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hi Nikki!
i am also worried about 2xday care- and i havent had 1 yet! haha. but OH says that if i plan on having a second child, i should also plan on a second boyfriend ;) i thought we were looking into a daycare that i love nearby, but OH went to his host-mom's house this weekend and she had "some rather convincing arguments on why daycare may not be the way we want to go" (insert HUGE eyeroll!!!!) so now he wants to look at maybe a SAHM or student or nanny - ALL which i suggested! so i have put together an ad i'm going to take to the local Eastern European store, because if we get a nanny, i want her to be fluent in Russian. so we shall see!
just one more thing to do!
 
Kara- yes we do the FSA $5000 pre tax for day care. At this point we always seem to owe for taxes, never get tax return anymore. However, my taxes are confusing, it isn't just the regular W2's. My family has a family business owning property. I have to pay taxes on my portion that I "own". However, usually the income made in the year goes back into the business to better the properties. One day the properties will sell and make me some great money (or when grandma passes DH and I might sell our portion because I hate mixing money and family like this). However, right now it seems like more of a money burden because of the taxes. In the long run I will appreciate what my family is doing for us, but right now it is hard to accept paying taxes on money I don't "see".

I talked with DH today about the idea of baby #2 and the expense. He said, we can always work 4 days a week at 10 hours a day. Our work is very flexible in that sense. He said one of us can take Friday off and the other take Monday off, therefor we would only pay 3 days a week for 2 kids. That would help a bit. I was also hoping maybe we could ask his parents to take the kids 1 day a week, so we can pay for 2 kids only 2 days a week. His parents live like 30 min from us, so I would hope they can drive one way and we could drive the other direction... I don't know. But I want to talk with them before we have number 2.
 
Did some calculations... our work daycare does an assistance program. So their rule is you get assistance for anything OVER 15% of your gross family income (or 22% for more then one kid). So weather we did 3 days a week OR 5 days a week it would still cost us the same amount, 22% of our gross family income. Just means that we would receive more assistance for the more days we did, we would NOT have to pay more out of our pockets. Pretty much (very rough estimate since price of daycare changes and we might get raises and such) we would be paying about $2000/month for day care for 2 kids. WTF! my mortgage on a nice house (3000 sf) is $1400/month.

What is nice about the assistance is that we can work our current schedule (take every other Friday off) and still keep the kids in daycare and have a full day of ME time!

We can make this work, we would just need to cut back a lot on "fun money" AND we would be dipping into our savings, which I guess that is what it is there for. Currently we put xxx amount of money away into savings/month... and we will just not be able to do that and MIGHT need to use some of the savings. JUST KEEP TELLING MYSELF IT WILL ONLY BE FOR A FEW YEARS!
 
You can definitely make it work Nikki! I'm so excited for you guys to start trying again!!! Lol!

Britt- saw your post on the fb group, hope that the doctors appt. goes well and that they can figure out why Harper feels so crappy during her feedings, poor baby girl!

Sandy- ugh that's so scary. But i've read up on listeria and it seems extremely rare to get. And on fruits and veggies it seems like it's unwashed ones that carry it, once you wash them you should be fine. The biggest risk is supposed to be cold cut meats, etc. that sit in a moisturized area. It's funny though, a good majority of the ladies in the UK in my due date group eat lunch meat and don't even worry about it. So again, I think the risk is extremely small. Sending you love!

Yay for babes reaching out for toys and hitting milestones- so exciting, they are all growing so fast!!

AFM... still waiting. Feeling big. Impatient. 8 ladies in my due date group have had their babies now. I'm happy for them but am like... OKAY! MY TURN! Lol. I want my baby girl!!! Dr's appt. tomorrow and they're gonna check me... hoping there's SOMETHING going on down there!
 
cant wait for zuri and Alek!!!

How cool would it be if all our kids became pen-pals?!
 
With the cost of daycare it seems like it would be cheaper to have a nanny. We can't do daycare bc of our hours.

I can't even imagine TTC again already. And I'm old. I think we are going to wait till next summer. Or longer. Not too long though bc as I said, I'm old.

Ellie finished the last of fruits so I think we are going to start adding veggies. The dr said once she stopped sttn then to do 2 meals a day. Last night was the first time she sttn in 2 weeks. Does anyone have a space saver high chair? I'm wondering what the best thing is to buy for my friend house...another high chair or a space saver? I'm leaning towards a space saver...

Oh and I've been pumping or feeding every 8 hours and I just pumped 6 oz! I thought it would decrease but it hasn't 😁 hopefully I can continue to do 1/2 the feedings myself for another month or so.
 
I think its a high chair that sits on a regular chair or one that attaches to the table.
 
We do one that sits on a chair. If she has an extra chair to keep it on, then I like it. But we never remove ours off the chair.
 
Cass, so exciting! I can't believe are sooooo close! FX she comes sooooon!

I have a space saver at this point. A friend has a regular one that she is going to give us, too. I have zero experience with either really. We shall see!

Thanks for the support, ladies! I never heard back from them today, and I know they read it, so I'm probably just another crazy pregnant lady! Lol. After a 10.5 hour day, I'm sitting in the recliner, willing dinner to cook itself (I'm making tuna casserole from scratch because it just randomly sounds god for some weird reason) and looking at a basket of laundry hoping that it will fold itself. I'm pooped and still feeling lousy. Hopefully I get feeling better soon cuz it looks like mama here is gonna be working midnights all weekend. Hopefully not, but I am guessing so. Boo on that.

Has anyone heard from Morgan, Julie, STG or any of the other ladies?
 
I haven't heard from STG. I see updates from Julie and Morgan on FB but I don't think they get on here much anymore. Their babes are beautiful though and growing like weeds!
 
We need to get a new high chair for Leah. We had a cheap one from Target for Hannah but it got so dirty that we just threw it out. The cover didn't come off to wash it in the laundry which was disgusting. I want this all-plastic one from Ikea but the closest Ikea store is 2 hrs away and they don't offer it to purchase online. No idea what we're gonna do. I'll probably wait until Leah's 5 months old to start cereal anyway so another 2 weeks.

3 more weeks until I can see my doctor for my thyroid and anxiety issues. That's so far away :( Pretty sure I have a sinus infection and have had it for a week and a half now. I wonder if I called tomorrow for a same-day appointment (if he could even take me in, he became medical director or something like that so he has little availability) if I could get in and while there just ask about the thyroid and anxiety stuff. I just need a fix for both problems.

I literally don't even have the energy to compose another thought right now. adlfjalsdfjaldsjfl;adj this is so frustrating.
 
Sorry your feeling so crappy :hugs: Hope you feel better soon!

Sandy I can't believe they didn't call back! :growlmad:

AFM - 15 weeks pregnant today! Find out gender in 11 days :happydance:
 
Ahhh so exciting I cannot wait for you to find out gender BB! Are you still feeling boy vibes?

Waves- does your town have online buy/sell sites on FB? Mine does and I see a ton of highchairs in amazing condition for cheap! Sorry you have to wait to see your dr, I get anxiety SUPER bad too sometimes so I know how that goes :/

Sandy, I hope you start feeling better soon! You're in the home stretch lady! :)

AFM, not 11pm here yet but my tickers always go on eastern time which is 3 hours ahead... and now says 9 days remaining! AHHH single digits!
 
Yeah, I'm a member of a few of them. I'm keeping my eye out but nothing in my price range or what I'm looking for. Oh well. Yeah, simply put, it sucks. It's funny because I use to think I had anxiety problems before but compared to how I feel now? Definitely didn't have anxiety issues before lol. I have no idea what I was thinking. This is so much worse. Oh well.

How exciting you're so close :)

That reminds me I need to get my grandma a bday card though lol. Her bday's the same day as your due date.
 
Honestly, I love this baby so so much already but I am still so unbelievably terrified that something is going to go wrong that I think I've put barriers up to protect myself. I have no gender vibes at all anymore. I thought boy but then this pregnancy has been different to Tristans I think and I'm not showing as much as I was with him at this point so I don't really know. We will be so happy no matter what sex this baby is. Before the losses I would have done anything for a girl and now I couldn't care less what the sex is as long as I get to take my healthy, screaming baby home!
I am so excited to find out the gender but so scared to have the scan if you know what I mean? I keep thinking I can't get this far and be lucky enough for everything to be 100% ok can I!?
 
Sorry about all the anxiety waves. Does it stem from money mostly? I'm sure if you call for a sick visit they can get you in sooner.

I'm so excited. It is 6:15 and Ellie is still sleeping! She woke up around 10 but fell back asleep on her own a min later. Ahhhhhh. Hopefully this lasts 🙏 I gave her sweet potatoes last night around 6:15 and she loved them. Ate an entire jar (2.5 oz). Then I still gave her night feeding around 8. Maybe she really was hungry all those times she was waking...I feel bad.
Nikki - have you given avacados yet? I'm going to get some today.
 
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