ttc and everyone else is pregnant - this happening to you???

[avistar]

HAPPY THANKSGIVING EVERYONE! Hope you had a good day with family and friends!

I just wanted to make a post because I am trying not to feel frustrated and up set at the moment. And wanted to see who else is dealing with/or has dealt the same situation.

My DH and I have been together over 7 years, married 1 year and 7 months. We have been officially ttc for almost 4 months now. Our friend called us today to wish us a Happy Thanksgiving and to give us news that he and his wife are now pregnant with their 2nd, and his sister is pregnant with her 5th.

Meanwhile, my friend told me a week ago that she is pregnant with her 2nd and a couple weeks before that my sister told me that she is pregnant with her 3rd. after getting her tubes untied

I am really trying to not be jealous or up set but can't really fight how disappointed I feel. I know we will have a baby when we are supposed to, but it just goes to show how it feels like everyone around you can conceive but you...

Is anyone feeling the same way or has been through similar experiences???

 

[justjess]

Yeah, I hear ya. We've been trying for going on 15 months now. It's hard when everyone else seems to conceive with ease, but you never know if that's the case or not. There's a time and a reason for everything, so when the time is right, it'll happen. Atleast that's the crap I tell myself every month! lol

 

[FJL]

First of all, i've come to learn that it is completely normal to feel this way, so don't beat yourself up

Even before we found out that we had fertility problems and thought we would conceive naturally eventually we too felt jealous and 'its not fair' feelings toward other pregnant couples.

Its been over a year now and we do have fert problems and it isn't any easier, harder infact as time goes on I feel.

Unfortunatley I personally have isolated myself a lot from pregnant friends and families because i'm going through enough, I don't need to have my nose rubbed in it all.

So my point is that yes, you're experiencing normal feelings, and when you start trying it seems that everyone except you is pregnant, and it is an awful feeling.

I have my fingers crossed that you get your BFP really soon, but until that time comes, don't feel bad for the way you're feeling, its not an easy thing to go through

 

[jchaney85]

I kno how you feel either all my friends are preggo or they have children already i feel so left out of that "special" group lol. I just feel its my turn lol.

 

[loopylew]

i think most of us know how you feel, me and hubby have been ttc for 3 months now and it does seem like everyone around me is becoming pregnant. One of my best friends is so socially i'm always with a pregnant person then the admin woman at work is pregnant so at work its in my face and the woman who does my nails is pregnant as well. My hairdreser has just had a baby too. It does seem so easy for other people and not us ut the time will come

 

[cupcake]

i felt the same way as you!
felt like everyone was pregnant and i felt quite resentful but its totally normal.
i also had ppl tell me oh it hasnt been so long what are you worrying about, but it doesnt matter how long uve been trying if you want it- its hard

good luck!

 

[Sinead]

I know I feel like that at times, and now know that its perfectly normal.

Sinead

 

[HAYS]

yep ditto,everyone around me is either preg and due or just fallen preg,and all of my mates have concieved straight away!
it does make me angry and slightly jealous,but i no i have to be patient!
just dont like it lol
x

 

[poppy]

yep ditto,everyone around me is either preg and due or just fallen preg,and all of my mates have concieved straight away!
it does make me angry and slightly jealous,but i no i have to be patient!
just dont like it lol
x

Hi girls!

I hope you girls all get your BFPs soon!

Sometimes when people tell you that they concieved straight away, they have exaggerated it slightly. One of my best friends and her husband are quite competitive and when she told everyone she was pregnant, she was like, 'we are so fertile, this was our first attempt and look...' Later on she told me that they had actually been off birth control pills for a year before she got pregnant - so in actuality, she could have fallen pregnant any time that year but didn't.

Also, when most people tell you they are pregnant, they don't really say how long they have been 'trying' for, or they down play it. So possibly these people have also been trying for months or years and have just not talked about it.

Best of luck girls, I really hope you all get your Christmas BFPs!

 

[TrixieLox]

I've only been TTC since last week but just to add, as I said in a post today, my whole family seems to come from Fertile City, falling PG at the drop of a hat so I do feel pressure, even at this early early stage. I was at a party the other day and my cousin announced she was pregnant for the 2nd time. She told me she fell straight away! They literally tried once in one month (he was away for 2-3 weeks on a trainign course) and that was enough! WTF?! And she wasn't exaggerating cos she just isn't like that. So yeh, I anticipate a difficult time if I don't fall PG by spring what with everyone else I know falling PG easy as! x

 

[babe2ooo]

yeah i know how you feel, my next door neighbour is pregant and shes having a girl when i heard felt really bad like why cant that happen 2 me, but it will one day lol

 

[avistar]

Thanks everyone for your posts! I am mostly level headed about it and understand that ppl might have had a difficult time but are not disclosing the details. But it just seems instinctual to feel up set.

It is really nice to hear from all of you and knowing that I am not alone in how I feel

Best wishes to all and everywhere!!

 

[Wobbles]

Everyone was pregnant - there were more pregnant women in the street - the till girl at Tesco would be pregnant .... I dreaded people telling me they were pregnant (offline not forum BFPs). Its a horrid mixture of feelings to cope with when you are TTC.

Good luck x

 

[poppy]

Thanks everyone for your posts! I am mostly level headed about it and understand that ppl might have had a difficult time but are not disclosing the details. But it just seems instinctual to feel up set.

It is really nice to hear from all of you and knowing that I am not alone in how I feel

Best wishes to all and everywhere!!

I totally agree with you Avistar - you can't help your feelings. Last month, I caught up with one of my good friends from university whom I hadn't seen for years. She's five months pregnant. I felt really happy for her, but at the same time a bit jealous. I felt really annoyed at myself - but like you say, you can't help how you feel and wishing it was you.

Good luck, I really hope you get a Christmas BFP! I am sending you some baby dust.

 

[Vickie]

It does seem as though everyone around you is pregnant when you TTC and it can be hard to see others pregnant when you want a baby so badly. Keep your head up, it will happen for you one day.

Good luck all in getting your BFP's for Christmas

 

[Pearl]

lol i thought it may have just been me feeling this way, really everyone around me is pregnant, some got pregs on their first try and nearly all of them it didnt take long to get pregs.

Though i know it was my first time trying, i still feel disappointed and just hoping...I want to be pregnant !

God willing we'll all get BFPs this time round

 

[justme00]

Completely understand. Some people are just so clueless. I've been off the pill for over two years and everyone and their dog got pregnant but me.

 

[emerphire]

oh i totally feel your pain. now that we're actually *really* TTCing, (although we aren't telling family/friends) it's a little bit harder to hear news of other women's pregnancies. not that we're not happy for them, just..... it's just harder.

 

[jchaney85]

I bet a lot of people had a hard time ttc but they just forgot about when they did just like you and everyone of us will it will just be a thing of the past.

 

[Mojo]

yep defo know what you mean on this one! at least 4 friends have been pregnant and conceived either the first or second month (well, that's what they tell me!) two girls i work with are also pg, the thing is they know we are ttc and know my cycle so literally every month they ask me 'so.....any news for us' it's starting to drive me crazy and i now think it is really insensitive, it's difficult enough when af arrives without having to then tell people 'NO I AM NOT PREGNANT'