JanetPlanet
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First, I adore my husbands parents. They are much nicer to me than my own family and I would never want to do anything to hurt them.
BUT, a couple of weeks ago during their weekly phone call, my mother and father in-law told my husband that they had bought their train tickets and gave him their itinerary for their visit with us during the holidays.
Ummmm, we never invited them. We live about a 10-hour drive away from them and we were just there in April. Not easy because my husband is self employed and anytime not working means no income.
We have not told anyone in the family that were TTC because we all know how stressful that would be. Ive started treatments, IUI (with sperm washing at a different location from where the IUI clinic is, its a day-long thing). Femara, daily injectables, ultrasounds several times a week etc.
I am in my early 40s and cannot put this off. Every month could be my last chance. I cannot just take a break for a month at this age. Im already on a break this month because of residual follicles.
Having my in-laws here stresses me out desperately. It doesnt have anything to do with them being my in-laws, it could literally be anyone. It has to do with me being the hostess, maid, short-order cook, Christmas present shopper, Christmas picture organizer, Christmas card writer and sender, bookkeeper for our business , etc. I could go on and on. PLUS the fertility treatments. It absolutely ruins Christmas for me. I feel like I cannot enjoy myself. That makes me very angry. Not to mention that we are still at the end stages of construction and my house is the messiest its ever been and Im VERY sensitive about that.
I have fantasies about running away from home, and honestly, I think I would if not for the fact that I need my husband in order to get pregnant. My hubs is really a wonderful man, but he is wrong wrong wrong in this situation. He should have IMMEDIATELY told them that he would talk to me and see if this will work out for us.
My hubs is self employed so his schedule is very difficult to predict. I know hell be working at least some of the days his parents will be here. They would be staying at a hotel just like they did last year, but that was of little relief as they were here from sun up to sun down. Again, I love these people and enjoy being with them. Its not them personally, its the fact that I just dont feel like I can deal with this extra stress while TTC.
I mean, how am I supposed to hide my injectables in the refrigerator where they cant see them? What am I going to say when they ask where Im going when Im getting my ultrasounds and acupuncture and taking my millions of supplements and doing weird fertility things? Not to mention that my hubs typically doesn't feel very sexy when they're around (if you know what I mean).
How do I get out of this? Im not angry at my in-laws, Im angry at my husband but how do I get out of this without hurting my in-laws feelings?
Its also possible that Im being ridiculous. Please tell me if I am.
BUT, a couple of weeks ago during their weekly phone call, my mother and father in-law told my husband that they had bought their train tickets and gave him their itinerary for their visit with us during the holidays.
Ummmm, we never invited them. We live about a 10-hour drive away from them and we were just there in April. Not easy because my husband is self employed and anytime not working means no income.
We have not told anyone in the family that were TTC because we all know how stressful that would be. Ive started treatments, IUI (with sperm washing at a different location from where the IUI clinic is, its a day-long thing). Femara, daily injectables, ultrasounds several times a week etc.
I am in my early 40s and cannot put this off. Every month could be my last chance. I cannot just take a break for a month at this age. Im already on a break this month because of residual follicles.
Having my in-laws here stresses me out desperately. It doesnt have anything to do with them being my in-laws, it could literally be anyone. It has to do with me being the hostess, maid, short-order cook, Christmas present shopper, Christmas picture organizer, Christmas card writer and sender, bookkeeper for our business , etc. I could go on and on. PLUS the fertility treatments. It absolutely ruins Christmas for me. I feel like I cannot enjoy myself. That makes me very angry. Not to mention that we are still at the end stages of construction and my house is the messiest its ever been and Im VERY sensitive about that.
I have fantasies about running away from home, and honestly, I think I would if not for the fact that I need my husband in order to get pregnant. My hubs is really a wonderful man, but he is wrong wrong wrong in this situation. He should have IMMEDIATELY told them that he would talk to me and see if this will work out for us.
My hubs is self employed so his schedule is very difficult to predict. I know hell be working at least some of the days his parents will be here. They would be staying at a hotel just like they did last year, but that was of little relief as they were here from sun up to sun down. Again, I love these people and enjoy being with them. Its not them personally, its the fact that I just dont feel like I can deal with this extra stress while TTC.
I mean, how am I supposed to hide my injectables in the refrigerator where they cant see them? What am I going to say when they ask where Im going when Im getting my ultrasounds and acupuncture and taking my millions of supplements and doing weird fertility things? Not to mention that my hubs typically doesn't feel very sexy when they're around (if you know what I mean).
How do I get out of this? Im not angry at my in-laws, Im angry at my husband but how do I get out of this without hurting my in-laws feelings?
Its also possible that Im being ridiculous. Please tell me if I am.
Sorry to hear about your situation! I wish I could do something to help you,I wish I could send you my mini fridge so you can hide your injections in your room.
