Waiting to decide whether or not for a 3rd child

[CandiceSj]

Is anyone else waiting to figure out whether or not?

A month ago, I would've said my family was closed. I'm happy with my 2 kids and it definitely feels right for us right now.

We just had a pregnancy scare and I stressed out about it, just wishing that I wasn't with all my being. Then I accepted that if I was, we'd be having a 3rd child. Then just before taking the test that told me I wasn't pregnant, it was more than just "accepting" and I guess part of me wanted it. It definitely opened my mind to the possibility of a third, and opened the conversation with my husband, who has always wanted more children.

I'm not specifically WTT - I haven't made up my mind or else I'd probably just be trying now. I'm definitely waiting though... Just for more clarity on this. More and more, I feel like we will be trying for a third... So I'm waiting until it becomes clear that we should and will.

Is anyone in the same boat?

 

[littlesteph]

I'm in the same boat. Have 2 boys 1 and 2 next month. A condom spilt on us last week took the morning after pill, the more I thought about it the more I kinda wanted it to fail. AF arrived this morning 10 days early. In a way it was a relief, we can't afford a 3rd right now, but it's made me realise I'm not done having children. Not sure what hubby wants, one minute he wouldn't mind more the next he doesn't

 

[ridley2909]

Hi, I am in the same boat. I have two boys. Dh has agreed to try for a third at the end of May. I am constantly thinking about when I will be pregnant, when i'd be due but at the same time thinking if I am up for the sleepless nights all over again and the nappies and the extra expense. My ds's are 6 and 3.

 

[CandiceSj]

That definitely sounds a lot like us! DD is 7, DS is 3.

At this point I'm even worried about the hell I went through pregnant and working and if I even want to deal with that again. My mother in law lives with us part of the year so really she would be helpful, probably taking care of a bunch of chores and the kids if I need a nap or I'm having a hard time.
I worry about not giving enough of my time to the other kids because of being preoccupied with a new baby, I worry about financial aspect a lot because we want to save for a house. Two is a well-balanced number, I wonder how 3 would be. The only person close to me with 3 kids has an older daughter now 13 from a previous relationship and the other two kids from another dad, her current husband (3 and 5), so adding her third was a little bit like adding a 2nd in some ways.

Hi, I am in the same boat. I have two boys. Dh has agreed to try for a third at the end of May. I am constantly thinking about when I will be pregnant, when i'd be due but at the same time thinking if I am up for the sleepless nights all over again and the nappies and the extra expense. My ds's are 6 and 3.

 

[littlesteph]

my hubby has just informed me he doesn't know if he wants more (knew that anyway) but he wants to wait till our youngest is 4 before deciding if we'll have more, that's going to be a very hard 3 years.

 

[ridley2909]

He may come round to the idea little steph. Candice I definetly relate to you, me and my husband used to live with my Mil too. Having extra support is always a good thing. Have you set a ttc date? I noticed your little boys birthday is Nov 2011 what date is it? My youngest is the 22nd.

 

[ridley2909]

Sorry just re-read your post and noticed you haven't decided a ttc date yet. Ours is the end of May.

 

[ttc bubby no2]

Hi, I am in the same boat. I have two boys. Dh has agreed to try for a third at the end of May. I am constantly thinking about when I will be pregnant, when i'd be due but at the same time thinking if I am up for the sleepless nights all over again and the nappies and the extra expense. My ds's are 6 and 3.

You sound a lot like me. My boys are the same ages and in a way it feels like going a long way backwards having a baby again but I can't seem to get the idea out my head!

 

[ridley2909]

I keep wishing we could try sooner so I can't over think think things. But dh doesn't want another October, November baby. I see you are trying soon?

 

[CandiceSj]

I noticed your little boys birthday is Nov 2011 what date is it? My youngest is the 22nd.

My son is November 1, 2011. Going out for Halloween really got the contractions going hehe

 

[CandiceSj]

my hubby has just informed me he doesn't know if he wants more (knew that anyway) but he wants to wait till our youngest is 4 before deciding if we'll have more, that's going to be a very hard 3 years.

I enjoyed my 4.5 year difference between my two kids! It could work out really nicely.

 

[ridley2909]

Mine is November 22nd

 

[LockandKey]

I am also in the same boat as you ladies. I cannot decide if I want a 3rd or not. A month ago I was eager to get pregnant again, and I did, but sadly it ended in a miscarriage, but I haven't felt the need to TTC straight away again. DH said he definitely wants a 3rd, but I am not so sure. Some days I do and other days I say "hell no! There is no way I can handle another!" I'm so up and down, I really am not sure where which way to go, even though we've put off TTC again in June. I have a ticker, and it's 4 months away, so maybe my mind would have changed by then

 

[CandiceSj]

You have a Nora too! What a LOVELY name!!!

I definitely didn't feel ready for another child when mine were younger than 3, so I know that overwhelmed "Could I even handle another?" feeling. Mine was so strong I literally had no desire whatsoever for another child until they were 3, both times lol

Sounds like waiting a little is the right call. You'll see how you feel with time.

I am also in the same boat as you ladies. I cannot decide if I want a 3rd or not. A month ago I was eager to get pregnant again, and I did, but sadly it ended in a miscarriage, but I haven't felt the need to TTC straight away again. DH said he definitely wants a 3rd, but I am not so sure. Some days I do and other days I say "hell no! There is no way I can handle another!" I'm so up and down, I really am not sure where which way to go, even though we've put off TTC again in June. I have a ticker, and it's 4 months away, so maybe my mind would have changed by then

 

[ttc bubby no2]

I keep wishing we could try sooner so I can't over think think things. But dh doesn't want another October, November baby. I see you are trying soon?

We are trying soon but I took a long time to conceive previously so I don't think it will happen quickly. We are however waiting to avoid another September baby

 

[manatdonalds]

I know what you're saying.

We've got 2. We know our family isn't complete, but we are debating whether a third child would be practical or not. A third child could mean a bigger house and car!

 

[LockandKey]

You have a Nora too! What a LOVELY name!!!

I definitely didn't feel ready for another child when mine were younger than 3, so I know that overwhelmed "Could I even handle another?" feeling. Mine was so strong I literally had no desire whatsoever for another child until they were 3, both times lol

Sounds like waiting a little is the right call. You'll see how you feel with time.

I am also in the same boat as you ladies. I cannot decide if I want a 3rd or not. A month ago I was eager to get pregnant again, and I did, but sadly it ended in a miscarriage, but I haven't felt the need to TTC straight away again. DH said he definitely wants a 3rd, but I am not so sure. Some days I do and other days I say "hell no! There is no way I can handle another!" I'm so up and down, I really am not sure where which way to go, even though we've put off TTC again in June. I have a ticker, and it's 4 months away, so maybe my mind would have changed by then

Thank you! Yes I love the name Nora, it's such a sweet name, and fits her perfectly!

Well, over the last few weeks I've decided to focus on other things in my life for the time being, I have started to eat healthy and am working out at the gym 5 days, a week but not simply to lose the rest of the baby weight I had gained with my son that never went away, but to live a healthy, more active lifestyle. I have actually come to love it! I feel stronger, more energetic, less stressed, and am even getting better sleep. I will also be working on making modern updates to our family home, and just enjoying the freedom of not having an infant attached to me or my breast 24/7 now that my LO's are more independent, walking, playing together, and sleeping throughout the night.

I have never ever been toned in my life, so that is my current goal atm, and once I get there, I think I may like to enjoy having a totally flat and sexy stomach at least for a little while

 

[MissMcCoy]

I was in the exact same situation.
I thought I was done...and my poor man wanted more so bad.
slowly I had been thinking about it. Then a pregnancy scare got my hopes up and I was devastated with BFNs and the eventual return of AF.
Ever since then its been baby, baby, baby on my mind!
Although I still want to wait for a bigger house!