ttc my story. would love some advice or hope cos really obsessin and stressin :(

[lilblonde]

Hi everyone. im new here and am trying concieve baby number four. been preg four times before and had one miscarriage before my middle child.
she has downs syndrome so that is another concern i guess although i had her at 24 and so dont really believe in statistics anymore!! anyway im now 37 and and me and hubby been having unprotected for about three yrs. in that time we havent really been trying as such and about 2/3 of the time he had various stress related sex probs including not being able to ejaculate during sex very often ( about a few times a month max) and had erectile dysfunction. in the last say year it has cleared up. all seems ok. anyway we decided about five months ago to really go for it and ttc. and now its almost announced between us i feel under pressure and worry there is somethin up. cos it hasnt happened. my friends all had more babies and im so grateful for my children but seems so horrid i just want one last chance. and keep thinkin maybe its too late, my hormones have been measured and im ok and also went for scan of my womb and stuff and its fine. im currently using a clearblue monitor to check my ovulation. first mth and it saw highs for a wk and then a peak, we did it around then and like i said im now obsessing. day 22 of 29/30 cycle. boobs hurt but probably pms anyway. i want advice and some support. cant talk to anyone and dont wana put more pressure on fella. thankyou all in advance. lil blonde from uk

 

[maybethisit]

Hey x just to say it took us a year of actively trying (we conceived a couple of months after my 40th birthday) - I read a fertility specialist saying that a lot of people take more time to get pregnant simply because they don't dtd often enough and at the right times - I think this was possibly part of the delay for us. We made an effort to dtd a lot just before ovulation, having discovered that the day or two BEFORE ovulation are the best days to have sex on if you want to conceive; carried on for a few days after just to make sure, and used Pre-seed because of not having much EWCM. You never know for sure, but I think these are the things that made the difference for us. Anyway, definitely not too late at 37, and your tests have all come back fine, so it's probably just a matter of time! Gl xx

 

[grandbleu]

Here's some advice!

I agree with Maybethisit - that 1 or 2 days before Oday is the best for conception. I O on the 14th day and both times we've fallen pregnant we've only BDed on CD12/13.

Also Conceive Plus was my new best friend. It took us almost 2 years for our 1st BFP and only 2 cycles with Conceive Plus and we got our BFP the second time.

 

[lynlouc]

Hi Lilbonde , i too am going to start ttc for #4 in a few months , i really hope that your lucky soon and get your positive bfp , it may sound daft but because i caught so easy with other 3 i dont really know anything about "best times " and "preseed ?" but this time i know im older and alittle bit larger shall we say so will prob need all the help i can get ...im already takin folic acid and will just keep praying for sucsess xxxx

 

[sarah876]

Right I am 35 and have 3 children 17, 13 and 6 and in oct 2010 i missed a period. Then after about 4 days started spotting so i took pregnacy tests because i felt pregnant all negative, 2 weeks after missed period i went to my GP who did another urine test (No5) and it was negative i told him i felt pregnant and he reasured me i wasnt and booked me in for a scan incase anything else was wrong and also did some blood tests, 1 week later started bleeding but really bad and was in a lot of pain went to out of hours gp she did another test that was also negative but admitted me into hospital because i was tachycardic and in alot of pain.
I had 2 further tests on the ward both negative then had an external and internal scan that showed i had a fibroid, stayed in hosi for 3 days with heavy bleeding, which they put down to the fibroid even though its tiny 1cm in diameter they couldn't explain it. Then when i got home there was a letter off my gp asking me to book an appointment and come in and see them. I did and first thing she said was congratulations your pregnant i explained everything that had gone on and was sent back to hospital with suspected ectopic pregnancy immediately. There i had another test (no9) that said negative so they gave me a further 2 blood tests. Both showed my hcg level was coming down and that i had, had a MC or chemical pregnacy what ever that is.

So for next 3 months tried again and nothing then after my period in Jan decided enough was enough, we had intercourse twice 5th Feb and 14th, never did it in the favorable positions for conceiving never lifted bum for 30mins after. In fact the 5th was 2 days after i should of finished ovulating, I went and got a bath straight after sex and then we out for a drink .

I excepted a new job offer in work was feeling like i was getting my life on track and just concentrating on the 3 kids i already have. I was due on on Thursday 17th Feb, guess what no period now a week late had 7 tests all negative my cycle is like clock work even after the miscarriage it went back to normal, and seeing though i already have 3 kids and only time i was ever late i was pregnant. When i was due on I had the most painful backache and griping period type pain the whole time now its gone and still no menses, so back to Gps i went, this time there listening and i have had a blood test today but scared now that my hcg level is so low hence why its not getting picked up in urine, that maybe i cant sustain a pregnancy or im going through some kind of early menopause or theres something else wrong down below.

The lady who took my blood said that sometimes quite rarely hcg level can be too high and wont show up because the test doesn't understand it, the prozone effect (hook effect), what the hell it that??? I think i might be going mad and actually want my period to come because don't think i could go through another MC anyone else had false negatives??????

 

[lynlouc]

Bless you , sorry cant help but havin read your thread thought id just say hello as we have alittle in common (both 35 with 3 kids already ) . really got my fc for u and hope you get the pos bfp very soon , keep in touch xxxx

 

[maybethisit]

I don't know why, but I have read some women's stories on here who just get really late bfps - it's not as unusual as you'd think. Hopefully you'll get a positive result soon. xx

 

[babyanise]

Hi everyone. im new here and am trying concieve baby number four. been preg four times before and had one miscarriage before my middle child.
she has downs syndrome so that is another concern i guess although i had her at 24 and so dont really believe in statistics anymore!! anyway im now 37 and and me and hubby been having unprotected for about three yrs. in that time we havent really been trying as such and about 2/3 of the time he had various stress related sex probs including not being able to ejaculate during sex very often ( about a few times a month max) and had erectile dysfunction. in the last say year it has cleared up. all seems ok. anyway we decided about five months ago to really go for it and ttc. and now its almost announced between us i feel under pressure and worry there is somethin up. cos it hasnt happened. my friends all had more babies and im so grateful for my children but seems so horrid i just want one last chance. and keep thinkin maybe its too late, my hormones have been measured and im ok and also went for scan of my womb and stuff and its fine. im currently using a clearblue monitor to check my ovulation. first mth and it saw highs for a wk and then a peak, we did it around then and like i said im now obsessing. day 22 of 29/30 cycle. boobs hurt but probably pms anyway. i want advice and some support. cant talk to anyone and dont wana put more pressure on fella. thankyou all in advance. lil blonde from uk

hi,i have been tcc for 3 yrs in march and not so much of a line.im 43,44 in march so in dec just gone i decided to give up as id had enough,so for 2 months we didnt worry about anything baby related,it was a huge weight off.during the 2 months we changed how we ate ect then this cycle decided to try again with the tcc,we dtd on cd 6,cd 11 and cd 13,o day and that was it and also we dtd in the spooning position which is diff from how we normally do it,tmi,instead of taking it out stright away afterward he kept it in for just a few mins,the i lay in the same pos for a few mins more then went to the loo and nothing cam out at all,we did this on all the 3 times we dtd and i got my this cycle,so please dont feel down,there is always hope.i hope this has helped you just a little.good luck to you.

 

[SNOWBABE]

It's so positive to see these kind of successful TTC stories to us over 40+yrs. I know it may take us a wee while longer to TTC but it shows we aren;t out of the reproduction line as yet....we're good to go...
I am 41 (42 soon), got few kids and TTC as Ive decided to keep going. I have been trying not actively rather lazily actually to catch on so all the PMA here is wonderful.

 

[Janie66]

The lady who took my blood said that sometimes quite rarely hcg level can be too high and wont show up because the test doesn't understand it, the prozone effect (hook effect), what the hell it that??? I think i might be going mad and actually want my period to come because don't think i could go through another MC anyone else had false negatives??????

Hello Sarah, this is exactley what i had, the hook effect, last year, I was going out my mind with it too, one min i was showing preggers on tests, then next I wasnt, yet I was pregnant,took 3 futher spaced out blood test's to show my hormone levels. I relate to how you felt, and you do think your going out your mind...... I sadly lost my angel at 11 weeks tho with a misscariage (I was bleeding on and off throughout my pregnancy) , last may 0/10. I hope your ok and it's not what you fear the most xx

 

[Dinnerlady74]

Sorry to barge in on this convo ladies but i only joined today and havnt a clue how to start off my own thread! I too am trying for a baby albeit number 3,nearly 37 now so a long time since my last one(Nearly 9 years) and it feels like im trying for the very first time.

 

[maybethisit]

Sorry to barge in on this convo ladies but i only joined today and havnt a clue how to start off my own thread! I too am trying for a baby albeit number 3,nearly 37 now so a long time since my last one(Nearly 9 years) and it feels like im trying for the very first time.

Hello! Yep I know what you mean - my youngest is 15 and I feel like a first time mum... Best of luck and don't let anyone discourage you - sometimes it takes a bit longer but we get there xx

 

[Dinnerlady74]

This is my first month of trying and im due to take a test at weekend....................im hoping its a BFP but not holding out much hope so soon!

 

[deinekatze]

Sorry to barge in on this convo ladies but i only joined today and havnt a clue how to start off my own thread! I too am trying for a baby albeit number 3,nearly 37 now so a long time since my last one(Nearly 9 years) and it feels like im trying for the very first time.

well It is my #2 but after 20 years! so believe me you are sitting pretty ;-)

I am 40 too, will be 41 in May. I think we all can do it and yeah, it certainly feels like the first time for me now cause so much has changed!

 

[Dinnerlady74]

Sorry to barge in on this convo ladies but i only joined today and havnt a clue how to start off my own thread! I too am trying for a baby albeit number 3,nearly 37 now so a long time since my last one(Nearly 9 years) and it feels like im trying for the very first time.

well It is my #2 but after 20 years! so believe me you are sitting pretty ;-)

I am 40 too, will be 41 in May. I think we all can do it and yeah, it certainly feels like the first time for me now cause so much has changed!

Good luck trying anyway! Im not happy today as woken up with what feels like bad period cramps...................desperately hoping its not but will have to wait til monday to see if af turns up

 

[deinekatze]

Sorry to barge in on this convo ladies but i only joined today and havnt a clue how to start off my own thread! I too am trying for a baby albeit number 3,nearly 37 now so a long time since my last one(Nearly 9 years) and it feels like im trying for the very first time.

well It is my #2 but after 20 years! so believe me you are sitting pretty ;-)

I am 40 too, will be 41 in May. I think we all can do it and yeah, it certainly feels like the first time for me now cause so much has changed!

Good luck trying anyway! Im not happy today as woken up with what feels like bad period cramps...................desperately hoping its not but will have to wait til monday to see if af turns up

chin up...look at this site https://www.countdowntopregnancy.com/early-pregnancy-symptoms/top-10-early-pregnancy-symptoms.php

 

[lilblonde]

sorry for long time replying. had lots of stress this mth. truly awful
even made me ovulate early!
thankyou for ur well wishes.
im so up and down right now. one min i think yes this will be it and next oh why will it be. it never did before! hugs and congratulations!!!