the_babymama
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Hello Ladies!!
I'm pregnant with my first, and just need to vent. I am 30 yrs old, and ever since I've become pregnant I've had the strangest things occur, the main thing that really gets to me is the unwanted advice. For instance, when I first turned 29 yrs old I had a cousin of mine tell me to hurry and start trying because the risks of having a baby with defects of deformities rises, now she's on my back constantly wanting to know full details of every appointment, she wants to know exact dates, and such... she even suggested me leaving my doctor and coming to her workplace and sign on with a doctor she recommended! I also have another woman in my family telling me to try a lose weight because according to her I'm too big and will risk having a high risk pregnancy.. I'm 5 months pregnant and my doctor has never mentioned any of this to me. And finally last night ON MOTHER'S DAY of all things, I visited with another cousin of mine that I haven't seen in years, and she literally followed me around telling me all these stories of a woman who she supposedly personally knows that had a baby with CMV, my response was well my doctor has done all the screenings on time, everything looks good. She continues on to say doctor's don't check for this unless requested, and it will lead to horrible birth defects, blindness, and hearing loss, just all these horrible things!! It really irritated me! This isn't the first woman that has approached me with comments like this. And to be honest, it really gets to me, it lingers on my mind all the time and drives me nuts and I go through hours of research online and can hardly wait for my next Dr.s visit to go over this with him. My question is, has this happened to many of you? And does it usually come from people who should be close to you? I finally got so ticked off after last night and just stopped the conversation with a "Thanks for your concern, but I'm kind of busy" and walked off mid conversation. I then thought, maybe I'm hormonal and just being bitchy, but then again THEY AREN'T DOCTORS!!!!!
I'm pregnant with my first, and just need to vent. I am 30 yrs old, and ever since I've become pregnant I've had the strangest things occur, the main thing that really gets to me is the unwanted advice. For instance, when I first turned 29 yrs old I had a cousin of mine tell me to hurry and start trying because the risks of having a baby with defects of deformities rises, now she's on my back constantly wanting to know full details of every appointment, she wants to know exact dates, and such... she even suggested me leaving my doctor and coming to her workplace and sign on with a doctor she recommended! I also have another woman in my family telling me to try a lose weight because according to her I'm too big and will risk having a high risk pregnancy.. I'm 5 months pregnant and my doctor has never mentioned any of this to me. And finally last night ON MOTHER'S DAY of all things, I visited with another cousin of mine that I haven't seen in years, and she literally followed me around telling me all these stories of a woman who she supposedly personally knows that had a baby with CMV, my response was well my doctor has done all the screenings on time, everything looks good. She continues on to say doctor's don't check for this unless requested, and it will lead to horrible birth defects, blindness, and hearing loss, just all these horrible things!! It really irritated me! This isn't the first woman that has approached me with comments like this. And to be honest, it really gets to me, it lingers on my mind all the time and drives me nuts and I go through hours of research online and can hardly wait for my next Dr.s visit to go over this with him. My question is, has this happened to many of you? And does it usually come from people who should be close to you? I finally got so ticked off after last night and just stopped the conversation with a "Thanks for your concern, but I'm kind of busy" and walked off mid conversation. I then thought, maybe I'm hormonal and just being bitchy, but then again THEY AREN'T DOCTORS!!!!!
