TTC and Beyond!

[morganwhite7]

LOL I can't imagine Julie, you are such a trooper!!! How long do you plan to work? The 2nd trimester is heavenly. 1st is sickly and miserable, and by the 3rd trimester the sciatic nerve pain, restlessness, heartburn, kicks in the ribs begin & you are just READY to have a BABY! Ahh or TWO!!

 

[morganwhite7]

Sorry to blow up the thread but wanted to suggest checking out Barnes & Noble girls who like to research growth every week. I went over the weekend and found 50 different pregnancy books with awesome real pics of baby development, lots of tips for moms, etc. Lol I love studying pregnancy. I can't imagine how I'll be when the REAL job of parenting comes along!!

 

[jury3]

Lol Morgan...yeah, two! It's crazy! I don't know how long I will work. At this point I'd love to stop now! lol However we need money...twins come around 35 weeks on average, so we'll have to see. Who know how I will be feeling. I've heard of some women going on bedrest as early at 25/26 weeks from preterm labor or bc of such bad pain, especially in the hips. Some women make it the whole pregnancy without bedrest though. I seriously can not freaking wait for the 2nd tri...hopefully my ms, exhaustion and some of my worry will go away lol

 

[jury3]

On the links at the bottom of this page (that say "The Perfect Pregnancy Diet" "Boy or Girl" etc), if you click on that, I found a page yesterday that says "The 6 phases of pregnancy" It was pretty funny. My favorite was #3 or #4 where it said something about having a cute bump, people can finally tell you're pregnant and not just fat, you have energy, ms is gone...that lasts for about 27 minutes lol Made me giggle

 

[BubsMom17]

Hi ladies!

We opted for all the chromosomal testing. Not because I would ever terminate, but having a special needs child would make a huge impact on our lives. One of us would have to be a stay-at-home parent, that is a definite. We would have to reevaulate our living situation and have to make decisions regarding our employment. We would want to research the best doctors in the field available to us. Plus in the delivery room when giving birth to a special needs baby, they have cardiac and respiratory specialist there to deal with baby immediately after delivery.

So just saying... knowing you have a special needs child isn't just a matter of termination or not.

 

[jury3]

Morgan-I used to go and sit in Barnes and Noble for hours looking at those books! The one with the real life pictures of development is my favorite

 

[BubsMom17]

My favorite was #3 or #4 where it said something about having a cute bump, people can finally tell you're pregnant and not just fat, you have energy, ms is gone...that lasts for about 27 minutes lol Made me giggle

^ ^ This! LOL!!!!

 

[jury3]

Emily-True true! Although, I don't completely agree with someone having to stay home with a child with disabilities. Only bc lots of my parents both work or are even single parents who work. There are daycares and such that will care for them. It is definitely a major life change though. They can test whatever they want on me, I just cannot let them put that huge needle in my belly and risk anything happening! That scares me too much lol

 

[BubsMom17]

Emily-True true! Although, I don't completely agree with someone having to stay home with a child with disabilities. Only bc lots of my parents both work or are even single parents who work. There are daycares and such that will care for them. It is definitely a major life change though. They can test whatever they want on me, I just cannot let them put that huge needle in my belly and risk anything happening! That scares me too much lol

Oh I agree. You don't HAVE to stay home because you have a special needs child. That was a decision we just made as a family, that that would be our choice.

 

[morganwhite7]

My sciatic nerve pain started again this morning when trying to shave in the shower.. Hopefully none of you guys have that issue, it's like a terrible sharp pain radiating down your leg, ouch! I've also been having some serious pulling/stretching feelings in my lower belly and it is hard as a rock now! Idk if it will last but I'm liking the feeling of the start of a bump!

When did you girls start feeling your bump or things starting to move around down there?

 

[Disneybaby26]

Emily-True true! Although, I don't completely agree with someone having to stay home with a child with disabilities. Only bc lots of my parents both work or are even single parents who work. There are daycares and such that will care for them. It is definitely a major life change though. They can test whatever they want on me, I just cannot let them put that huge needle in my belly and risk anything happening! That scares me too much lol

I don't blame you at all for that!! I get amnio samples everyday and they are supposed to be all nice and clear looking (like pee). So many of them come in blood tinged or worse and it so unsettling, like what was the doctor doing?! Sometimes we cant even run the right tests because the sample is bloody! We always say at work that if any of us ever had to get one done we would ask to see the tubes after they drew the fluid for sure!!

I was actually kind of taken back when the new OB had me sign something declining the amnio...I mean I've only had one MC and it was a trisomy but there is much less invasive testing. The first tri screen is just some bloodwork and a measurement of the back of the babies neck on ultrasound, and even if that shows something questionable there is a MaterniT21 test that I can do now that will show anueploidies of chromosomes 13,18, and 21. That's also just a simple blood test that actually screen the fetal cells that free float throughout the mothers blood!! Which I think is just so cool bc you actually have your babies DNA all mixed in with yours already which is just WILD!! Science nerd alert!!

I loooooove going to Barnes and Nobles for anything - I'm going to have to go check this preggo section out I think!!

 

[Disneybaby26]

On a related note - if you're in for a good cry, check this out...a very very touching story. Made me cry like a baby, partly because it very honest and sweet, and partly because I just CANNOT wait for DH to be a daddy and have daddy thoughts and feelings.

https://www.bing.com/videos/search?...&mid=2BF31CD8F6F6B96EB94D2BF31CD8F6F6B96EB94D

I have a cousin with Down Syndrome, who is the sweetest little girl and the most amazing special Olympics swimmer you will ever meet!!

DH and I would never terminate a trisomy 21 pregnancy, but we would like to know in advance in order to be prepared. The other two syndromes the first tri screen covers (trisomy 13 and 18) aren't just babies with disabilities. The syndromes are essentially incompatible with life and although the babies can be carried to term, they pass within a few days/months of birth and that is definitely something that we have discussed and would want to be aware of. Many many of my patients at work still choose to carry the baby to term. Every single pregnant mommy is entitled to their own decisions and we always give our best and most professional medical advice, but never try to sway a decision. The doctor would definitely be able to tell there was something very wrong at the anatomy scan, but we decided together that finding out something like that after 20 weeks of pregnancy isn't something that we were prepared to face, especially after finding out about the MMC 6 weeks after it had happened. My career maximizes pregnancy anxiety to the limit for sure!

 

[TTCaWee1]

12 weekish bump. Ignore the pjs....
Bump is coming out more and more...

 

[Disneybaby26]

Holy crap!! It is soooo there Rachel!! That's so awesome and rediculously cute!! Is DH obsessed with it??

I'm definitely starting to get a little something, picture coming Thursday!

 

[TTCaWee1]

I'm no he's far from obsessed. He just asks me every day I wear jeans if they are my "fat girl pants" ie maternity jeans lol.

 

[Disneybaby26]

Lol OMG!! Haha

 

[Disneybaby26]

Sonia- how are you feeling hun?? Is your family still there? Have you told anyone??

 

[wavescrash]

My sciatic nerve pain started again this morning when trying to shave in the shower.. Hopefully none of you guys have that issue, it's like a terrible sharp pain radiating down your leg, ouch! I've also been having some serious pulling/stretching feelings in my lower belly and it is hard as a rock now! Idk if it will last but I'm liking the feeling of the start of a bump!

When did you girls start feeling your bump or things starting to move around down there?

Hahaha ugh... I can't even list all the random pains I feel. I think it's more so because this is my 3rd baby and I work on my feet 8 hours a day, 5 days a week. Sciatica, plantar fasciitis, SPD, pain in my upper arms, round ligament pain ALL the time lol. It only gets worse from here.

Regarding the genetic testing, I opted for it simply for the reason of wanting to know in advance so we can prepare ourselves for what's in store for us. We're not exactly rolling in the dough so if baby needs extra/special equipment once they're born, I want to be able to know early enough in advance to make arrangements to get those things. If it affects our work schedules, we'd need to know. Prepare our other children for a sibling that won't be completely the same as them, things like that. We'd never terminate but want to be prepared.

I'll take my 17 week belly shot tomorrow but I went to visit my friend in the hospital tonight (who had her baby yesterday) and took a picture in the bathroom mirror because when I would have appointments there, I always took belly pictures in that same mirror lol.

https://24.media.tumblr.com/9614622a45dce93edc3166da0b3ab09b/tumblr_mu0hsufqsK1qzzo2fo1_500.jpg

 

[Cowgirl07]

So cute amanda!

 

[Disneybaby26]

Adorable pic Amanda!! I'm glad you finally heard from your friend and got to go visit the baby!!