TTC unsuccessfully for years... advice please?

[Lisafairy95]

I am in desperate need of advice. I've been TTC for a few years now, I've had a previous partner before that time that I also TTC with without any success.
I have mild endometriosis which was removed via a laparoscopy in March this year, however I still am having absolutely no success conceiving baby number one.
I've had numerous internal/external scans, ovulation tests, normal period cycle... all is normal.
I have bad pain during the initial part of sex, this has been over the last 5 months and the doctors are at a loss as to what to suggest. They refuse to investigate into my hormone levels, which I am going to get tested privately myself as that's the last thing that I think it could be - possible hormone imbalance.
It's just affecting my mental health and putting strain on my relationship (we aren't even "trying" now, just remain sleeping unprotected).

Has anyone else experienced this? Or finally had their miracle BFP? Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

I just feel a piece of me dies every time I come on each month.

 

[cutestuff]

I can see how that may happen. I hope what I type next will give you some hope. I don't personally have experience with endometriosis but my mom did. I have been with my husband for just over 12 years. The first 4 or 5 years I was on birth control but then stopped just cause I did not like what it did to me. For the next 6 years we just used withdrawal but never got pregnant even though by most reports that method is the least reliable method. even when we started actively ttc it took 9 months to get my bfp. I am sitting here 7 months pregnant and hoping you get that elusive bfp

 

[froggyfrog]

What type of dr are you seeing? You and your oh need to get into a specialist. For a healthy couple it can take up 12 months to conceive, and then after that it's suggested to see a specialist about it. If your over 35 it's 6 months. Your hormones definitely need to be tested. As well as your tubes checked and your uterus checked to insure implantation can be achieved. It is hard to ttc for a long time. We have been ttc for over 5 and a half years. It's definitely a roller coaster. One thing that helps us is talking about the fact that couples often don't survive infertility and what we can do to make sure we do. We discuss our feelings openly and honestly. We decided a long time ago, that we married each other for love, not to make a baby. And even though It would take a grieving process, we would be 100 percent ok with our lives just us if we had to. Timed intercourse takes the romance out, so we have found ways to spice up baby dancing. Just hang in there! And get to a specialist!

 

[misty7523]

Pain during intercourse is what convinced me to see a doctor about the possibility of endometriosis. I initial started seeing a obgyn at my pcp office. This doctor did not believe me. So I sought out a specialist on my own and in one appointment he scheduled my laparoscopy. I have moderate or stage 3 endometriosis. My doctor told me I have 6 months ttc using clear blue digital ovulation predictors. The problem with endometriosis is as long as you are having a period it can continue to worsen. This is why I was given such a short time before looking at other options. If you have been trying for some time with no result you probably should consult your doctor or seek a new one who will work better for you. As for the pain I have found using a lubricant can ease the pain a little, just make sure its one for TTC. I really hope this helps or at least lets you know your not alone.

 

[LilFooshFoosh]

We were given a less than 4% chance to ever conceive on our own due to my stage 4 endo and DH's low motility. We still conceived 5 times, giving us 2 healthy children (4.5 yrs apart), 1 second tri loss and 2 chemicals.

Endo does get worse with every period. Looking back I wish I had gone back on bcp to get the endo under control and tried again after 6 months instead of plowing through.

Our kids came from natural cycles with no intervention. We had 3 failed IVF (ICSI) cycles (that when we had the 2 chems) and 2 failed IUI. It took 6 months for DS, 34 months for our lost baby and then 2 months for DD.

You should definitely seek out a specialist.

Good luck