TTC Over 35 - Should I Worry Yet?

[weebubba]

Hi all. My OH and I have been TTC for 10 mths. We are hoping for a beautiful baby to complete our family. We both have children from previous relationships and would love to have a child together. We TTC 2 yrs ago but circumstances changed and we put it on hold. Anyhow, I suppose my concern now is my age! I know I'm not old but do worry that as I'm 36 my fertility is not likely to be what it was. Should I be concerned yet or wait a while longer before seeking advice from doctor? I did make a general enquiry and the doctor told me not to worry as we are both clearly fertile people given that we both have children already. Tbh this doesn't make me feel great. My youngest is almost 8 and my eldest 16, so its been a while and I worry I've left it too late to have a baby. Anyone know how long I should wait before I genuinely should seek help? Sometimes I tell myself to be grateful for my beautiful children and stop feeling sorry for myself and others I feel like I've plenty of time and I shouldn't worry - yet! Any helpful advice would be appreciated.

Thanks for reading my rant

 

[Glitterdiva]

Hi there
Just came across your post. I feel exactly the same, worried we've left it too late. We're both 38(well I am in 3 wks) and we've been TTC for 8 months. I must admit I never thought it'd take so long and I just hope to goodness my eggs are still playing ball! Ie booked to see the doc in couple wks as I'm determined to Try and get tested somehow, despite last time them just telling me to keep trying.....grrrrrrr.....
Good luck xx

 

[myra]

From the research I'd done before getting pregnant, I believe that most specialists will see you if are 35+ and have been ttc for 6 months (1 year if under 35), so I'd recommend you try contacting one. I started down that route, had a bunch of tests done, confirmed that everything was as it should be-- and then ended up getting my bfp before i'd made a decision to move forward with any treatments.

I got my BFP exactly a month after I turned 39... and I'm 10 weeks now with my first..so it certainly isn't too late at all!

 

[sad eyes]

Hello I am feeling the same I am 3 months into being 38 and feel I waited to long.I just want baby #3 so badly.So now I am charting.I am willing to do anything you all may suggest.Thanks,Liz

 

[myra]

I forgot to mention, until I saw your post sad eyes, that after having an early miscarriage in June, I started seeing an acupuncturist who specializes in fertility. I'd never had accupuncture before so didn't know what to expect, but the sessions are actually very relaxing and I often fall asleep during them. I got a sticky BFP (fingers crossed!) 3 months after starting accupuncture. I really believe that these treatments were a significant factor in helping me conceive and continue this pregnancy.
I'm going on a weekly basis until I start second tri when I'll drop to every other week. I also credit my treatments with having such mild morning sickness.

I also charted & did OPK and discovered that the optimal time to for us to have sex was no more than 2 days before I ovulated. The two times our schedules worked to have sex 2 days before O, I got pregnant. 3 days before didn't work.

 

[sad eyes]

I forgot to mention, until I saw your post sad eyes, that after having an early miscarriage in June, I started seeing an acupuncturist who specializes in fertility. I'd never had accupuncture before so didn't know what to expect, but the sessions are actually very relaxing and I often fall asleep during them. I got a sticky BFP (fingers crossed!) 3 months after starting accupuncture. I really believe that these treatments were a significant factor in helping me conceive and continue this pregnancy.
I'm going on a weekly basis until I start second tri when I'll drop to every other week. I also credit my treatments with having such mild morning sickness.

I also charted & did OPK and discovered that the optimal time to for us to have sex was no more than 2 days before I ovulated. The two times our schedules worked to have sex 2 days before O, I got pregnant. 3 days before didn't work.

I am happy for you that you are pregnant and I thank you for your advice.I will look and see if there is a good place around here for accupuncture

 

[weebubba]

Congratulations on bfp. Plan to visit doc in the new year after the stresses of Christmas have passed!