Upsetting news, They dont deserve their bundle of joy

[kiwilove]

I am so upset right now, and I may sound cruel but I need to get this out and I have no where else to rant so here it goes.

I am a family support worker. I work with parents who have lost their children, I do supervised visits and teach them parenting skills. It is a heartbreaking job but I do enjoy, well I DID enjoy it. I have faith in people being able to change and strongly agree that children should be with their parents as long as they are safe and taken care of.

Today I got upsetting news, not one, but two clients are pregnant. They are both addicted to drugs, which is the main reason they are without their children. It breaks my heart to know another child is going to grow up in the system. The two babies growing in their mothers wombs are already addicted to drugs. And who knows how they will turn out. They are already being abused and they have not even been born yet. These parents do not deserve their bundles a joy Their bundles of joy deserve so much better

I used to love my job, but now I cant stand it. Watching parents failing daily, it pisses me off more then I can stand it.

I have been TTC for almost two years with no luck. I am at my breaking point, I don't know how to deal with the failure to fall pregnant. I have been a rotten B*tch for months now because this whole TTC has me feeling depressed. I do have good days, and today started out great until the news.

I have found out about 2 other pregnancies this week, I am happy for them but also extremely jealous an hateful at the same time. I am all kinds of emotions today. I hate it

I know I have told many of you ladies to stay positive, but today is a sad day for me and I am not feeling to positive about my TTC journey.

 

[aimze]

Hun lots of hugs your way...I don't know how you do your job! I couldn't handle it..

You must be a very strong lady!

Love & baby dust x

 

[aurorasaurus]

I work in an incredibly busy inner city emergency department and can't even tell you how many hundreds of these women I see a year. Not that that makes you feel any better, or makes the world a better place, because it doesn't, but I guess my point is that you can only do so much for these people.

What you CAN do is make sure they have any/all of the tools, resources, support, etc that they could possibly have access to. I've also met some pretty horrible state/dept of family health workers, even social workers etc so by being AWESOME at your job, maybe you're preventing some really sucky person who wouldn't be awesome. That said, if it's all too much, staying with a job like that is not for everyone, and it's OK for that stuff to get to you. It's hard. The world isn't fair, it's not nice or pretty a lot of the time.

I almost had to take custody of a newborn once (I'm a physician) after the state worker claimed she told a judge it was OK to give the baby back to the mom, a floridly schizophrenic/active IV drug using women who had put her last newborn in a trash can (not guilty of murder by reason of insanity) (ps for those wondering this is NOT a HIPPA violation as it contains absolutely no identifying information, sadly this story happens too often). Turns out the worker lied & never did the site visit or the interviews & we got her fired. Baby ended up in a happy supportive safe home.

Mr Rogers' quote applies here: “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, "Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”

So try to find the GOOD to balance out the bad, it's there, I promise!

If you need a distraction, I just read "The impatient woman's guide to getting pregnant" by Jean Twenge, and it was awesome, easy to read, & funny. It'd be a great distraction! Highly suggested.

Feel better soon! It's quite a journey through this crazy world.

 

[prayers12]

I see that a lot too. Ladies that do not take care of themselves and continue to have children. It just breaks my heart over and over.