Two early losses back to back- September and now November 2016. Looking for support X

[Emma241179]

Hi everyone, I'm kind of new and looking for some shoulders to cry on! So sorry for all of your losses.. losing a baby at any stage is simply the worst feeling in the world.

I am already a mum to my beautiful boy who is 2 and a half- DH and I conceived him very easily and I think perhaps this has unrealistically raised my expectations of TTC the second time around..

I have now had two 'chemical' pregnancies back to back- one in September and one as we speak.. both between 5 and 6 weeks. I know this is very early on and it must be so incredibly hard for those miscarrying later on; but I'll be honest.. I feel crushed. I can't shake the feeling that there must be something wrong.. Why I am I conceiving successfully but then failing to carry? The NHS (I'm in England) won't investigate until your 3rd MC and I feel like its such a huge leap of faith to try again in a bid to get answers. I had IUGR (Intrauterine growth restriction) and oligohydroamnios (low fluid) with my DS and I keep thinking perhaps there is something underlying this and my two early losses?

Has anyone else experienced several early losses and then gone on to be successful?

Desperately searching for hope..

Love to you all,

Emma xxx

 

[kdmalk]

Stopping by to give big hugs. I had 2 losses back to back myself. One at 9 weeks and one at 5 right after. And I'm rocking my rainbow baby to sleep as I type this.

I also had the feelings of self-doubt and crushing sadness. There is nothing anyone can say to bring your babies back and it is so hard to try again with the fear that it could all go wrong again. But don't worry! Take time to mourn and heal, then try again when you are ready. It's a leap of faith, but it's all worth it when you hold your rainbow.

Hugs

 

[CanadianMoose]

I'm the same hun I had a chemical in July, then implantation didn't stick in October. (I only have one tube so we think I ovulate every other month.) we are hoping to jump start my system into ovulating this month with natural estrogen boosters, but sometimes you just gotta grieve it out, crawl back out of that hole of sadness and try again. I don't want to waste any time in my cycles of eventually getting my Rainbow babe. Time is not on my side anyways so I got to look at it and go "it wasn't ready to be, the science didn't match up this time, so next time!" Then make the steps and adjustments to hopefully raise my chances for next time.

You just gotta keep getting back up and duking it out with nature to finally get that desired dream in your arms. Wishing you strength and courage to try again next cycle, and the good fortune to be successful.

Also, this might help sweets. Alot of the time it's not your fault hun, the genetics just don't match up. It's common and natural, so don't stop trying and don't give up!