Waiting for the inevitable

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Though it wasn't planned and it was quite a shock I got a :bfp: on January 6th one day after my period was due to start. More then anything else I was just scared, I had had two previous miscarriages and my last pregnancy had been only a "chemical pregnancy".

I was extremely paranoid and right away went to a clinic to set up an ultrasound at the earliest time possible to verify the viability of the pregnancy, I needed to see for myself if anything was in there. They of course gave me a test which came back :bfp: which was good enough for them to confirm I was pregnant.

My first ultrasound was scheduled for January 19th which would have put me at exactly 6 weeks from my last period. I can't describe how nervous I was going to that appointment, and when I saw the screen my heart just dropped it was just an egg there was nothing inside it. They did the measurements and it measured 4 weeks +1 they didn't seem concerned about the lack of baby because the egg was measuring so small they said it was still early and set me another appointment for two weeks later.

My second ultrasound was February 2nd exactly 8 weeks from my last period. Once again when I saw the screen I was devastated it was still just the empty egg that had only grown to 4 weeks +5. She mentioned that she should at the very least be seeing a yolk sack but the egg was clearly empty. She never actually diagnosed a blighted ovum but she did mention it and then asked if the pregnancy was planned and whether this loss would be a huge devastation. At this point I was numb she gave me a print out on miscarriage in case it happened before my next appointment and sent me home.

I have my next ultrasound scheduled for February 16th and am just waiting for the inevitable now. I fully expect to miscarry but the waiting is so much harder then I ever expected it to be I can't even mourn my baby becuase the loss hasn't become real yet. Hopefully sharing my story will help me to accept the loss and prepare to move on!
 
i am sorry you are going through this take care of you:hug:
 
:hugs: i am so sorry, what a terribly sad thing to have to go through. i hope you will be okay :hugs::hugs:
 
I am so sorry for your loss and having to go through all this waiting x x x :hug:
 
Honey I am so sorry for you. I went in for my 10 week apt to hear my baby's HB for the first time and they could not find anything, I was sent for an US and my perfect little baby was just laying there and had died at 8 weeks and 6 days. It was really hard because the nurses didn't even seem to show any condolence emotions at all. I am sorry that you have to go through this, i tried to MC on my own but after almost 2 weeks nothing was going on so I went in for a D&C and got pregnant 4 months later and now have a two year old son so I hope you are able to get through this and are able to go on and have a healthy pregnancy later on. You will be in my thoughts. :hugs:
 
:hug: I'm really sorry as well. I hope you don't have to wait much longer and can begin to heal from this experience. I think i would have been just as devastated as you....:hug:
 
I wanted to share my story with all those suffering the grief of a blighted ovum. Please, Please DO NOT have a D&C unless you have had several sonograms and or blood tests and you and your doctor are absolutely sure the pregnancy is not viable.

2 weeks ago (Thursday) I took a pregnancy test and to my surprise, I was pregnant. This was a big surprise as my husband and I were not trying to have a baby. We just had our third son ten months ago and had no intentions on getting pregnant. But our trust in God is immense, and we know this is what he wanted for us. I scheduled an appoiment to see my OB (Friday), he examined me and said that my uterus felt larger than 4 weeks (which based on my LMP was how far along I should have been). He sent me for a sono the same day. The minute I saw the sac, I asked the sono tech why it looked empty. She said that she was sorry to tell me that the sac was empty and miss-shaped which meant I had a blighted ovum. At the time I was measuring 6 weeks.

I had mixed emotions, but trusted that this is what God wanted for us. The next week (Wednesday) I went back to see my doctor. He explained that the pregnancy was not viable, and that I could wait to have a miscarriage or I could have D&C. I weighed my options, and felt that a D&C would be the best for me and my family. I felt it would be very difficult to carry on with the pregnancy waiting for a miscarriage. I asked if I could have another sono just to make sure that the pregnancy was not viable, and he agreed. He went ahead and scheduled the D&C for one week (Wednesday) and my follow up sono for 5 days (Monday).

When Monday came around, I really didn't think anything would change, but to my surprise, there was a perfect little embryo, with a perfect little heart beat. They had been WRONG!!! There was no blighted ovum!!! There was a perfectly viable pregnancy!! Although my situation is very rare, I feel that EVERYONE who is told they have a blighted ovum should make absolutely sure that is the case before scheduling a D&C.

Needless to say, I am 6 weeks 4 days pregnant with a healthy baby!

Please listen to your body!!
 

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