Undecided. Please help

[lcy]

I haven't been on here in 6 years apparently but I could do with a little help please?? I hope this is the right place to post?
I'm 43.5 and DH is 47. We have truly gorgeous DD who is 4.5 & about to start school. Where did that time go?
I have an incompetent cervix caused by multiple procedures to remove failed pregnancies. To that end I had a cerclage with DD at 22 weeks when I started labour, lost my plug etc.
We had four miscarriages prior to having our DD, I had hormone suppositories daily, took low dose aspirin, a cerclage, early labour at 22 & 30 weeks, and had to be horizontal in bed to prevent further dilation for 4.5 months. Managed to get to 38 weeks though😃
During a planned section, I had a cord prolapse and DD was found to have IUGR and was 5lbs 11oz due to being breech for most of the pregnancy.
Would you do it all again for another LO? I had the best consultant who came out at 1.00am to deliver DD and would have him again. Talking with him I would this time have a preventative cerclage at 12 weeks but may still have to remain on full bed rest with a five year old to look after.
If you've read this far, thank you and Id love to hear your thoughts please xx

 

[Lucy139]

It seems like a lot of hard work if you were to do it al again BUT if it's what you really want 9 months of hell for years and years of joy will be so worth it xx

 

[oldermom1975]

It seems like a lot of hard work if you were to do it al again BUT if it's what you really want 9 months of hell for years and years of joy will be so worth it xx

Well said! Totally agree.

My cousin's wife did just that, BTW.

 

[Vonn]

Congrats on your DD!! It sounds like you had a really awful go of it. The question is, was it worth it to you? My guess is your answer is yes because if it wasn't, you wouldn't even be on this site getting support. You already know that you have to expect the same difficult experience with a second pregnancy. The difference is that you now have a 5 yr old. You will not really be able to care for her if you are on bed rest for months, so if I were you, my main concern would be making sure there's adequate help with her so you can focus on being safe and healthy while pregnant! That's my 2 cents. Good luck with your decision & lots of baby dust to you!

 

[lcy]

Thanks for your responses everyone. The things that's holding me back is not being there for my DD and spending that time with her. It makes me feel quite sad although I know I'd have time afterwards. Loved every minute of DD so far x