Unwanted

[Kayley]

I feel like I'm a bad mummy

Me and my daughters dads both have 50/50 access which was agreed mutually. I work 4 days a week 7am-5pm (it was 5 but recently cut down to 4) so on my nights by the time we get home it's pretty much time for bed. So I am not getting much time with the girls until my weekends (and now Fridays too)

I spend quality time with both girls before they go to bed, talking to them about their days and then reading together.

During the week my eldest DD is often very tired and grumpy after school but we deal with it.

However my youngest DD is currently going through a phase where when I pick her up she crys, she says she doesn't want me and wants to stay with her grandma or daddy. Normally we get through it and go about our evening as usual but today when I turned up she didn't even say hello before she started - I couldn't help but break down in front of her dad and grandma today. I feel so rejected and heartbroken.
I know she was playing a game with her daddy and didn't want it to end and her grandma reassured me that she was asking for me after preschool today but I can't help feeling unwanted and like I'm just not good enough mummy. Why doesn't she want to be with me!?

 

[Rags]

She is just having you on because she knows how much you love her, try not to get to caught up in analysing yourself for faults. Also it could be a time of day thing. As the evenings get darker and colder the thought of having to get warm cloths on and go outside again can just be a bit to much (and that's me as an adult). It will pass and things will go back to normal, honest. It is so nice to hear that her gran is reassuring you too.

 

[moomin_troll]

Kids can be little sh*ts, they say alsorts just to get a reaction.
My son says horrible things to me sometimes, one of which is he doesn't want me, I just say well tough ur stuck with me unless u want to live on the streets haha that shuts him up

 

[stardust599]

Can you rearrange your days so that you have LOs mostly on the days that you are off? It's not really "your" days with LOs if you are working - it's whoever is caring for them x

 

[Kayley]

Can you rearrange your days so that you have LOs mostly on the days that you are off? It's not really "your" days with LOs if you are working - it's whoever is caring for them x

If I could give up work I would - but that's not going to get us any where! I do my best!