TTC for the first time!

[nikky0907]

I don't know wether she visits this thread anymore but if she does:

Read our advices,we know what we're talking about,please reconsider...As Toria said,we're all doing the best we can but if we had a choice to change history...

 

[polo_princess]

if I hadn't had gotten pregnant by accident I'd be looking forward to my career and getting myself stable before I had a baby

Im with Toria on this one girlies, when i think back to when i was 16 all i wanted was a baby and now after having a career and some form of a life and freedom i thank my lucky stars that i didnt fall pregnant so young.

I know its a bit of a cliche but i have lived my life a little had a good career that i can go back to after the baby is born, and i am financially very stable so it felt right for me at the grand old age of 21. If you feel it is the right decision for you then go for it hunni,

 

[BeckyBoo]

I'm not going to judge you either. I can't because I FELL pregnant at 17. But Mikey was not planned. I was in full time work and me and OH partner had only been together a matter of months. I always considered myself alot older due to growing up around adults due to illness.

Yes having a child young is hard for some, which is why I don't know why you want to bring this on yourself? It shouldn't be hard, it should be cherished. I don't miss going out, I don't miss anything from before I was "Mum" My kids are my world.

Think of this scenario... how would you feel if you and your OH broke up when the baby was say 4mths old? Would you still want the baby? Would you be interested in it anymore? I know it's harsh I just said this. But you have to think of every single option.

And as Toriaaaaa said, If someone came to me when I was 17 and said "I can make you pregnant, do you want a baby" I'd run the other direction.

Enjoy what you have at the moment, yes you only need to raise a child to 18. But due to my illnesses, my mum is still caring for me in ways.

It is a LIFETIME commitment, not a fashion accessory.

 

[BeckyBoo]

Also, your recent " Pregnancy scare" was days PRIOR to this post. I really do not think you have thought this through.

 

[nikky0907]

And as Toriaaaaa said, If someone came to me when I was 17 and said "I can make you pregnant, do you want a baby" I'd run the other direction.

Picturing this brought tears to my eyes!

 

[Jayne]

All I can say is, I'm 36 and have only now decided it's the right time, I can't imagine having a kid when I was 26, let alone 16! Seriously, do you not want your own life or something????

 

[masi]

I had my first at 21, and even though i was well prepared, and had loads of support it was a hell of a shock to the system. So just imagine that at 16. At least between the ages of 16, and 20 i went out loads, and went on holiday, and got all that out of my system. At least give yourself a couple of years, and live a bit of your life as an adult, without dependants.
I ended up with severe post-natal depression, and that was even though i had aloving husband, and was in a good financial situation.
Don't do it to yourself!!

 

[aSh_x0x]

My advice is...you cant just think about yourself, and what you want. Fair enough you can want a baby at 16, but are you old enough to give the baby everything he/she deserves and needs? im not judging you at all, but its not fair to bring a baby into this world if you are not financially stable and all that. Are you sure your going to be with your partner for life? because if you broke up, this is also not fair on the baby, they never ask to be bought into a situation like this, so dont force it on them!
i understand if the pregnancy was an accident, this is different. But planning a pregnancy so young in my opinion isnt the right way to go about it. Once have a stable home, income and relationship THEN talk about the possibility of bringing a child into the world...

 

[Abbys_Mummy]

I know people in there late 20`s evan 30`s not ready to TTC amd they have been married for years have fulltime jobs and own there homes i don`t think that anyone in there right mind would ttc at 16 come on call me judge mental but i don`t think so.

 

[darkheaven77]

i recenlt had a pregnancy 'scare' (i wouldn't call it a scare, because i wasn't really scared. i was excited!) but i've since found out it was nothing more.

i've decided i really want to concive and i've thought reall hard about it. i know it could cause a few problems seeing as im only 16, but i really think it's right for me.

i hope you dont judje me cos of my age!
klaire xx

i had my first baby at 16 i was also married i had 2 kids by the time i was 19 and getting a divorce i would never regret it but u give up your life and teenage yrs to be stuck at home with a baby i would wait a few yrs if i was you just till ur def happy and have been with your bf for a bit u might just get that little bit more respect by showing your maturity

 

[brownhairedmom]

Waittt. I'm 20, I'll be 21 by the time the baby is born. And I'm STILL not ready.

You have no idea the person you are going to be in 4 years. I do not even resemble who I was when I was 16. Talk about learning about and finding yourself. And I have no doubt that by the time I'm 25, I'm going to be a completely different person again. There is no way I would give up my baby and I'm not in the best situation right now, but I am in a MUCH better situation than I was 4 years ago.