Here is my story..
I first fell in may after trying for about two months. I started to bleed at seven weeks and lost the baby. Everyone said the typical sayings like "it was not meant to be" or "don't worry, everyone has a miscarriage and then they go on to have normal babies" and "your next one will be fine".
So, I got over it and fell quite soon after. This one I carried till three months. I felt completely nauseous the whole time and always tired. I was really pregnant! I knew it was meant to be. It came to three months and we managed to tell all our family as we thought we had accomplished the worse time period to miscarry. I then went for the twelve week ultra sound to find this baby had anencephaly. I was devastated. About five minutes before this, I was watching another expecting mum in the waiting room looking at her u/s pictures and thinking, this will be me soon. During the u/s, the lady asked me if I had taken folic acid which I replied yes to. Apparently, I found out later, low dose folic acid does not always protect from all neural tube defects esp anencephaly. I had to terminate the baby.
We then found out that this baby had an inversion on one of it's chromosomes. This could have been a one off or it could have been passed on from myself or my husband. If one of us are a carrier, this means that we will have more miscarriages. We are currently having tests done now.
The reason why I am writing this is because I hurt so much. I am angry, I cry almost every day. It has been three months since the second one and I am still not back to myself.
I am scared to try again although we have been having unprotected sex. I would like to know if anyone has been through something similar or if they have any advice.
I first fell in may after trying for about two months. I started to bleed at seven weeks and lost the baby. Everyone said the typical sayings like "it was not meant to be" or "don't worry, everyone has a miscarriage and then they go on to have normal babies" and "your next one will be fine".
So, I got over it and fell quite soon after. This one I carried till three months. I felt completely nauseous the whole time and always tired. I was really pregnant! I knew it was meant to be. It came to three months and we managed to tell all our family as we thought we had accomplished the worse time period to miscarry. I then went for the twelve week ultra sound to find this baby had anencephaly. I was devastated. About five minutes before this, I was watching another expecting mum in the waiting room looking at her u/s pictures and thinking, this will be me soon. During the u/s, the lady asked me if I had taken folic acid which I replied yes to. Apparently, I found out later, low dose folic acid does not always protect from all neural tube defects esp anencephaly. I had to terminate the baby.
We then found out that this baby had an inversion on one of it's chromosomes. This could have been a one off or it could have been passed on from myself or my husband. If one of us are a carrier, this means that we will have more miscarriages. We are currently having tests done now.
The reason why I am writing this is because I hurt so much. I am angry, I cry almost every day. It has been three months since the second one and I am still not back to myself.
I am scared to try again although we have been having unprotected sex. I would like to know if anyone has been through something similar or if they have any advice.
It's ok to cry, we are only human 
but you are a strong woman to come out with your feelings and seek comfort and help. I hope only the best for you, and that your lab results come back alright and your future is bright!
