very nervous about upcoming repeat c section

[rescuemom82]

I am having a lot of stress over my upcoming surgery. I had my first daughter by c section in 2012. It was an emergency, I had been in hard labor for 24 hrs, 32 hrs total, I was ill with infection, she was dropping her heart rate, etc.

I was panicked when they took me in to surgery very abruptly. I already had an epidural in for about 12 hours when the surgery happened, so they just topped it up and brought me in.

I found it so disorienting and scary. Although I had been awake (with a few catnaps) for over 32 hours and not eaten or had water, etc.

I am really hoping that with a schedule I won't be as frightened, I'll feel better physically but most of all I'm worried that I won't be able to hold my son or breastfeed him right away.

I saw my daughter in recovery and latched her on, but I was too out of it for skin to skin and I still feel guilty!

 

[sammynashley]

Hi Hun,

I had a similar thing with my DS I had him in 2010 by emergency csection due to baby becoming distressed and me not progressing, my csection was awful! Ended up with a general and didn't get instant skin to skin.

I then found out I was expecting DD 9months after was terrified of another section so attempted vbac but baby didn't want to come on her own so was booked in for an elective section...like you I was scared and really didn't want to do it again. But I have to say it was such a different experience.

It was a lot calmer, they talked through with me and hubby what was to happen. I managed skin to skin with DD and she latched on as soon as I was wheeled into recovery about 15mins after her being born. It was so calm I couldn't believe it after my hectic delivery 1st time. Even had a radio on in the back ground and had hubby & a doctor by my head making sure I was ok.

Sorry for rambling on! Hope it's put you at ease a little!

 

[Kalabear]

I think you'll find the next one much better! I've only had scheduled c sections but my second was even better than the first! Both were very calm experiences but I felt better during my second one and was much more alert. I was able to do skin to skin and breastfeeding within minutes of them being born.
I was still nervous but I felt much calmer since I knew what to expect.

I hope your next experience goes much better for you!! I think it will! Even recovery was better!

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

You could always try for VBAC and see how it goes but keep C-sect as an option.

Think of it as being prepared this time! Write up a birthplan that that says you want to BF and skin to skin! Get a Doula!

 

[rescuemom82]

I'm not a safe candidate for VBAC, unfortunately

I'm just so , so nervous. I am losing sleep over it. Thinking that I might die, that I'll have a panic attack and they'll put me under, that' I'll choke on vomit and die of pnuemonia...it is out of control

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

I'm not a safe candidate for VBAC, unfortunately

I'm just so , so nervous. I am losing sleep over it. Thinking that I might die, that I'll have a panic attack and they'll put me under, that' I'll choke on vomit and die of pnuemonia...it is out of control

I think you should talk to your dr about those feelings.

Why do you think youre not good for a VBAC? Theres very few reasons for why someone cant. Its about finding a dr who will or a doula to support you in that. ican-online.org is a great resource for factual, non biased info on it.

 

[rescuemom82]

My pelvic outlet is too small

 

[m nonie]

This may seem weird but I feel better after learning what to expect, I had a really bad c-sec with my DS and was really freaked out about having another one but I looked on the website for the hospital and found a video that explained what to expect and going to talk to my consultant about things I want to be completely sure of.

Also I've already written a birthplan stating what must be done.

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

My pelvic outlet is too small

Many women are told that sadly.

I would still ask around.

 

[bundle4me]

I'm not a safe candidate for VBAC, unfortunately

I'm just so , so nervous. I am losing sleep over it. Thinking that I might die, that I'll have a panic attack and they'll put me under, that' I'll choke on vomit and die of pnuemonia...it is out of control

Hi, i am feeling exactly the same as you right now, I have a planned c section in august and I'm so nervous about it and thinking I'm going to die it's scary.
Iv had an emergency and a planned, the planned was a lot calmer. I am over weight this time so I'm scared that is going to make things worse and things go wrong like spinal etc. Suppose it's natural to worry but iit's not nice. Hope all goes well for u xx

 

[Leikela]

I just had a repeat C Section on 5/16/15. I had a planned for 5/19/15 but baby did not want to wait! LOL It was definitely calmer, as I knew what to expect. I still had anxiety as I had a 6cm fibroid that was near baby's head but they were able to get my baby out, along with the fibroid without any excessive bleeding or harm to my baby. You will be fine. I had a panic attack the first time and a small one the second time but they give you medication to help with it. Within a few minutes, I was feeling ok. Good luck!

 

[BabyCleo]

Im currently a FTM so I have no personal advice. However I have a huge anxiety disorder and im terrified of anything medical. My mum had an emerg. section with me, but then had a planned one with my little sister. She told me that the planned one was a wonderful experience. She didn't wish to breastfeed - but she did get skin to skin and bonding etc and found it very peaceful.

The funny thing about my mums planned section? Once they cut her open, (her screen was up) everyone started gasping! That's not the thing you want to hear from doctors and nurses as you are cut open on the table! They were gasping cause my sister was breech and no one had any idea. It wasn't actually all that serious, they were just shocked. She jokes about it now - how everyone started gasping and she honestly thought there was a huge issue!

So even with that, she still found it super peaceful and everyone had a good chuckle afterwards.

 

[rescuemom82]

thank you ladies, for the responses. about 4 weeks to go and Im' trying to get myself under control! At least I will have a pre op this time and can make some requests/get information instead of just being tossed into it