um, can i join you? prematurely till january...

[BobDog]

Hi ladies and gents if there are any in this section?

ok, i know this is a little premature, but we are going to be going through a lot of what you are going through, and i think i need to prepare myself for what is to come.

we are a young couple, i'm 25 and dh 23. we are married and have been TTC baby number one for 30 months! i would say cycles but my cycles are irregular, i am still on my august cycle! and there is no sign of it ending! i have PCOS, was diagnosed at 16. dh's SA a little above average so we know the problem is me. we have done every test going and most done twice or 3 times, and everything came back "normal"! we have done 3 cycles of clomid. but no sticky beans.

so our next appointment with the GYNO is to get our referral to the fertility clinc for IVF, though i'm not sure the FS will want us to have IVF, i'm going by what the GYNO said. so i want to prepare for IVF and if our first port of call is IUI or something else then it will be easier to deal with.

i would like to hear from people who have or are going through ivf. what was your experience like? was it successful? how did you feel while going through it? and how did your OH take to it? sorry for all the questions but i just want to know what is in store.

thank you for taking the time to read.

xx

 

[hollyw79]

Hello! I am sorry it's been such a challenge! Lots of hugs! I am like you in that nothing I am doing starts til January. I went with my DH to get everything checked out and turns out his SA did not come out good AT ALL and we were told it would be near impossible for us to get preggos on our own- so our first step is IUI. I go Thursday to talk to my doctor about the game plan for January. I'll definitely keep my fingers crossed for you and let's both hope for spectacular results come January!

 

[BobDog]

aww that is a shame for you and your DH. is he coping ok with the results? we our appointment is to thrash out our concerns with what is to come, i doubt we are actually going to meet our FS till march time, which is frustrating as we have been waiting long enough! it's been a little over 2 years since we were referred to our GYNO and it's taken this long to get where we are now.

it's frustrating all this waiting isn't it! annoyed.com lol

i so hope you get your bfp soon. might see you in 1st tri at the same time?! lol

xx

 

[hollyw79]

Oh man- let me tell you ~ I had to deliver to the news to DH from the nurse and that was ROUGH. Totally crushed. He literally laid in bed half the day after we found out. I think we're both still absorbing the news. I already have an 8 year old son from a previous marriage. DH told me BEFORE we went that he would be devastated if he never had one of his own~ he is INCREDIBLE with my son..

Why will it take so long for you to see a FS??? Is it because they are so far booked out? Can you go see someone else? Thankfully~ my OB is a FS too and that was the main reason I went to him from the start. I am also grateful that my OB was VERY proactive and not into the wait and see approach. When you do go~ stress the importance of handling it NOW - not later. I think many docs are quick to sort of just "poo-poo" people away.

I'm sorry you're visiting annoyed.com ... I'm currently at the disappointed.com page myself.. disappointed that it's probably not going to happen naturally... I actually left work early last monday before we found out bc I got a positive OPK and we BD'd in the early day AND at night hoping to catch it @ the right time ... I KNOW I ovulated that day... I am still praying maybe we NATURALLY got preggo this past month.. I should know by the end of last week .. how great would that be- get preggo BEFORE we whip out the treatment!

Do you think once you are successful with the first one~ you will use BC after that??? I told DH since it's such a difficult thing that I didn't even want to try and prevent another preggo again until we are officially done having babies!

 

[fluffystar]

It is certainly a rollercoaster when TTC esecially so when it doesnt go to plan and you end up going down the assisted conception route. You will get loads of support from the ladies on here no matter what stage you are at.

I know when we realised we would need some help, I started reading up on all sorts but somtimes it doesn just blow your mind!! Cant stop that curious human nature though! I do hope that your journey is a short one.

I have recorded all my thoughts on my own little blog (see bottom of post) and I know that some ladies start journals which they find helpful. I find it nice to have a special place to record your thoughts and hope to be able to look back on it someday soon when I have a BFP and just how far I have come. We are coming to the end of our first and hopefully last cycle of IVF so feel free to read my ramblings on how we got there and dealt with it along the way .

fluffy xx

 

[crystal443]

Hiya,

Firstly is that a Newfoundland pup in your photo?

We are going to be starting up IVF in January, it was tough pill to swallow because we have two kids 12 and 14 which I did have issues concieving but nothing like this. I am now 36 and we had decided it was time to seek help, I haven't been on any form of birth control since before my 14 year old.

I was told unexplained infertility and everything has come back normal, I had my scan yesterday to check my ovaries before I start stimming and there were follies growing, the lining was perfect it just doesn't happen for us. We were told IUI would not work (less than 5% chance it would) and it was a total shock for me, I thought they would say IUI and we would work our way up to IVF. I'm fine with it now but I still find it frustratiing that everything is normal and yet no pregnancy.

My DH is fantastic!!! He's never hesitated on IVF he's made phone calls to the clinic to get information he goes to every appointment. I'm very lucky he's on board and has made this easier to go through, you've come to the right place for support and answers to questions all of these ladies are great!!

 

[BobDog]

Oh man- let me tell you ~ I had to deliver to the news to DH from the nurse and that was ROUGH. Totally crushed. He literally laid in bed half the day after we found out. I think we're both still absorbing the news. I already have an 8 year old son from a previous marriage. DH told me BEFORE we went that he would be devastated if he never had one of his own~ he is INCREDIBLE with my son..

Why will it take so long for you to see a FS??? Is it because they are so far booked out? Can you go see someone else? Thankfully~ my OB is a FS too and that was the main reason I went to him from the start. I am also grateful that my OB was VERY proactive and not into the wait and see approach. When you do go~ stress the importance of handling it NOW - not later. I think many docs are quick to sort of just "poo-poo" people away.

I'm sorry you're visiting annoyed.com ... I'm currently at the disappointed.com page myself.. disappointed that it's probably not going to happen naturally... I actually left work early last monday before we found out bc I got a positive OPK and we BD'd in the early day AND at night hoping to catch it @ the right time ... I KNOW I ovulated that day... I am still praying maybe we NATURALLY got preggo this past month.. I should know by the end of last week .. how great would that be- get preggo BEFORE we whip out the treatment!

Do you think once you are successful with the first one~ you will use BC after that??? I told DH since it's such a difficult thing that I didn't even want to try and prevent another preggo again until we are officially done having babies!

that must have been horrid to have to deliver that news yourself! i imagine it would take some time to get over that news, BUT if there is something that can be done it sounds like you have the right doctors.

it's taken us this long because there is only 2 GYN drs where i live (the western isles of scotland) and they are both of the mind "give nature time" sort of people, but clearly nature is not on our side. the nearest fertility clinic to us is just over 200 miles away if that is the one they are going to send us to! so we would have to arrange things around DH working off shore. unless they can freeze his swimmers and then have it ready and waiting for when it's needed.

no i don't think we are going to bother with BC after our first, i like the idea of having our babies close in age, but i can't see us getting pg that easy even after a successful IVF. but i would be thrilled if we did. i wan't a failry big family, 4 children would be ideal, but one would be a blessing in itself.

i really and truly wish you the best. and LOADS of baby dust

xxx

 

[BobDog]

It is certainly a rollercoaster when TTC esecially so when it doesnt go to plan and you end up going down the assisted conception route. You will get loads of support from the ladies on here no matter what stage you are at.

I know when we realised we would need some help, I started reading up on all sorts but somtimes it doesn just blow your mind!! Cant stop that curious human nature though! I do hope that your journey is a short one.

I have recorded all my thoughts on my own little blog (see bottom of post) and I know that some ladies start journals which they find helpful. I find it nice to have a special place to record your thoughts and hope to be able to look back on it someday soon when I have a BFP and just how far I have come. We are coming to the end of our first and hopefully last cycle of IVF so feel free to read my ramblings on how we got there and dealt with it along the way .

fluffy xx

i was hoping that i could find someone or some people who i can lean on so to speak. DH is wonderful about all this TTC, but i can't bend his ear all the time, otherwise he might just get turned off lol.

i will have a proper read of your blog, it's what i've been looking for! a real life account of what we might face. everyone seems to say everything matter of factly and not really going in to the nitty gritty of every day living when going through IVF. and i know it is going to be hard and a full of ups, downs and twists. but er are more than willing to do it because we will end up with our complete family! and that is what is keeping us going. i don't think i could go through life childless!

thank you for your support and for you blog!

xxx

 

[BobDog]

Hiya,

Firstly is that a Newfoundland pup in your photo?

We are going to be starting up IVF in January, it was tough pill to swallow because we have two kids 12 and 14 which I did have issues concieving but nothing like this. I am now 36 and we had decided it was time to seek help, I haven't been on any form of birth control since before my 14 year old.

I was told unexplained infertility and everything has come back normal, I had my scan yesterday to check my ovaries before I start stimming and there were follies growing, the lining was perfect it just doesn't happen for us. We were told IUI would not work (less than 5% chance it would) and it was a total shock for me, I thought they would say IUI and we would work our way up to IVF. I'm fine with it now but I still find it frustratiing that everything is normal and yet no pregnancy.

My DH is fantastic!!! He's never hesitated on IVF he's made phone calls to the clinic to get information he goes to every appointment. I'm very lucky he's on board and has made this easier to go through, you've come to the right place for support and answers to questions all of these ladies are great!!

yes that is a newfoundland puppy in my pic! though she is not much of a pup now! she has just turned a year old and is now in heat! i'm so glad we have laminate flooring through the house! although i think we are needing a new mop...!!!

yes it is a hard thing to accept. i've been through the whole feeling sorry for myself and now my PMA is coming back finally! there is a wee light at the end of this very long tunnel. even though it is light from medical intervention, it is hope.

My DH is wonderful too! he listens when i bang on about TTC and he asks me about testing cm and all sorts! bless him! he has even humoured me when i got the soft cups and asked him to (tmi) drop his load in it and then put it in me! lol! but i don't think i made any difference so we gave up on that.

i am glad i posted in here. i think i might like it. as there are a few more people who i think will get where i'm coming from.

xx

 

[crystal443]

I thought she was we live in Melbourne now (hubby is Australian) however I am Canadian and we had a Newfoundlad as well, his name is Riley the big goof bag, when we moved here I had to leave him with my mom...good news is that he lives with his sister Winifred ( I know what a name for a dog). He's 3 years old and we miss him so much drool and all!! I got excited when I saw your photo..lol..I'm a nerd

We did consider putting the goods in manually at one point...lol thinking that might work. I think we've tried everything except me standing on my head, maybe that's the problem that's the one that'll work...lmao.

 

[BobDog]

i'm a bit of a nerd too. i'm a pet groomer working from home so i get to spend a lot of time with her. she is a big dog with big character and an even bigger heart! lol! i had my nephew at the beach in august and she was there too, cant go to the beach without her! lol! but we went paddling and kyle my nephew went in a little to deep and got a bit scared, bella my newf went in and took his hand in her mouth and walked him out! she was only 9 months old! and that is why i love these beautiful dogs, i've never known such a good natured dog in all my days! and that is a comfort for when we do get our blessing. she is already good with children!

i had done the standing on my head thing too! i didn't work! i kept tilting a little and using muscles to rebalance myself and that made me (tmi) push it all back out! but by nature they swim up, so that would have just confused them anyway! lol

xx

 

[hollyw79]

I agree that even though medical intervention may be required~ there is still light in the tunnel! Science has come A LONG WAY and I am so incredibly grateful for that!

I am glad your husband is so supportive Jen! Mine has been great too.. what I like about here is that I can talk about it more frequently without laying all of the burden on DH sometimes... I think I like to talk about it more!

 

[4magpies]

Hey, I'm at the same stage as you.

Gynae is reffering me to FS. I have 2 blocked tubes, waiting for SA test for OH which I am sorting next week and my day 3 & day 21 bloods.

I have a feeling they may try unblocking my tubes with another op and then if that doesn't work I think we will have to go down the IVF route which TBH terrifies me.

I am also quite young. I am 23 & OH is 24 nearly 25.

xxx

 

[hollyw79]

I know pursuing IVF isn't @ the top of my list either. The good thing is that you KNOW what the issue may be... I think what would be hard to swallow is when everything just looks so perfect and it's just not working... I think I'd be more frustrated.

I get 3 attempts @ IUI before moving on to IVF- and my insurance will only pay for one- Maaaaaaybe 2 attempts @ that and then I am on my own paying for it- which won't happen because it's just beyond expensive here where I live.

 

[BobDog]

4magpies yeah its hard to accept these things, but on the positive side, something IS getting done and they aren't dragging their heels on you. you guys are young and by the looks of it you are going good guns with loosing weight! well done you!! i've been struggling to loose weight! and it's the time of year where it tends to pile on!
but i am thinking of going for the gastric balloon or band. but it depends on when app is with FS.

i wish you LOADS of luck and baby

 

[4magpies]

4magpies yeah its hard to accept these things, but on the positive side, something IS getting done and they aren't dragging their heels on you. you guys are young and by the looks of it you are going good guns with loosing weight! well done you!! i've been struggling to loose weight! and it's the time of year where it tends to pile on!
but i am thinking of going for the gastric balloon or band. but it depends on when app is with FS.

i wish you LOADS of luck and baby

I was looking at balloons. Then I joined SW and lost 2 stone, its the best diet I have ever done. Would 100% recommend it.

Before I just wanted to lose weight cause I felt bad about myself, so it was a little slow and I was bad at it. Now I know I NEED to lose weight to get treatment its the best motivation I have ever had.

Wish you luck too honey.

xx

 

[BobDog]

4magpies yeah its hard to accept these things, but on the positive side, something IS getting done and they aren't dragging their heels on you. you guys are young and by the looks of it you are going good guns with loosing weight! well done you!! i've been struggling to loose weight! and it's the time of year where it tends to pile on!
but i am thinking of going for the gastric balloon or band. but it depends on when app is with FS.

i wish you LOADS of luck and baby

I was looking at balloons. Then I joined SW and lost 2 stone, its the best diet I have ever done. Would 100% recommend it.

Before I just wanted to lose weight cause I felt bad about myself, so it was a little slow and I was bad at it. Now I know I NEED to lose weight to get treatment its the best motivation I have ever had.

Wish you luck too honey.

xx

whats SW?? if you don't mind me asking?

 

[4magpies]

Sorry. Slimming world.

X

 

[crystal443]

i'm a bit of a nerd too. i'm a pet groomer working from home so i get to spend a lot of time with her. she is a big dog with big character and an even bigger heart! lol! i had my nephew at the beach in august and she was there too, cant go to the beach without her! lol! but we went paddling and kyle my nephew went in a little to deep and got a bit scared, bella my newf went in and took his hand in her mouth and walked him out! she was only 9 months old! and that is why i love these beautiful dogs, i've never known such a good natured dog in all my days! and that is a comfort for when we do get our blessing. she is already good with children!

i had done the standing on my head thing too! i didn't work! i kept tilting a little and using muscles to rebalance myself and that made me (tmi) push it all back out! but by nature they swim up, so that would have just confused them anyway! lol

xx

They are the best natured dogs for sure, if I ever get another dog it would be a Newf without a doubt we thought about it here but its just too hot for a Newf it would be cruel in the summer, so if we ever go back to Canada it will be one of the first things we get.

I think anyone that tries standing on their head to get pregnant should not be having fertility issues DH has just started his Summer Break he's a school tech, we chose this time of year so he'd be off for appointments etc. but our business is so busy we'll end up working through the summer anyway...

 

[crystal443]

I know pursuing IVF isn't @ the top of my list either. The good thing is that you KNOW what the issue may be... I think what would be hard to swallow is when everything just looks so perfect and it's just not working... I think I'd be more frustrated.

I get 3 attempts @ IUI before moving on to IVF- and my insurance will only pay for one- Maaaaaaybe 2 attempts @ that and then I am on my own paying for it- which won't happen because it's just beyond expensive here where I live.

I read this and chuckled because I had an appointment on Wed with my FS and she had to do a scan to decide on a dose for stimming and she was looking at my ovaries and lining and said perfect well within normal and I seriously wanted to kick her. I don't know what came over over me but I was so frustrated I wanted to kick the poor woman.

It is so frustrating when everything comes back normal and there's no reason, I still find it hard to accept, the FS was telling us that about 20%-30% of women having difficulties will get an unexplained infertility as a diagnosis but only 2%-3% of those are true unexplained meaning everything is normal and regular etc. and there's no pregnancy.
Best of luck with your IUI Ive got fingers crossed it'll work!!