Tthf

[MyTurnYet]

Hello can I join you lovely ladies? I would like to chill with you hehe xx

Welcome, Missy!

P.S. You're going to love it in here.

 

[MyTurnYet]

Tryfor, just checked your test page and saw your post on your blood test results!!! Soooo happy for you.

Jaimie, you were named after the Bionic woman? How cool is that? That was my favorite show growing up!

The story was sooo gross, but funny! Can't wait to tell DH.

Ladies, very tired tonight as meant to go to bed early last night but wound up having to stay up way late for school stuff. Going to chill out on the couch w/ DH and watch some good Thurs. night TV. Will catch up more later. Goodnight!

 

[Jaimie2Eyes]

WOOT for your blood test Julia (i think I'll just randomly switch between julie and julia - seems like fun)!!! And I love your thought about the prayer. It is funny because my MIL sent me the St. Jude novena today and I'm workin' it. I'm a chronic shopping cart catholic ; O

G'night Miss Cranky Pants! Glad you loved the James Brown story - hope it doesn't give you nightmares! I'm also glad you remember the bionic woman - I'm really dating myself by saying I was named after her.

Honeybee - I'm so glad you are tipsy and chillax! That is one of my favorite states of consciousness : )

 

[LuckyD]

I am afraid I am turning in (as in being a little self obsessed lately) and finding it hard to comment on everything I read here. My DH has got delayed ejaculation now and has not been ejaculating this month. I know I will ovulate today or tomorrow and these last few days I have been crying a lot because I do not know how to get him to ejaculate. This is the first month it has been so bad - the rest of the time we still did manage to get some sperm. Seeing the dominant follicle yesterday has really made me want to ctach that egg and now it seems it will not be - no amount of trying has helped this month. I've kept quiet cause I know he hates me talking about it, but I am so down - we already took last month off (and he did ejaculate then - I think)

He says he wants a baby, but then what is going on? He won't speak to anyone about it. I have been so down lately and this is usually the best time of my cycle. I feel like there are so many things standing in my way of becoming pregnant that this is just the last straw. Sorry to vent here - once I ovulate I should feel better either way because either I will have the 2ww to obsess over or it will be too late for this cycle and there will be nothing I can do about it. Right now though I am very miserable.

I am so sorry that you are feeling miserable Tanikit does sound like a very tough situation and I can see why it is getting you down. I wish I had some more advice - but the other girls answered so well. I guess research and relaxation could be a good combo? I hope you are doing ok

Hello can I join you lovely ladies? I would like to chill with you hehe xx

Welcome MissyMooMoo!

Morning Ladies.Took 2 tests this morning, both bfn
Really thought we had it this time, oh well at least we get to keep having more fun trying!~
Sorry Jullia, don't think I will be bump buddy with you until next month!!!

Ah crap, so sorry Soph. What dpo are you? Could it just be too early? I hope so! Seeing a BFN is a big fat bummer. You doing ok?

Anyone in the UK watch Outnumbered, you just gotta laugh at the kids, apparantly a lot of it is just improvisation by the children. It's so funny

I have only see a few, but that little girls is hilarious! She is amazing...

I tested yesterday and got bfn, but ff has changed my ov date so now I am only 8dpo again, so I am still hopeful.

Hey, that's good that you are now 8dpo - still really early! Good luck xx

So I think I need to find a cave when I'm on the rag. I was doing SO well last night - DH was being super supportive and sweet. I was able to tell him little things that disappointed me about this particular cycle - like being bummed that we don't get to tell our family in person about a BFP, seeing my friend's baby, all that crap. And he was just hugging me and helping with dinner and just being super great. And then we went to bed and for some reason I decided to bring up this crap from two months ago - back then he said "maybe we'll never have a baby, it won't be the end of the universe". That has just really stuck in my craw and last night it was bothering me something fierce. I should have kept my mouth shut though because when I told him that bothered me he got really defensive and we got into a terrible fight. It was awful. I sobbed my heart out. We made up around midnight and finally got some sleep but I just can't take these knock down drag out fights every cycle. I know it is mostly my fault, and DH is getting really scared of me I've got to find a way to take it easier when Aunt Flo shows. Either that or find a cave - seriously!

So sorry love, I hate those nights where you just argue until the early hours of the morning. Don't blame yourself too much it's a wonder that we don't all completely lose our minds with all this TTC business, an argument now and again is no big deal! But I know that it doesn't feel good - hope you are doing ok

i feel so different this month, it's so strange. like, i really am tthf. i dont feel any stress, we bd when we want not coz it's part of a 'schedule'. so strange. im not even stressed about dh going away even though i havent peaked yet. thank god, or i'd probably be having a nervous breakdown! lol. it's weird. i havent felt like this since before we started ttc.

I like this very much! So glad that TTHF is working so well for you...that's got to be a good thing! xx


Right, off to check out Julia's blood work updates......

 

[LuckyD]

Yay for positive blood work Julia! Woo hoo!! That is SO awesome and I am SO happy for you! You're our first TTHFer to get a BFP!! My heart is glad for you xxxx

 

[soph77]

Firstly, welcome MissyMoo!!! Nice to see you here!

Soph The 999 reasons to laugh (at infertility) blog had a contest for the best alternative BFN expressions and these were the winners:

a Beer Feels Nice
Busted Feminine Nest
Bummed For Now
Belief & Faith Needed
Be Freaky Now

Also Soph - what does your DH mean by "on the rag in your mouth?" is he referring to the possibly nasty things a gal might say while she is on the rag? Of course I never say anything nasty when I'm on the rag, hence my confusion

Love those bfns!!! Especially beer feels nice, but i'd like to change it to bvodka feels nice

When dh says 'what, in your mouth?' he is referring to getting a headjob

Morning Ladies.Took 2 tests this morning, both bfn
Really thought we had it this time, oh well at least we get to keep having more fun trying!~
Sorry Jullia, don't think I will be bump buddy with you until next month!!!

I pray that you tested too early for your body. I would absolutely wish and pray for my friends from BnB (my absolute close BnB friends) to come with me. I am excited and torn all at the same time. It's so hard to be completely happy with my 'news' when I know exactly how it feels to see the red demon. I am sorry soph you are feeling like poo.

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I hope so too!!! I will be testing again on Sunday so fingers crossed I've got a late implanter. But seriously Julia, don't you dare feel bad about getting your bfp, we are all for one here and am so happy for you!

I did feel a little narky about another pregnant teacher today at school. We were sitting at lunch and she was complaining about being so tired, which I get. But then she goes on to say how annoying it is that pregnancy takes so long and she just wishes it was over already. Get this - she is only 18weeks!!! She has only just the tiniest bit showing!!! When I am pregnant I will be enjoying every second of it, in fact when I was pg with ds I went 10 days overdue, but I didn't care because I loved being pregnant so much. Grrrr stupid teacher....
Anyway, thats my grumble for the day

 

[soph77]

Oops, messed up my multiquote there

 

[MissyMooMoo]

MissyMooMoo - I want to eat that puppy in your pic. I mean seriously, I just want to nom it right up! Too friggin' cute. Is it yours?

Yes lol. She is Missy and we have a boy one called Pugsley....both pugs

 

[Tanikit]

Julia yay for good blood test results! So happy for you.

Soph I'm sure its too early for you to test - especially if you are 8dpo.

Been reading up quite a lot. My gynae recommended DHEA and I read about Tripulus (maybe the worng name, will have to look it up again) which both might help if only my DH will swallow it. We may also see a sex therapist though neither of us is that keen to. I should ovulate today I think so that will mean I have missed this cycle unless by some miracle we get it right (and even then the sperm would be old so probably wouldn't work) Still feeling very down about this.

Jaimie hope you feel better soon - I also hate those nights when that happens.

MyTurnYet hope you had a good evening with your DH and feel less tired soon.

 

[Annamumof2]

Well i'm still spotting and the nurse i spoke to said that not to worry it will go soon, and if i get bad cramps go to the A&E asap grrrr i knew there a waste of time

 

[soph77]

Julia yay for good blood test results! So happy for you.

Soph I'm sure its too early for you to test - especially if you are 8dpo.

Been reading up quite a lot. My gynae recommended DHEA and I read about Tripulus (maybe the worng name, will have to look it up again) which both might help if only my DH will swallow it. We may also see a sex therapist though neither of us is that keen to. I should ovulate today I think so that will mean I have missed this cycle unless by some miracle we get it right (and even then the sperm would be old so probably wouldn't work) Still feeling very down about this.

Jaimie hope you feel better soon - I also hate those nights when that happens.

MyTurnYet hope you had a good evening with your DH and feel less tired soon.

No I'm 12dpo, which I know is still kind of early, but something should have come up by now unless I just have a super lazy blastocyst that is just taking its sweet-ass time cruising the fallopian tube, happily cell dividing away, along its way to my nice, warm, inviting uterus, oblivious to my frustration and dismay.

Jamie, I am glad you made up with dh before going to bed. I have picked a fight with dh when I was feeling frustrated before. I accused him of not wanting a baby and purposefully not bding on the right days to avoid, when really he was having performance anxiety. I turned into a crazy woman. Thankfully he has gotten over the performance anxiety thing and is now happy to deploy his soldiers when needed - he just needs the rest of the cycle to recover!

Tanikit, I am so sorry you are going through this with your dh. I hope he is open to getting a little help, but I can imagine that the worse it gets, the more he will feel like a failure, which in turn will add the pressure thus making it worse, and so the cycle continues. Hopefully with a few 'successes' his confidence will improve and you will get what you need!!!

Julia, way to go on the bloods my friend!!!! WooHooooooooooo

 

[CelticNiamh]

Hi girls sorry I'm posting and running again

Tanikit hugs hun so sorry about what happening and hope you get it sorted soon

Jaimie to you as well hun I find this month I just went very quite when AF arrived I didn't want to talk to any one. my mum and sister were a distraction though.

Soph I hope you tested to early, you too BBdreams FX for that BFP

I am off to the doctor soon I am going to ask for my thyroid to be checked, and I think I keep getting recurrent thrush so blood sugars as well. I think I need to sort out my body first and then when the times right I talk DH in to trying again.

But I'm afraid I'm not any more I'm out for the foreseeable future, I am very lucky to have my 4 so lucky... may be I'm just greedy wanting one more!!! plus I think I will wait on till DH has that job and we have more money in our pocket. my sister not in a bad way, mentioned waiting on till we were more financially secure and you know what she is right. I need to think with my head and not my heart.

I wont vanish though, I want to know how you are all getting on and sure I will need help to keep my mind off my baby fever its so bad! mother nature is cruel

Tryfor so happy for you I will be watching to see those lines get darker

 

[soph77]

I am off to the doctor soon I am going to ask for my thyroid to be checked, and I think I keep getting recurrent thrush so blood sugars as well. I think I need to sort out my body first and then when the times right I talk DH in to trying again.

But I'm afraid I'm not any more I'm out for the foreseeable future, I am very lucky to have my 4 so lucky... may be I'm just greedy wanting one more!!! plus I think I will wait on till DH has that job and we have more money in our pocket. my sister not in a bad way, mentioned waiting on till we were more financially secure and you know what she is right. I need to think with my head and not my heart.

I wont vanish though, I want to know how you are all getting on and sure I will need help to keep my mind off my baby fever its so bad! mother nature is cruel

Tryfor so happy for you I will be watching to see those lines get darker

Niamh I am sorry to here that you are taking a break from trying but you need to do what you need to do. Your health is important and you need to get that sorted first and foremost. I completely understand the need to go with your head for a while, even when it hurts your heart. I have had to put trying off for a while until it made sense logically for our family even though I have been wanting another for a long time. Sometimes your head knows best, and in no time at all I am sure your heart will be able to get what it wants too. Don't dissapear though hun!

 

[bbdreams]

Okay girls, so I am confused this morning. I woke up about an hour and a half early so I took my temp then and it was really low then I went back to sleep and took it again an hour and a half later and it was really high 98.2. So, if I put in the low temp at 4:30 ff moves my ovulation day back again and puts me at 10dpo, but if I put the high temp in it leaves my o day at what it moved it to yesterday and puts me at 9dpo... It seems like my o day just keeps going back and forth... I dunno which temp to use...

 

[soph77]

Hmmm bb, thats a tough one. Temps say O on cd15, but monitor and cm say cd16. Guess you could just go with either, but keep the other in mind. I hate it when my data doesn't match!

 

[Jaimie2Eyes]

No I'm 12dpo, which I know is still kind of early, but something should have come up by now unless I just have a super lazy blastocyst that is just taking its sweet-ass time cruising the fallopian tube, happily cell dividing away, along its way to my nice, warm, inviting uterus, oblivious to my frustration and dismay.

I love this, very well written Soph! I do hope it is the case.

I am off to the doctor soon I am going to ask for my thyroid to be checked, and I think I keep getting recurrent thrush so blood sugars as well. I think I need to sort out my body first and then when the times right I talk DH in to trying again.

But I'm afraid I'm not any more I'm out for the foreseeable future, I am very lucky to have my 4 so lucky... may be I'm just greedy wanting one more!!!

Aw Niamh - I do hope that getting your thyroid and sugars checked helps you out, and that you soon feel confident in your health. I completely see what you are saying about putting ttc off for the time being, but I also hear you on the ticking time bomb that is our biological clock and the cruel urges mother nature imparts. I really hope you find your way through this without feeling the terrible longing that AF makes so acute. I really need to figure out how to do that to - just sort of put the "trying" part aside and hope for the best without getting frazzle dazzle I really wish you all the best hon - you've been so supportive and I want to support you in your way forward. You are allowed to check on this thread because it is all about TTHF and not TTC

Thanks for all the support and reassurance ladies - It helps to know I'm not the only one that keeps DH up till midnight bawling my eyes out! All those poor hubbies out there...

MissyMooMoo - two adorable pugs? How do you keep from squeezing them all the time?

 

[Jaimie2Eyes]

Oops - forgot to say to BBdreams - I think you might have ov'd on CD 14. I try to keep in mind that FF is just a guide but doesn't have any sensors in our uterus so it ain't perfect. Have you been charting long enough to have a fairly good intuition about it yourself? I would trust your instincts. I tend to err on the side of the temp dip indicating ovulation because I get that fairly consistently in my charts.

And in the name of TTHF and getting less obsessed, I've decided not to temp this month. I'm really regular so I'm quite certain my window is CD 13 - 16. I may try the softcups though - I think Julia used them the past few cycles. Gonna stick with the EPO and grapefruit for my CM, vitamins and good clean living for DH's spermies, and trying to let go of the longing...just gotta trust that our bodies are made to procreate and that some day we'll get our hearts desires!

 

[CelticNiamh]

Soph thanks I wont vanish I cant LOL I would only be wondering how every one is.

BBdreams hmmm hard one my head would tell me to use the temp that leaves me at 10dpo (closer to testing and makes my chart look good) but think may be the one that 9 dpo might be better. may some one knows more.

I am booked in for an internal and bloods next tuesday, I am deffo taking a break NTNP and I want to lose weight see if that helps I guess I will know more when I get the results of my blood test a week after.

still feel crap and tired and get this so bloated and my (.y.) have gotten to big for my bra so annoying grrrr.

 

[Annamumof2]

well i think i had some ovulation pains today, not 100% sure though

 

[tryforbaby2]

Niamh, you do what makes sense to you at the moment. I'd love to still here from you once in awhile if that's ok. The other girls responses were perfect.

bbdreams, boy your O day is confusing to me by the sound of it! I bought a bbt 8 months ago and never used it. Not once. Don't have the energy in me to remember to use it before I open my eyes. PLUS my DD wakes me up at all different hours anyway! Wouldn't be accurate for me. Fingers Crossed!

Soph, Maybe thats what's going on?....I love the story about the little ball of cells taking the scenic route to it's home. Have you had any symptoms at all? If you didn't thats still good too!

LuckyD, how are you? You are in the Tww right? Any symptoms for you? Yes, I did realize that I am the first TTHF'r to get a bfp.Thats nice! I am hoping all you girls are going to be following me very very soon. I won't dare step into 1st Tri yet. I am not ready. I want my bestest gals with me!!

Jaimie, chronic shopping cart catholic eh? lmao My name stands for Serenity, St. Julia (thats what my MIL said!). Hmmm? I wonder what St. Jaimie is? Is that a catholic name? How are you feeling? Is she on her way out yet? She usually only bothers you for 3 days right?

I did use softcups for the past three cycles. I really do like them. They look intimidating but they are super easy and very comfy. I just liked the peace of mind knowing that at least half of DH sperm is sitting up there at my cervix and eventually most will go in (picture: sperm trampoline)...

Oooo I gotta go company is here,Ill catch up soon!!!