Skywalker
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I'm 90% sure this is another "problem" I'm having purely as a result of comparing myself to others, but my MIL and FIL asked on a recent visit if I make it a point to have lots of play dates each week for my only child, my two year old. I told them yes, although it's more like few and far between play dates, because I had been spotting and having cramping for over a week and after a trip to the ER and midwife, was told to take it easy and rest as much as possible. This means housework has slipped a little (I'm literally sitting on a pile of clean laundry on my couch as I write this) so I don't necessarily want to invite mothers and their kids to my messy haven, and it's a lot of physical work to get my son and I ready and out the door and go play with other moms and kids. At his age, I can't really let him go off totally by himself and I often end up standing and running a lot after him to keep him safe, etc. he's a toddler! So most days we stay at home, then Daddy comes home and I float alongside them on the pool, etc. On weekends where I have my husband's help, we'll go out in public and/or go visit other kids, go to the library, etc. But that's because my husband can lift my son easily and maneuver him into his car seat, more easily handle if he has a tantrum, can do most of the running after him, etc. My mom had an incompetent cervix (so far, I don't) so she BEGS me to rest and not push myself, but I find it hard to not feel bad when people ask me questions about play dates, get togethers, etc. Since becoming a mom in 2014, I lost my main circle of friends, mainly because I was the first to have kids and our lifestyles/schedules are very different. I have new mom friends but none who are close and none who I'd be comfortable inviting over into my messy house. Are we doing enough for my toddler or is this normal?