Ungrateful people = RANT!!!!

[Shelby2007]

Here's my story..

My name is SARA*
I married my husband November 8, 2008 after 4 beautiful years!
Found out we were expecting on December 30th, 2008
Had an early ultrasound at 9 weeks on February 2nd.. and found identical twins with no heartbeats.
Miscarried on Febuary 10th, 2009
Got the green light to try again on April 28, 2009!!

My sister in law got pregnant and had my beautiful nephew in October of this past year. Her and my brother decided to get married in June of last year.. because they were pregnant.. and it was "the right" thing to do. They fight ALL the time.. and do not appreciate their beautiful baby! They are constantly threatening divorce.. and this and that. They are NEVER happy with what they have.. and everything that I want or have.. my sister in law wants or gets it.. except a baby..

You know what I would give to have a beautiful baby.. but NO here I am .. starting all over.. and then we just find out that my OTHER (future) sister in law is pregnant!! GRR.

My RANT is.. that my sister in law (19) that has a baby is constantly throwing it in my face.. and I just want to slap her.. today she found one of our names that we had picked out.. Khyler Rey.. and all of a sudden has decided to name her future little girl Khloe Rae.. she doesnt even appreciate the one she HAS... but yet she is ALREADY naming her next kid. I could have really slapped her today when she said that to me.. we picked Rey because it is my OHs little brothers middle name.. and we are very close with him.. and thought it would be soo special to have our first born named after him. But cheesh..

Has anyone else had this happen to them.. they tell their names.. and someone they know gets pregnant and names their kiddo that.. I have a feeling my sister in law is silly enough to get pregnant again really soon.. and she would so do this to peeve me off.. she likes to get me all riled up!! and sad thing is.. is that is works..

I really wish I wouldnt let her get to me.. and Im sorry for the rant.. I probably sound like an ungrateful bitch myself.. but in reality.. i just want a family.. and know that I would appreciate it..

 

[Shelby2007]

**Im sorry to sound so ungrateful.. it just hit me wrong.. I had a hard week last week.. and then mothers day.. and ugh.. and I was suppose to be 23 weeks yesturday.. I should know what the sex is of my baby.. and just when I thought things were getting easier.. I get a slap in the face.. but Ive gotta stay positive.. and know that our time will come..

Thanks for listening.. **

 

[redball]

Don't be so hard on yourself. The feelings you have sound perfectly normal. And I would be really pissed if someone decided to take a name that I picked out; especially when there is sentimental value to it.
I hope things happen for you soon!

 

[yamkins]

mood swings much? not to worry, people will always be who they are ! that is really messed up though, it's crossing the line! but take a look at your advantage and who will be getting the divorce first (NOT you obviously!) so relax and if you like to get even hit her up with those beautiful 4 years that you have been in love and are now happily married!


Good luck on everything! :]

 

[Las78]

Hun I really feel for you. I can understand how you must feel about the name. My sister had a m/c a long time ago now, there is 7yrs between us and I therefore started my family a lot later than her. I knew she had wanted to call the baby she lost Bianca. I have always loved that name but because that was the name for the baby she lost I decided there was no way I could do that to my sister, regardless of how long ago it was as you never forget and I could never have been that thoughtless.

I'm sorry your sister in law has been so spiteful, there is no need for it. Can you perhaps have a word with her and explain how that makes you feel as if it does happen hun it is just not fair on you. Or perhaps mention another name and say how much you love it, any name, hopefully she will then decide on that one.

It's so sad that they seem ungrateful for everything they have, some people don't realise how lucky they actually are, especially when it comes to having children. I watched the programme about children in care last night and it really bought it home to me, I got quite upset to see little boys especially, in care, some of them being moved several times as I lost a little boy and would do anything to have a son.

Thinking of you hun and hope you get your BFP really soon x

 

[Shelby2007]

Las78.. i had been thinking of another name to tell her.. but now that she knows thats what we had picked out.. she will just rub it in my face to get me riled up.. she does this to EVERYONE around her.. including my brother.. she is just the type of person that gets underneath peoples skin..

I wish I wouldnt let her get to me.. because now that she knows.. theres no hope for that name.. I told my OH id like to still name our babygirl Rey.. if whatever happens and she does have a little girl first.. but he hates my SIL.. so we shall see what the future brings us!!!

Thanks ladies.. I was having a horrid day yesturday.. and she is the one person that gets under my skin..

 

[Eiroze]

Use the name anyway It means alot to you two and alot of children in the world have the same names ^_^ Plus I'd love to see your SIL's face when she realises she's named her kid something she doesn't want just to spite you and it hasn't worked =P

*big hugs*

 

[Shelby2007]

Eiroze.. thanks.. that would really show her that she hasnt gotten to us.. because she is just doing this to get to me.. I needed that! Thanks so much.. because I know she doesnt like the name Rae.. or Rey.. whatever.. she is just doing this to get us riled up.. but Im not gonna let it get to me anymore!!!

Thanks.

 

[BritAcrossSea]

I think its awful when people do things like this, especially when its your SIL. I learnt the hard way with my SIL but over wedding dresses and let's just say I wouldn't make the same mistake again. What is it with SILs?

So don't trust this girl 'cos if she's upfront with the fact she is going to pinch the name you've chosen then that's it - she's not nice and someone who you can't tell stuff like that to. Nasty piece of work me thinks !!

 

[massacubano]

I wish you luck on TTC!

 

[Shelby2007]

I agree Brit.. she isnt a nice person.. and is really sneaky about stuff.. and I wouldnt put it passed her AT ALL to name her baby that.. or to even try and get pregnant before us just to prove her point.. I think that her and my brother need to grow up.. but I am better than this..

The stupid thing is is that I didnt tell her.. she saw the name on a piece of paper.. and then game up with the brilliant idea to name her baby that.. Id still like to name mine Khyler Rey even if she does get pg with a girl first.. just to prove my point..a nd I will constantly remind my beautiful daughter that she is named after her uncle.. not her cousin..

 

[rachjim98]

Wow.. This has really pissed me off and I am high on Morphine.. Didnt think anything could upset me but this has... I am so sorry you have to deal wth such mean people. I would of smacked the crap out of her. But you know what I think what you guys have come up with about getting her into another name and see what she dose. I would still name your sweet baby what ever you want Sara, screw her!!!

 

[Shelby2007]

Ha. I love ya Rach.. you are great and I believe we will stick with Khyler Rey.. its just so dard pretty.. might end up using it for a boy or a girl.. Ha.