I can't even begin to imagine how hard that was for him. I only lost my son.. but I need him to understand that this is just something that happens sometimes. :/ I will be fine. He thinks I'm so much more fragile this time around. I'm not, but it makes me more nervous that he's obviously more nervous. He just won't admit it. I feel bad for making him worry. Just ugh.

 

[Cowgirl07]

I'm sorry Sandy arguing sucks! What line of work are you in?

 

[wavescrash]

Amanda waves- How's home life with the baby outside your belly?! Lol. Is Hannah being good with her?

Waves- thinking of you! Saw you've been having a tough go with Hannah being home. I hope she adjusts quickly and is a little easier on you

Thanks Home life is hectic and beyond stressful lately. Doesn't help that both girls have colds and I feel like I'm starting to develop a cold myself. Hannah's being the worst 2 year old I think there ever was. She literally throws a tantrum all day long. She doesn't listen to a single thing we say/ask. She's very defiant. Literally testing her limits all the time. It's so exhausting. I don't know what to do with her anymore. I'm constantly chasing after her while holding the baby to get something away from her or get her out/off of something. I really think I need to see my doctor for anxiety meds because I don't know what else to do. Hannah's clearly not going to change anytime soon. Nothing we try works so I don't know.

Fortunately my Grandma decided today that she wants to take Hannah again from Saturday to Wednesday to help me out. I feel bad because Hannah is a total brat anymore and I don't want to put that on my Grandma but she offered and she doesn't take "no" for an answer that well.

I just feel like I'm at my wit's end with Hannah. We literally spend half our day yelling at her or giving her a spanking/smack on the hand and I hate it. I know that's not helping her behavior any and we need to find new methods to deal and react but in the heat of the moment when she's grinding on that last nerve all day long, it's hard to take a minute to breathe and react appropriately. And at this point, I don't even know WHAT would be most appropriate to react with.

And I'm tired of people making excuses for her behavior, "She's 2! It's normal." or "She's just jealous of the lack of attention." Um no... we give her the same amount if not MORE attention than before Leah was here. "She's just adjusting." No... she was like this BEFORE the baby was here. Why can't people just accept when I say my child is a brat and has behavioral issues? She's not too cute to be a little snot lol.

Sarah-So funny that your doc says that stuff doesn't work but nipple stimulation does...I've also heard that nipple stimulation doesn't really help lol

Nipple stimulation releases a hormone (oxytocin?) which can kick start contractions. However it can produce contractions that are TOO strong which could put the baby in distress.

Hope Olivia finds the space to flip.

ugh all 3 of us a sick with a cold and sore throat... Thank you daycare!

Hannah got a cold last week and gave it to Leah a couple days ago. I woke up this morning feeling one coming on myself and OH said his throat feels a little scratchy too. It sucks because Hannah's being a total pain making it near impossible to keep up with wiping the endless amount of snot she's producing (she runs from us when we try to wipe her nose or smears it across her face/everything else/her hair) and then Leah, we can't do anything for her other than use the NoseFrieda to help with the snot and a vaporizer to help with congestion. I never get sick so when I do, it hits me like a ton of bricks so I'm hoping to nip it in the bud before it can fully develop. I stocked us up on more Boogie Wipes, cold meds (for me and OH), Vicks (we have baby Vicks for Leah already), that soothing vapor stuff for the kids to put in the bath to help with congestion & cough drops lol. Hope you guys feel better.


Thanks to anyone else who asked about me/us. It's been way too hectic to get on here and really respond. I read while I can on my phone when feeding Leah but I can't really type on my phone 1-handed and barely have time on my laptop anymore. So sorry if I missed anything important.

 

[Cowgirl07]

Amanda I don't know if this will work for you but my friends three year old was having major issues behavior wise. She was at her wits end and tried chiropractic help and it worked. It's just a suggestion.

 

[wavescrash]

Amanda I don't know if this will work for you but my friends three year old was having major issues behavior wise. She was at her wits end and tried chiropractic help and it worked. It's just a suggestion.

I've heard of that working before. I would totally be willing to give it a try.

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

Rachel - I get it! DH and I are only DTD maybe once a month.. LOL. I can't wait to have sex NOT pregnant.

Amanda- I agree with the other ladies. I think I would want another US before immediately going forward with a d&c. I mean, doctors never seem to know what's going on and are too fast to push us to do something. I've never MC'ed but does MS usually hang around afterwards? Ugh. I can't imagine. It's got to be confusing!!

Sandy- I'm so sorry you and DH had a fight. I'm sure he is just extremely worried about you. Hope things get better!

afm - i'm sick. I'm not really sure what it is, but i'm miserable. I'm snotty, can't breathe, my head hurts and i'm just wiped out. Pregnancy is just an ongoing set of ailments,but I couldn't be happier to be pregnant. Sometimes, I just need to complain about it. haha

 

[jury3]

Sandy-Yay for baby bubbles! I was starting to feel mine by that time which really surprised me. They say you feel them sooner with your 2nd, so I'm sure that's what's happening.

Katrina-I used to drink a 32oz tea from panera almost everyday, plus many times I would have soda that day too lol I've always been a big tea drinker.

Brittany-Hazel, our stubborn one is part cocker spaniel. She loves to give me that innocent little cocker spaniel look, with the droopy eyes...kills me! We also do the "Hazel, go potty!" over and over bc she is so ADD! She's always sniffing or eating or looking around...just go already! I can't wait until we can afford a fenced in yard lol

Rachel-Photography prices are ridiculous! So many of them make you buy prints these days. We got really lucky with ours and we are paying $200 which includes a cd with printing rights. Plus she did a complimentary maternity shoot. Sometimes if you email different photographers and tell them you are just wanting a photo session and cd with printing rights you can find someone to do it cheaper. When we got legally married in NY I emailed around and told them I was looking for the best deal. Ended up finding an amazing photographer who gave us exactly what we wanted. They set their own prices, so sometimes you can get them to come down.

Amanda-I agree with the others, I would want either an u/s or my blood drawn again. It's strange that you are still having symptoms like that...

Nikki-Agree with the other ladies, no douching! I think it's better just to let your body do what it's gotta do.

I was wondering about the oatmeal thing too...does it matter instant vs dry oats? I need to check into this.

DW and I went on a last date night before babies are born. Went to The Melting Pot for some fondue. It was nice to sit and talk just the two of us. Crazy it won't just be us anymore!
My house is nice and clean now too, so that's such a relief! Now for the million other things on my to-do list lol

 

[goldstns]

Any of u at the point where you don't fit in a restaurant booth? I remember that!

dh and I think we are all sharing strep... I think we r doing a family doc visit tomorrow. Hopefully they'll swab us all at once.

 

[Cowgirl07]

Ugh sorry you guys are sick.
I'm off to work

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

Julie - Sounds like a nice date! I've never been to a Melting Pot, but I hear it's good!

Nikki- I'm sorry you are all sick! I hope they can see you all at one time tomorrow at the doctors office!

afm- Last night I woke up in the middle of the night with HORRIBLE pain in my stomach. It feels like gas pain (as opposed to muscle pain) and I can't move At ALL or I want to scream it hurts so bad. I can only lay on my left side. I tried to move to my back or my right side and it was awful. It's happened one other time and I thought maybe she was moving positions? but now i'm wondering if it's just a pregnancy thing? eventually it goes away and i'm able to go back to sleep.

 

[frsttimemama]

Nikki, that's awful! I hope it's not strep, but hopefully they can get you fixed up either way.

Julie, yay for clean houses! That's what I should be doing right now.. but I'm not. I've always heard you can feel movement sooner with your second, too, but I never really believed it. Now I do. I don't know if it's that I know what I'm feeling for or don't have an anterior placenta or both, but definitely bubbles! Feeling them again this morning when I'm siting up. Love it! Date night sounds lovely. I've never had fondue before.

Rachel, glad Ellie is doing so great.

Britt, hope you feel better soon! It's so hard to be sick when you're pregnant because you can't take much at all. Could it be something stretching from the way she is laying or moving? That sounds awful!

Amanda, I hope you hear back from your doctor soon! Waiting stinks so much!

Katrina, I'm a nurse in a nursing home. I'm a manager, and I have an office job about 70% of the time, but sometimes I have to help fill in on the floor like tonight, and lots of times, I will help with other things. It's nice to have that theoretical Monday - Friday job with no weekends and no holidays, but it's just theoretical.. it doesn't really happen that way. Lol.

Morgan, how are you feeling today?

Sarah, how are you?

I wish I liked lentils like you all. I just don't. I don't like the texture of them. I don't care for a grainy texture at all. I don't like any beans or peas except green beans and snow peas or the peas out of a can or frozen. I will eat great northern beans in ham and beans IF it's cooked outside over an open fire and it's thick and cooked way down, not soupy. I don't like cream of wheat. I don't like grits. Ugh. I hate being so picky!

Hubby was better after our disagreement. We don't fight. Like ever. So that definitely sucked. I know he's just worried. I haven't seen him cry in a long time, probably since a couple weeks after we buried our baby, but he cried last night (which completely broke my heart!) because he said he wasn't going to about lose me again because he'd already done it once and he'd already lost our little guy. (When my water broke, and his cord got ripped off, the placenta was pulled away from the wall of the uterus causing me to bleed a lot, too. They said I almost died, too. That was really hard for both of us, but especially him.) He'd be perfectly content if I just quit my job.. unfortunately that isn't feasible for us, and for the most part I like my job. Just not when I have to fill in a 13 hour midnight shift. I'd rather work a days/evenings 16 hour shift. So I got up with him for awhile, then I'm going to go back to bed in a little while and try to get some sleep today.. work tonight, get a nap in tomorrow, and get up and clean and do laundry. I'm going to try. We'll see how that works out for me. Ha. I'm trying to stick with usual diet and eating schedule, but I don't know how that will work.. I ate breakfast, I'll probably sleep through lunch, eat when I get up, and eat supper much later.. but I won't have a fasting sugar in the morning.. or a breakfast sugar because I will eat and go to bed. Ugh.

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

Aww Sandy, your poor DH. My DH says that is one of his worst fears..somehow losing me during childbirth. It really freaks him out.

I guess it could be her stretching, and maybe she's pushing on my stomach? I'm not sure but it's the most intense pain.

 

[morganwhite7]

Happy Hump Day!

Britt- I think you got it from me My cold is just now leaving, it's been almost a week. And at almost 36 weeks pregnant, being sick is NOT fun!! Also, those sound a lot like my contractions the last few nights.. horrible gas pain-like. Never know!

Waves- Oh my goodness she is just so cute, I showed DH that video you posted of her refusing to eat yesterday.. I don't know how you deal!! I think some kids are just LIKE THAT.. DH's brother has a now 3 year old who is the same way. Just wants to say no and not listen- alllll the time. Don't blame yourself at least.. I'm sorry it's so hard. I'd be asking for anxiety meds, too.

Julie- The MELTING POT... oh I am jealous! And also Panera tea.. mmm I miss green tea from there. Wonder if one would kill me? Lol. And glad you're finally getting ready for their arrival and feel a bit more prepared.. I feel like a nervous wreck with my shower being so late, I want to be ready now too!!

Nikki- LOL I was trying to open the door in the bathroom at work yesterday to get out and I had to turn sideways and shimmy my way through! Haha I imagine it was quite the sight.

Sandy- Feelin great today, thanks for asking!! I'm so sorry about DH's concern.. I can definitely see where he's coming from. I almost lost DH too in our accident and I have a whole different type of love for him now. Almost losing someone really puts things into perspective, and in a different way than when we lost our babies. You are still around and I'm sure he imagines life without you (like I do about my DH) and how things could have been so much worse. It really makes you worry and have a different love for them. I don't think I could ever lose/leave him after that, I just feel like it bound us together on a muchhhh deeper level.. and it hurts my feelings that he doesn't remember a thing, bc it really affected me. He has a love for you that you can't imagine, so try to understand that. Within reason though lol.. you do still have a life to get on with, can't live in a bubble forever!

AFM- I have on JEANS today for the first time since BFP!!! Lol. I got all dressed up so I don't feel like a fat cow/hobo who wears the same maxi skirts/leggings every week lol. It's nice. Marley is kicking the CRAP out of me though, she misses the stretchy pants today I think. Appt in the morning to check for dilation and I can't wait. Praying for some progress!!

 

[frsttimemama]

Morgan, I get what you are saying. After losing our baby, I can't imagine losing my husband. Like I seriously don't think I could go on with my life if that happened. The whole thing was so scary, and I know he just wants to protect me.. it's just hard to make him see that sometimes I don't have a choice. It isn't going to hurt me. I'm going to be exhausted, yes. I may miss a blood sugar, yes. But ultimately, it's not going to hurt me or cause harm. My jeans are tight on my belly, and my maternity jeans are just not quite needed yet. I love the in-between stage!