TTC but no luck.

[blondie 1]

Hi to anyone out there willing to listen.

I am new to all of this kind of thing but need some help, support or advice.

I'm 34 and my partner is 37, we have been TTC for 2 yrs now, 1 yrs serious trying but no look.

I have been off the pill for just over two yrs now.

We have both been tested, bloods done and they all came back ok.
I have been using the clear blue fertility monitor for around 6 months now, Doing the deed often but not to often.

Not having any look, were not letting it get to us but not sure what else to do, wait for the BFP.

 

[mommyhopeful1]

First of all, . I am so sorry that things haven't been working thus far! DH and I are 27 and have been ttc for 4 months, and I know how frustrating it can be, so I can't imagine how hard this must be for you! I am not sure I can offer advice, but I am here to listen if you need! to you that you get that bfp soon! FX for you!

 

[blondie 1]

Hi, thanks for that
Just not sure what else to do. I look at these sites and wonder if i should post, this time i did.
It's so frustrating waiting each month to see whether we get our BFP, but we never do.
we have just been on holiday to relax and see if that would help, AF is due on the 23rd Aug, but if i am i don't feel any different. Pepole keep telling me i will know when i am but i don't think so.
I really hope you see your BFP soon.

 

[JenMcC]

Hi, thanks for that
Just not sure what else to do. I look at these sites and wonder if i should post, this time i did.
It's so frustrating waiting each month to see whether we get our BFP, but we never do.
we have just been on holiday to relax and see if that would help, AF is due on the 23rd Aug, but if i am i don't feel any different. Pepole keep telling me i will know when i am but i don't think so.
I really hope you see your BFP soon.

Isn't it funny how everyone wants to offer advice when you talk about TTC, but it usually doesn't help? People who say "you'll know" must have had a psychic ability, because it's really hard to know. I'm still waiting for my BFP, but my sister didn't know she was pregnant until she was about 12 weeks, she even had normal periods during that time and BFNs, She didn't know she was pregnant until she had an u/s at work because she thought she was having an issues with an ovarian cyst, and the u/s tech saw the embryo, complete with beating heart.

I'm 33 and have been trying since March, and now it seems that every time I see my M-I-L, she asks if I have any good news for her. She didn't have any issues TTC, because both my husband and his brother were "Oops" babies, so she doesn't really understand the struggle, and it hurts every time she asks.

I think it will help you to join others struggling just like you, I've found it's comforting knowing I'm not the only one struggling, because it seems everyone else around me hasn't had issues TTC...

So welcome!

 

[nic18]

hey first of all welcome. and i'm sorry you have been tryin for 2 years and no luck , i've been trying for 10months and no luck, but all the ladies on here know how stressful and upsetting it can become ! i really hope you get your BFP soon, and we are always here if you want to talk x

 

[blondie 1]

Thanks ladies, it means alot to know that am not the only one out there not getting BFP, or just having people to talk to, who don't think god her she goes again.

Everyone (well not everyone) round me keeps saying "it will be you soon", or " When are you going to have one". If only it was that easy, you would think a naturally thing like making a baby would be easy. NOT!

Each month i hope and wait but disheartend when AF arrives.

 

[blondie 1]

Hi, hope you see that BFP soon,

how can something that sounds so simple be so hard!!!

 

[nic18]

aw the people who say 'it will happen for you' or 'it will happen when it happens' things like that annoy me! and it doesn't help. i know i never knew how much actually went into ttc!

 

[blondie 1]

same here.
It alright people saying to you "it will happen when it happens" but when they had no problems TTC or fell within a few months dosen't help those who haven't been so lucky.

Or not been horrible of nothing but when i have been ttc for so long there young people out there having one night stands falling preg and them getting rid.

Guess thats life, thats the way the cookie cumbles.

 

[nic18]

i know it annoys me when people don't realise how hard your actually finding it. i have no problem with young mums/young people ttc if they are stable enough. but people who have one night stands and end up pregnant annoy me so so much! now i can't talk about people gettin rid of because i've had a termination at 14. now i kinda regret because i finding it difficult ttc.

 

[blondie 1]

So sorry to here about that, can't be easy looking back now thinking was that my time or not, but 14 is very young.

 

[nic18]

it's ok, i know i dont it for the best, & as i am obv no longer with him, i feel it was best. but now it's like 'ahh was that my only chance?' which i'm sure its not, as when you start ttc you see everything in a whole new perspective.

 

[blondie 1]

Am sure it wasn't and won't be your only chance.
You most definatly do look at things differently.

 

[nic18]

fx for a BFP soon!