URGENT advice need for 1st miscarriage & ovulation

[baba123]

hi everyone. I was overjoyed to find out that i was pregnant approx two weeks ago. But last week (thursday - 3rd july) i had a bit of spotting. This went on to full red bleeding for friday and saturday and today (sunday) the bleeding has slown to almost nothing. Also today we went for a full scan which found that there was nothing left inside the cervix. Doctors have said that most likely i have had a miscarriage and that i've lost the baby through the heavy bleeding. The doctors have said that I won't need a D&C though.

I would have been 6 weeks pg tomorrow (monday) and going through this first miscarriage loss has really put me down because i was looking forward to this baby but the mc was very early that i think this is the reason it has made it easy for me to keep looking forward and not to dwell on what was not meant to happen. I have heard that after a miscarriage, a woman is more fertile and the chances of getting pregnant are higher. Therefore i want to take my chances and have another go for my ovulation.

Now i want to know a few things regarding ovulation after miscarriage and would be very grateful if anyone can guide me.

First of all let me give you some info:- my last period was on may 26th and if i wasn't pregnant then my last period would have been on june 23rd and my next period would be 21st july. My cycle is always 28 days, give or take day. My ovulation is also always 14 days from the first day of my cycle.

Now my questions are:-

1. Just like a period 1st day is classed from the start of full-flow bleeding, which day do i class a miscarriage from?
2. Is having a miscarriage classed as having a period?
3. From the info i have given you, what is the most likely day/date i will ovulate?

Sorry for such a long post, but i would be very grateful if someone could help me ASAP.

thank you

xx

 

[passengerrach]

i dont no about ovulation and stuff because it is messed up after miscarriage but i am now pregnant straight after miscarriage no period in between so i think you are more fertile we started having sex straight aftere i stopped bleeding and got a positive test 4 weeks later so i think we actually concieved a bit after that because i only bled for 4 days but before my miscarriage it took me 9 months to fall pregnant but i got preg straight after miscarriage so if i was u i wouldnt worry about ovulation and just have sex every other day enjoy it lol

 

[NikiJJones]

Hello and so sorry to hear about your loss. I went through similar not so long ago, and it is very hard. Sending to help you.
Glad you seem to be looking forward though.
My first ovulation came 3 weeks after the miscarriage bleed started, but I gather that it can happen sooner or later than that. Everyone is different. I used OPKs to find out when it was about to happen, as I was desperate to try to be pregnant again first month. I wasn't so lucky, but I wish you all success for another very, very soon, preferably straight away.
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xxxx

 

[baba123]

Thanks Nikki,

your post have given me some hope. Earlier i had very little spotting...hardly anything, but it seems that my bleeding has totally stopped today - not even spotting. So we took our chances and BD'd straight away. I just hoped that i got some sort of indication of my ovulation day.

Many thanks Rach for your warm-hearted post. I'm sure you will succeed..just keep trying and don't stop!

Sending you plenty of

 

[Sambatiki]

Hi Baba,

Sorry for your loss

From what I know, you count the first day of bleeding from your MC as CD1 and go from there. Unfortantley having a MC can mess your up. My first after MC was bang on 28 days after, but my 2nd was 34 days. So now Im not sure where I am in my cycle. I would just go for it anyway, get yourself some OPK's just to track. The only problem with TTC so soon is that DR's may find it difficult to date you before having a scan.

Hope this helps and loads of luck for that

Kerry xxx

 

[passengerrach]

i no i dont really no how far along i am but for now im just treating my miscarriage as my last period even though i know it dosnt work like that

 

[ani]

Hi,
I had a m/c last October and was told I should keep my body time to heal after it and wait for 2 afs before trying again. Just make sure you're not being too tough on your body, it might be a good idea to let it recover fully. (I waited for just the time I was told and then conceived again immediately.) Maybe have a word with your doctor who knows how your body reacted.
On the other hand, I've heard of plenty of people who didn't wait and conceived straight away and had healthy pregnancies. And sounds like your m/c went through in a non-complicated way so chances are your hormone levels will go back down quickly, too.

Whatever you do, all the best of luck and hope you BFP soon Sending you lots of baby dust!

 

[baba123]

Thanks you so much girls. I'm sorry that i have not replied much as i've been taking a long rest from the pc.

After reading your postive stories, i have become even more determined to go for it. The doc has offered only a urine test and will tell me the Hcg result on friday. I don't expect that my ovulation would be on the exact time, but there again, i have had no more bleeding today..not even spotting, so i hope that it is correct.

Nevertheless, I am taking as much rest as possible on hubby's orders. He's told me that the best way i can recover quickly is to put my feet up and don't keep rushing around. He's told me to eat plenty of healthy fruit and vegetables, as this will help my body heal a lot more quickly and give me my strength too.

I am not willing to wait too long as part of my grieving is to have a baby, so what better way than to try for a baby? I will start BDing within the next few days (approx 10 days after miscarriage day 1). From day 10 we will try every 2 days to allow some build up of sperm and carry on till day 25. Also i will test for ovulation from day 10 onwards till day 25.

Does this sound ok to you guys? Also you don't think the DH is doing wrong by making me eat all that fruit/veg???

 

[Chocoholic]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

A few of my friends got pregnant right away after their early term (4-8 weeks) mc and delivered full term babies. I've heard several times from them that their doctors also told them that their bodies will be more fertile for the next few cycles and will implant the egg firmly. So, they were advised to BD right away.

I hope you get your asap too. Good luck!

 

[buffycat]

am reallysorry for your loss.....

good luck with the pinning down of O though....that's what i'm currently doing!

luv & hugs

 

[baba123]

thankyou ladies for all your support and good advice, i am so looking forward to conciving again and my doc has advised me that because i mc in only 5.5weeks after the bleeding has stoped my body will have recovered pritty quikly.so it will be ok to ttc without waiting for af to come,i know that if i do concive it will be hard to work out the due date but my doc also said that if i had a reguler cycle of 28 days before my mc then all they will have to do is to do a quick scan to work out the due date because i will know the approx ovulation date.
my doc said to think of my mc as a late af, i know its diffrent for all ladies i think you should ttc if you feel compleatly well again.
i feel like i have just had my af and dont feel any diffrent,i have compleatly finished bleeding /spotting,the bleeding lasted the same lenth as my af would last and now all i can think of is getting straght back to concive again.
good luck too you all and hope you all geg your BFPs soon

 

[owo]

So sorry you've had to go through this.
I had a natural miscarriage although it was a little delayed (took my body a few weeks to realise), my first AF wasn't until 6 weeks after and i ovulated 3 weeks after miscarriage, well i thought i did as i had ovulation signs, but usually i ovulate two weeks before AF, so not this time. The truth is anything can happen in this first month, so don't be disheartened if you miss OV this month. But good luck i hope you are successful soon.

xx

 

[baba123]

yes i agree with you, anything can happen not just in the first month but i think in the first 6-8 weeks after mc and to have your hopes high is not a good idear.
i keep telling myself that if i can wait almost a year to concive then what harm are a few more months going to do.
you should just enjoy yourself and learn as much in the prosess because i want to help as meny ladies going through the same as me after and during my jurney of ttc.
i want to say to all ladies ttc is to relax,that is the reason i managed to concive last month, i was sooooo stressed that every month became a disapointment of one bfn after another.
and once i got the bfp i was so excited that i think i forgot to relax and take a rest as much as possable and i think that is why i mc.there could be meny reasons but pulling yourself together and moving on is the best way gorward so goodluck from me and lots of baby dust to all

 

[passengerrach]

good luck hunni hopefully see u in 1st tri soon

 

[baba123]

hi just to up-date you, today it is my 7th day after my mc, i have totaly stoped bleeding now +no spotting.
the thing is that my dh is insisting on bd today but i want to wait and time my ovulation,he is worryed that leaving it too long i might miss my ovulation.
i have got some opk from the store and i want to test on day 11,13 and day 14, the reason im testing from early as day 11 is because my bbt dropes sharply and it was the first time we bd on day 11 last month and i got bfp so i think i ovulate on day 11-12 every month.
i dont know why i have got a good feeling for this month, it is the same feeling i got last month.

 

[NikiJJones]

Good Luck! Having a good feeling I think is the most positive sign in this game. Don't BD until you are ready. Can you say to DH that you want to give it another day or so after the MC? I'm sure he'd understand. Mine does not get the timing it for OV thing, but he did want to wait after my MC until I said so.
Good luck with the OPKs.
xxxx

 

[passengerrach]

to be honest i think ur oh is right dont wait for ovulation because its all messed up after miscarriage and if u ovulate in the next few days at least sperm will already be in your body to meet ur egg it lives in ur body for up 2 5 days

 

[baba123]

im a little worried as to when to do the opk because of the mc, knowing that my cycle might have messed up and opk doesn't come cheap. i was thinking of day 11 because many ladies have said that their ovulation was very early after their mc...can someone help me pls??

 

[baba123]

HEEEELP!!!
it seems like i have ovulated now i did a pg test this morning and it was -negative and after that i did a ovulation test and it has come out positive!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! . what shall i do??? the problem is that we bd yesterday and my dh did insist on unprotected x as he believed OV could happen anytime, but like an idiot, i told him it was too early and now im worried as he was right and since we had X yesterday, his sperm count might be low.
i want to ask how long does the egg last [waiting for the little swimmers???
how long does it take for the sperm count take to build back up?? my dh as a good sperm quality.
is there any thing we can do like eat or drink something to help our little swimers get to the destination quickly???
i am willing to try anything.

 

[baba123]

just like to add i have been charting my bbt and this morning my temp had a sharp fall, this was one of the signs and the second was the ovulation test coming out as +

NOTE: I have read on the instructions that if the OV test shows positive, then it means i will be ovulating in the next 24-36hrs...but should i start bedding now..i.e in the next few hours or later?