TTC and Beyond!

[HWPG]

thanks gals! i ended up just getting a mini vanilla milkshake - and yes morgan, i swear, from the beginning, i've said this kid is coming out of my ribs. i feel like a hemisphere, always have! not sure i can button my pants since i dont wear them quite that low (beneath my BB but not quite at the pube line) - but it is remarkable how shelf-like it comes out of me. there is no slope here. and i still have (somewhat) of a waist, so this is straight out. and hey! i'm more than half way missy! especially if baby K keeps growing at this rate, i think he might come in June! i'm going ot have a 10lb baby, ha!
cass, i think i've put on about 20lbs. all you skinny-minnies make me worry, but like i said (complained) earlier, i think i could stop eating and still gain weight. i'm healthy, i'm active, i'm growing a person - i feel like there is nothing i can do at this point. my goals have now changed from "keep it under" to "work it off after" - hehe.
it's snowing in maine. wtf. as lonely as i am down here, i at least love the weather. yesterday it was 74 and sunny. omg, felt like heaven!
RR, a new car? whoa! it looks beautiful! and btw, i would just say "i lost the pregnancy" - no one can have any questions about that.... so sorry hun.
dates, huh? not a huge fan, but i bet i'll try anything when the time gets closer.

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

Mirolee- You are way more active than i've been, so don't worry about the weight gain. I was training for and then ran a marathon right before I got pregnant and now I feel like a freakin' fat blob. Just walking too fast makes me out of breath, so that fact that you are still doing all you are doing is amazing! I'm so bummed that i'll lose my entire running base, and will be starting over, but i'll deal. I have a goal to run my 10th half marathon in May of 2015. It gives me something to get excited about after Harper is born. I've gained 15 lbs now. I think it's going to start adding up quick, which scares me a bit!

 

[jury3]

Amanda-Love the car...jealous!

Here's a lovely pic of me all hooked up to the monitors...my belly takes up the whole picture lol
DW told her mom and our friends last night that we were at L&D...I'm not happy w her about that. Her mom freaked out of course. Started saying how her friend said those were signs of pre-e (duh, why do you think I went in???), asked why I drove myself. Texted me today to ask if I was feeling better (I wasn't feeling bad...) and asked if I need a ride to my doc apt tomorrow. Why do people think that pregnant people need to be driven places? Lol I am not looking forward to the next few weeks/months with MIL...she is literally going to drive me insane!

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

Amen, Julie!!! I hate being treated like an invalid just because i'm pregnant. I'm a very independent person and now everyone is like "Don't do this!" and "Don't do that!" and it annoys me. I know they are just trying to be helpful but it's still like "okay!!"

I don't want anyone to know we are in the hospital until the last minute! LOL. I don't want everyone texting/calling/showing up. I'm still on the fence about who i'm actually even telling when i'm in labor. Probably just my two BFF's and my Mom, stepdad, real dad, and DH's direct family.

 

[jury3]

Amanda-Lol about your dad! Obviously you did not take the benadryl lol

Britt-Your comment about your mom made me think of mine...she found she is diabetic a few months back. Since then she acts like she knows everything about food and how to eat healthy. DW likes to eat paleo. I'm not a huge fan bc it is so restrictive, but support her bc it's what she feels comfortable with and she loses weight when she sticks to it. When my mom was here for our baby shower she was making a huge deal telling DW that paleo isn't healthy and acted like she was stupid for doing it. I could have slapped her. DW and I are pretty smart about healthy foods, although we don't look like it. Pretty sure we probably know more than my mom lol

Anyway, I've now gained almost 22 lbs...it's freaking me out a little bc I went so long barely gaining anything. I was hoping not to go over 20-25 lbs, but that may not happen!

 

[RobertRedford]

Mirolee, you've been staying active so i truly wouldn't worry! Britt, same to you. If you were in good shape before you got pregnant, getting back there hopefully won't be too hard. Plus, its worth it. You're making a baby. Shit is hard work!

Julie, your MIL sounds like a handful! I would go absolutely nuts. You are ALLL belly lady! Can't wait to meet those babies!

speaking of in laws. well, kind of in laws. had dinner with baby daddys parents the other night. his dad has become very conservative since retiring because of "all the truth" he sees on cnn and fox news. somehow the topic of gay marraige/ equal rights came up, and I am very quick to voice my opinion. I strongly strongly strongly strongly support equal rights for all, and I work in an area of law where we handle a lot of employment cases in regards to gender orientation/ discrimination (we represent people who have been fired for being gay) and love what I do because I am passionate about it. baby daddys dad told me that he thinks that same sex marraiges should be illegal, and that if his own child or grandchild were to be gay, he would disown them. me not being able to keep my mouth shut start probing him, saying, "well, if your 4 y/o grand daughter here told you that she was attracted to women and dated women, etc when she is older, would you still love her and support her?" "no." mind.fucking.blown. people. this is 2014! I decided just to spite him my future children will only wear liberal political onesies when they go to their house. "my momma voted for obama" "I support gay marraiges"

 

[HWPG]

thanks gals!
we are hoping to only tell a handful of people, and more hoping that people wont come. luckily (um, forcefully), we've told people not to come, but most people live far enough away they wont bother. i think my mom will be there. we are lucky to have a good respectful support system.

 

[jury3]

Amen, Julie!!! I hate being treated like an invalid just because i'm pregnant. I'm a very independent person and now everyone is like "Don't do this!" and "Don't do that!" and it annoys me. I know they are just trying to be helpful but it's still like "okay!!"

I don't want anyone to know we are in the hospital until the last minute! LOL. I don't want everyone texting/calling/showing up. I'm still on the fence about who i'm actually even telling when i'm in labor. Probably just my two BFF's and my Mom, stepdad, real dad, and DH's direct family.

Same here! I am so huge now that I have to ask for help, but it's for things like getting off the couch or carrying heavy items. I still fit behind a steering wheel, so why the heck wouldn't I drive myself lol If I felt like I was dizzy or if I was in labor yesterday I would have had my brother drive me! I'm not stupid, I ask for help when I actually need it lol

That's what I told DW. Next time we go to L&D, we don't need to alert everyone unless we are actually going to be there for a while for something serious. If I think my water broke or I think I'm in labor, then we can wait until we get there and get more info before we need to tell everyone. People go to L&D all the time for minor things, there is no need to make a big deal out of nothing.
If it's the real deal, then we will tell immediate family and our closest friends...that's it (well and you girls obviously lol).

I can't decide if I want to allow MIL in the room or not when I am laboring. For the c-section it was a definite no. Doc said only 2 people anyway, so it worked out that just DW and my mom could come in. My mom was going to take video/pics so we don't have to and if babies had to go to NICU DW would go with them and mom would stay with me.
Now that we think Olivia is head down and actual labor is a possibility, I'm not sure what to do. I want DW and my mom in there while I labor bc I know they will help me. I'm afraid MIL will get on my nerves. If she does I can kick her out...but when it comes to actually having the babies I don't know. I know she would love to be in there and see her grandchildren enter the world, I'm just not sure how I feel about it. She gets so overly excited and drives me insane. She says things that just piss me off (like stating the obviously or talking like she knows things bc she read it on yahoo). Idk maybe I can make her videotape or take pics...

 

[goldstns]

Not sure when u start eating dates...sry.

can someone post Ellie pic plz!!

robert- u go girl!!!!

julie- looking good and 22 lbs for twins is NOTHING

 

[jury3]

Amanda-lol my grandparents are really conservative and I can't stand it. They haven't disowned me, but things are definitely much different than they used to be. I never see them anymore. Thanksgiving was the first time I'd seen them since before DW and I got married 2 years ago. It's just hard to be around them knowing they don't approve of our relationship. Now that we are having kids it's hard bc I know they are interested and want to see them, but at the same time there will always be a wedge between us. My brothers and I always talk about wearing our best gay marriage supporting clothing to their house but my mom gets mad at us lol I can't wait for the babies to wear their "hatched by two chicks" onsies around them!

DW and I agreed we only wanted immediate family and our closest friends to visit in the hospital. That amounts to maybe 9-12 people total (includes parents/siblings). I'm scared MILs crazy Jewish friends will start showing up.

 

[jury3]

Baby Ellie from Rachel's fb

 

[HWPG]

omg! squee! shes so tiny!

 

[RobertRedford]

I am officially debt free and its an amazing feeling. credit cards are paid off!!

Thanks for posting the Ellie pics, Julie. Beat me to it! You're alllll belly. I wouldn't worry about your weight gain at all.

my mom is an L&D nurse and will probably demand to be in the delivery room when I have a baby. no.way.in.hell. I do not want here there. I'm sure she is great during other peoples l&d's but she stresses me out. just me and the baby daddy (hopefully hubs, by then)

 

[jury3]

Once again...Jealous! I can't wait until we pay off our stupid credit cards!

Ugh I need to do something with my life...I have a long to do list and have been avoiding it. I need to get going before the babies get here and/or I can't move at all! lol I think I'm going to go buy some new things for my fish tank...not really baby related, but it will make me feel like I did something! lol

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

Amanda/Julie - My grandather is anti Gay marraige too and it annoys/infuriates me to no end. We somehow get into conversations about it and it usually ends up with me wanting to punch my own grandfather. He will say "I don't have a problem with gay people, but I don't think they should get married" UM!?!?!?! What the hell? So I generally just try to avoid it at all costs becasue I know we will never agree on it.

Amanda - Congrats! I just paid off all my credit card debt too. best feeling in the freaking world. Only took 9 years. I don't even plan on using one EVER again. What a mess to get out of.

Julie - I love paleo, but since being pregnant, I can't really stand meat, and couldn't eat eggs AT ALL for the first 18 weeks of pregnancy. I already have celiac, so i'm pretty limited as far as it goes. I wouldn't be able to stand MIL saying it's unhealthy and all that. It's REAL food. There is no way it's unhealthy. My bloodwork was the BEST it's ever been eating eggs and bacon every single day. People just don't get it. I cooked everything in bacon grease. Blood work was impeccable and my cholesterol was the lowest it's ever been. My mom used to get on me ALL the time and talk about it and how it was awful. Then she wants all this attention when she decided not to eat sugar for 30 days this year. Uh... LOL.

 

[RobertRedford]

Julie, its the little things! Somedays I just get dressed out of PJ's so I feel productive and a functioning member of society.

doc just called with blood results. she didn't give me the number but said the steadily and rapidly decreasing values indicate a miscarraige and we will know more at my us, which was moved to friday morning. They said there are many reasons why this could have happened, and we should consider looking into it further considering this is my second MC with the same partner.

 

[RobertRedford]

Britt, i've considered doing paleo b/c of the celiacs too. I try to eat as helathy as possible but i like the idea of limiting my grains and eating real food all the time.

 

[HWPG]

my grandparents are racist and homophobic. it doesnt usually come up in conversation, but when it does it will be like, (my grandfather) "i was in san francisco once and a man touched my bum. he was trying to make me be gay" - my sisters and i were like, "thats not how it works" but really, when a person is 85? my grandmother said to me, when i was considering adopting from haiti, that "birds of a feather should stick together" (implying you should not inter-race adopt/have a family/marry/etc) -to which my BIL said, "i like birds of all colors". sigh. i suppose thats the world they grew up in, even if it's not right. that being said, when i hear people in *our* generation say stuff like that (my cousin, for example), it really does blow my mind - how? what? what year is it?

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

RR- I've never felt better in my life. Seriously. BUT. It's hard socially. You can't have a LOT of stuff. No beans, no grains of any kind (corn), no sugar, no milk,... and I say "you can't" losely.. but if you are doing it honestly, you shouldn't. It was almost impossible for me to go out and eat with friends becasue I couldn't have most of anything. It DID get me cooking all the time at home and I seriously saw my entire body compositioin change just over a month. It was crazy! I even did a Whole30 challenge which takes it a step further. It was super hard, but so rewarding.

Also - HOW CUTE IS ELLIE!? adorable.

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

Exactly Mirolee. I know my grandfather doesn't really get it because he's almost 80. It's frustrating, but even more so when people my age are just AWFUL about it. I've never understood why it's anyone else's business to worry about the happiness of other people. Can't we all just get along? Seriously.