Update :)

[Cheyby]

So, where do I start?

Okay, firstly, my dad has started to be a lot more supportive, my parents are actually becoming more excited than I am hahaha.

Secondly, I had my first prenatal appointment today, it wasn't much but the GP did a physical examination (he poked around my stomach) and said it feels like I'm 20 weeks because my uterus is by my belly button (or something like that). He also did the HcG Blood test which will be back tomorrow morning and that should say how far along I am exactly. I'm quite sad that he didn't have an ultrasound scan machine in his rooms- I would have loved to see baba. BUT I managed to get an appointment with an ob/gyn for Tuesday. She's got me on standby- meaning I'll go sit there from the time she opens and wait for a space that might be available. I could wait all day tbh but I'm grateful she's taking me because lol, she's actually fully booked until the 18th of March and is only taking me because of how far along I am!

I hope that I can find out the baby's gender on Tuesday! I'm sooooo excited! I was talking to my mom and she was saying her doc with me refused to tell her what I was and everyone kept saying I was a boy but she knew I was a girl.

Thirdly, my OH is speaking to me again.

So, things are going well in life

Except for one thing, I'm not sure what to do about this yet... My parents don't want my OH or his family involved with the baby at all but his mom has been extremely supportive throughout my entire pregnancy- she's known since about 8 weeks and has given me advice for OH troubles, pregnancy questions and parent problems. She really wants to be a part of the baby's life. and I also do really want my baby to grow up knowing his/her father and family on his side.


And you guys, thank you SO MUCH for all the support! It feels amazing to have a beautiful group of ladies by my side to help me!

 

[daydreamerx]

I don't know your story but just remember it's your baby, if you want his or her father & that side of the family involved thats your choice (and IMHO they do have a right to be, if they want to be - its their grandchild too) Congrats & hope you get too find out the gender! Exciting

 

[xforuiholdonx]

I would say its not yours or your parents choice as to whether or not your OH and his family is involved because well, he is the babys father. Thats something theyll have to get over but im glad everything else is falling into place!!
Hcg levels probably wont tell you down to the day how far gone you are because they can range based on the woman but im glad you were seen!!!!

 

[mstennischick]

Yay! so happy for you! I knew your father would come around! But yes, it isn't technically yours or your parents decisions as to whether fob will be involved because legally, he has rights. Try to include him in things like doctors appointments and what not, and he'll grow more excited with you!

 

[Ashleii15]

I don't think that's right of your parents to want your OH and his family in on the baby's life as it is their grandchild/child too :/
Are you hoping for a certain gender?

 

[Cheyby]

hey guys. sorry i havent replied. i completely forgot about this thread. Anyways. oh hasnt spoken to me in about 2 weeks and hes not willing to help me out with the baby at all. he simply doesnt want to be involved. but his parents do. the thing is. neither of them work and his dad is involved with things on the wrong side of the law. Both of my OHs brothers (and my OH) smoke weed. and both of my OHs parents drink. i know if they wanted to fight for custody theyd lose. but the thing is i dont really trust OHs parents with the baby unless OH is involved because ifeel like hed make sure the baby always has everything hat s/he needs but more than once Iv had to send food for OHs siblings because his prents had no money and they wouldnt ask anyone for help. nor do they have any interest in getting jobs.
also iv tried to keep OH involved with the baby but every time i do he stops talking to me
Anyways. i think the babys a girl. but iil be happy with eithwr gender

 

[x__amour]

Sorry your FOB's being an ass.

 

[xforuiholdonx]

Having his parents involved doesnt have to mean dropping bubs off at their house and leaving. You could just take baby for a visit, or they could come visit you. Your oh needs a kick up his ass thats for sure!