waiting to miscarry

[Shazzy]

Well i just came back from my 8 week scan to be told my sac is only measuring five weeks. im 100% certain on my dates. Guess this means im going to miscarry again. I am bitter, I am sad, I am so dissapointed. she want me to come in again in two weeks time, i dont see the point. why do the want me to get my hopes up? oh and she still told me i should still enjoy my xmas, yeah right????

I do not know how to cope, i I dont want to ever do this again. I cannot keep getting my hopes up just to have them crushed! all i want is a normal pregnancy for crying out loud!

now i have to just sit back and wait for the bleeding to begin, and watch my pregnancy end up in the toilet again.

Sorry for the rant, i just need to let this out.

 

[leeanne]

I'm so sorry honey!

 

[WelshRose]

You let it out sweetheart!
What else did you/she see on the scan? Did she comment on you lil bean's heartbeat? etc......I'm sure she wouldn't have been so insensitive as to tell you to enjoy christmas if she felt that you were going to miscarry babe.
I also know telling you to try and relax and not to worry is of no use either but it will help that lil bean.
I don't really know what else to say babe, except we're here for you.
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[jonnanne3]

You let it out sweetheart!
What else did you/she see on the scan? Did she comment on you lil bean's heartbeat? etc......I'm sure she wouldn't have been so insensitive as to tell you to enjoy christmas if she felt that you were going to miscarry babe.
I also know telling you to try and relax and not to worry is of no use either but it will help that lil bean.
I don't really know what else to say babe, except we're here for you.
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I agree with Welshrose. Did she say you were going to mc? I have lost 3 beans and I know exactly what you are going through and I am so sorry you are even thinking it might happen. With each of my mc, the doctor told me straight from the first scan that I could be losing it. The first one was caught on the second scan, the second loss was found on the first scan. I was almost 7 weeks with the first one and the second, I was almost 6 weeks. The 3rd was a very strange pregnancy so I didn't have a scan. (new doctor too, which I fired and got a new one)
I hope that you are not miscarrying. Can you call the tech to see if there was anything she saw that she didn't tell you? Thinking of you!

 

[Shazzy]

This was a private ultrasound. nothing was found. no heart beat, no fetal pole. nothing but a empty sac measuring 5+ weeks. and im 8+1

 

[becky77]

hunni the exact same thing happened to me in oct, the 2 weeks waiting for the second scan was awful,and i did start to bleed the night before the second scan so i new it was over, i pray this is not the case for you.

please pm me if you need to talk.

take care
x

 

[jonnanne3]

I am so sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Lyns]

Oh hunny, I'm so sorry. I wne thtrough the same just under 2 weeks ago. It's crap....I know. I chose to have an ERPC rather than wait it out...my body hadn't miscarried naturally in 4 week, so I wasn't convinced it was going to. were you given any other options if you are 100% sure? Can you now go to your EPAU and get any care?

You scream and shout at the world all you like....far better than bottling any emotion. I hope you feel better soon....you won't beleive it now, but time does help...I promise x

 

[SJK]

Im so sorry darling xx

 

[Omi]

Just wanted to say sorry and that im with Lyns, same scenario, same procedure...

This was my 2nd mc, both this year and it does feel devastating. The thing with coming back..as pointless as it seems is that they wanna check you before they decide what happens. In my first mc (it was missed the same as this one) i actually called after a few days saying i couldnt bear the wait and insisted on a d&c. I was finally given one..but even then they did re-scan me, although i felt the same as you.

Sweetheart, please dont despair...we all know exactly how you feel..and although it all seems as bleak as bleak can be right now you will get through this, you will, i promise you.

In the meantime make sure you get plenty of TLC..take good care of yourself and if all else fails call back and demand some action. You shuldnt have to sit with this hanging over you at xmas. I just had my d&c on tuesday..it has been a shit week, shit month, let alone a shit year! But we will get through this and next year will be loads better, hun!!

So....as little a consolation as it is right now.. we are here for you, we understand and we know what you are going through, sweetie!!

Mahoosive , Omi xxx

 

[Rumpskin]

I am so very sorry for your news darling.

I have had 2 miscarriages this year - one a completed and the other a missed m/c.

We went to our 12 week scan after I brought it forward as I had started bleeding. This showed LO had died 4 weeks before hand. It had just confirmed what deep down I had known way before I started bleeding. I was given 3 options - to wait and m/c naturally, to be given a pessary to start the contractions or to have a d&c. I did not like the idea of any of them but decided on a d&c two days later.

My heart goes out to you my darling.

Wishing you a happier 2009.

All the best xxx

 

[WelshRose]

I'm so sorry Shazzy,
It's completely crap that they are leaving you like this for 2weeks.
My heart goes out to you hun

 

[tillymum]

so sorry hun

 

[soliloquise]

i am v sorry