Useless Me & My Worries

[MissMamma]

I apologise in advance for the length and ramblyness of this...i really need to get it out and when i can't talk to OH you girls are the ones i turn to [i know its sad isn't it]

Basically i have money and boyfriend worries. My OH has suffered from depression and anger problems in the past, he received councilling for them and is basically a new man but he's given up smoking tobacco recently [not cannabis i might add!] and i can see him slipping back into his old ways. He has no ambition to do anything with his life he doesn't work at the moment and hasn't been to college. He says he wants to be a full time daddy which i really wouldn't mind if only i didn't feel like he says this to excuse his lack of drive. I need to be with someone with ambition and a drive in life. I need to feel like he has a passion for something! I really don't know what to do!

Also i have no money. I am steadily growing out of my pre pregnancy clothes and have no money to buy new ones. I have lots of bills to pay, we've been getting red letters through the door, and no money to pay them with. I can't get a house with the local council because i'm not high enough priority apparently [despite our current flat being entirely unsuitable for a baby, its too small, one bedroom, one living space and a kitchen that measure about 3metres by 2! And it has a leak in the bedroom and hallway and mold growing in just about every room from the damp!] yet i can't afford the deposit and first months rent up front for a private rental! My dad has a go at me saying i can't bring a baby up in this current flat and wants me to move back home but what about OH? We are supposed to be a family?!

Basically i feel useless and completely unprepared for being a mamma, i mean, i can't even afford to clothe myself how am i ever going to be a good enough parent!

What can i do?

 

[Sophiiie]

Aww hun

If I were in your position I'd keep on to the council, I think being nagged is the only way they ever get things done. Keep pushing them and see if they move you somewhere else. If not, it might be worth considering moving back in with your parents for a while, it might give your OH some time to sort himself out too. Sorry if it's not what you wanted to hear but I think that's what I'd do if I were in your shoes.

I really hope things work out xxx

 

[rainbows_x]

Aww hun

The councl are pretty useless, they won't do anythng until the baby s actually here, until then they think it is suitable for you and your OH.
Could you not move in wth your dad wth your OH, and then it would be overcrowded so you would get bumped up on priority?

Don't feel bad about not being prepared, I don;t work & lve wth OH & his mum. My OH is the only one who works and he can barely provide for me and him let alone a baby. U don't claim any benefits either. When bubs comes you can get CTC etc.

Don't stress yourself out hun.
Sorry I couldn't give better advice.

x