Morgan- I bled until 4 weeks pp. Then spotted at 6 weeks and again at 8weeks. I did have some pain until like 6-8 weeks. But not bad enough like u r saying. However, my tear was tiny, 1 degree. So I'm not the best to answer your concern. I do have the spray mirolee showed u and it was awesome the first few days I used it when peeing. I also have that companies nipple cream and I swear by it, never had bleeding/cracked nips.