Updated: Hospital appointment results

[Puddleduck]

Hi girls, well another cycle bites the dust, arrived yesterday after my third and final round of Clomid. So I am off for my referal tomorrow to the hospital. Don't know what to expect called the hospital (was in a queue for 12 mins...great NHS SERVICE) to ask about whether or not it mattered where in my cycle I was ? Apparently it doesnt unless you are bleeding heavily, which I am not, and it should be down to very little tomorrow I hope. She said they may take some more bloods and arrange to do a scan at another date but it will be mostly talking !!!!!!!!!!! God how much more talking have I got to do, I am so fed up and starting to despair about the situation. I turned 35 last Friday and I am feeling so down about the whole TTC thing. I just want some answers about why I am failing each month there must be something wrong inside. I feel so old and useless.

So tomorrow afternoon I am booked into see the Gynaecology unit doctor. Has anyone had one of these appointments ? if so what should I expect is there anything I should say or ask. I really want them to crack on with the Lap & Dye tests and get me booked in............


Thanks for listening, if anyone can shed any light on what I should expect with this appointment at the hospital I would appreciate it.

xxx

 

[lola]

I understand how you feel its incredibly daunting to finish clomid and be 'unsuccessful', please don't feel completely disheartened though. I don't know if this helps but clomid didn't work for me, other than to boost my cycle (well give me one) but I was able to concieve afterwards. My FS told me that this can often be the case as clomid can create a 'hostile' environment for conception but the long term effects on your cycle could be what aids conception in the future.

I really hope your appointment goes well tomorrow, best of luck for the next tests etc. I would push for the lap & dye, they should do one at this stage for you on the NHS.

 

[lola]

p.s. at my first FS appointment they did an internal exam, just to let you know incase you were'nt prepared for the possibility xxxx

 

[BizyBee]

 

[CurlySue]

Look at it this way. You are in a better position now than you’ve ever been. IUI and IVF have either the same or better success rates than TTC naturally. That will be your next option. I was in the same position last week. I saw it as a devastating thing. They I thought, one door closed. The next door that opens is a better one.

 

[Bexy]

Hey Puddleduck, sorry you're feeling so down - hopefully though the next step will be the one to bring on that elusive BFP!

I'm in same position as you, just finished my third and final cycle of Clomid and got the from hell on Saturday...just cried all day and generally felt sorry for myself.

Next appointment is 3rd February for next steps...

This ttc journey certainly is long and hard but hopefully we will all get what we want in the end!

 

[Puddleduck]

Thanks for your kind words girls. So nice to know I am am not alone, sorry for moaning about it. I cried yesterday am and could have all day but had to put a brave face on for DH who was so lovely about it but I know he was gutted too

Lola - thanks for the words of encouragement re: Clomid. I do feel devestated that it didn't work, I had such high hopes for this miracle drug... But that's really interesting what you said about it and that you were able to conceive afterwards. Yes I am ready for the examination I thought that's what would happen, bit embarrasing though with the witch here ! but hey I dont care just check me out so we can get to the next stage.

Fingers crossed for the next stage of my journey for my BFP, like Curlysue said one door closes another opens !!! I really have to start thinking positive as feeling depressed is not going to get me anywhere. It's so hard to pick yourself up after such a long time TTC though. I dont know where we all get the energy from I really don't ??

I feel so much better for talking about it now. I am going to stick my positive hat on and not let this get the better of me. I should be grateful for one small mercy though as my original letter from the hospital for my first appointment was supposed to be the 9th March !!!!!!!!!! but last Thursday I got a letter to say it had been changed to tomorrow.... fate perhaps ?

Thanks again, will keep you posted after my appointment tomorrow. xx

 

[Casper]

At my first appointment I was given forms to have all the bloods that the GP normally does, again. Also was booked for internal Ultrasound to check my ovaries. Asked the usual questions about how many times a week etc etc.
After 3 months I had the HSG test.

 

[bonfloss]

Hi Puddleduck, I am sorry to hear things are not going so good but try to remain positive. We had our first fs appt last Monday and it was just talking and history taking etc but I have been booked for a lap & dye which I am expecting in next 6 weeks as not a long waiting list. I was told if all ok with tubes etc then I will be commenced on clomid. I was under the impression that I only needed clomid if I wasn't ovulating but have been told this is not the case.

I wasn't examined and they went through DH's SA results which they have said were fine. I was a bit disappointed as I was all set to get referral for the assisted conception unit at local hospital but they said we are nowhere near that. I have also decided to put horse on hold for a bit incase we need the money and also selling my beloved 505!

I am a great believer in things happening for a reason but it's hard to think this way after so long but remember you are not alone.
xx

 

[Puddleduck]

Hey Bonfloss, nice to hear from you !! I hope the waiting list isnt too long for the Lap & Dye, I just want to get things moving. It's so frustrating all the waiting around and feeling hopeless.

Having already tried Clomid for 3 months and failed the doctor seems to think we would go straight to IVF if the Lap & Dye comes back fine. But that's doctors for you..... not sure if that info is correct. I took Clomid even though I ovulate so it seems it is given for unexplained infertility also.

Shame about the horse search on hold... I dont know what I would do without mine right now. Was lovely going out for a hack yesterday, just to escape and forget for a short time all the stress I am going though. Oh selling your 505 that's bad. I have a 510 least you should get a fair price for it as they keep their value really well.

One of my motto's is everything happens for a reason ... LOL but this one is wearing a bit thin now.... I wish it would just happen because we want it so much.

xx

 

[lola]

I think we have been TTC for around the same time, I remember back in Dec 06 when I started temping thinking it would never ever happen, then clomid seemed like the miracle cure from my GP then still nothing.....it seemed like I was completely broken and faulty as a woman. But I promise all these little steps you are taking, even if it feels like they are backwards are getting you closer to your dream

 

[hayley352]

good luck with your appointment, i am on my 6th cycle of clomid and have just been booked in for a lap &dye on the 19th feb. Hopefully they will give you another 3 months of the tablets. x

 

[Puddleduck]

Hi Girls,

Well I am back from my appointment at the hospital. Had to wait 1.25 mins as they were running behind time !!! I was a mess by the time I was seen felt like crying my eyes out but pulled it together in time. Was horrid as the area of the hospital I was seen was in the Maternity ward with lots of preggy women walking about going for scans with their OHs holding hands looking so happy .

Anyway appointment went very well, need to have more bloods taken at day 21 of my cycle and day 1 or 2 of my period. Specialist also wants me back on Clomid for another 3 months at 100mg (urgh more sleepless nights ahead then ) even though I do ovulate. Specialist also mentioned that we shouldnt go by what my doctor advised about BD'ing on days 10,12,14,16, he said there is no proof this works and by sticking to a timetable you are likely to feel under too much pressure and this can have negative effects. So we are to BD as and when we feel like it he say's 2/3 times a week is plenty. Certainly not everyday as that would lower the sperm count to nothing in the end.

I am also being put forward for the HSG and Lap tests. So I await the letters for my appointments for those.

So all in all a good result really. I feel relieved on one hand and anxious about what lies ahead in the other !!! Hopefully this is a step towards my first ever , please please please....

xx

 

[lola]

I'm so pleased it went well! xxxx

 

[Puddleduck]

Thanks Lola, thanks for the advise. I did have an internal, did loads of swabs for various things. Had a student doctor plus the specialist plus a nurse... all looking into me with the lamp shining down . How lovely. Luckily my period had stopped so it wasnt too bad !

 

[lola]

Its pure class isn't it! i'm pleased they have given you more clomid, it also increases the quality of your eggs and progesterone level, so hopefully for you, it will only take a few more tries before you get somewhere!

 

[Puddleduck]

Thanks Lola, I really hope so. FX.

xx

 

[bonfloss]

Glad to hear that things are now starting to move for you and yes you leave your dignity at the door when going to gynae!

Loving the new pic of you and the horse.
xx

 

[BizyBee]

Glad it went well.

 

[hayley352]

so pleased they are moving on with things xx