bexnsi
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Hi All
Not sure if this is the right place to post this...
Ok so a brief bit of background info...
Before me and the other half got together a year after him and his ex had a baby that unfortunately passed away. He was born at 6 months term, weighed about 2 lbs and unfortunately only survived 5 days to Pneumonia. Now obviously i know this was a big loss for him and his ex and i found out she just up and left him because she couldnt cope with the news and needed to be with her parents. This was her 2nd loss and she found out she couldnt carry.
I'm coming up to 39 weeks pregnant and understand totally that im very lucky to have had a successful pregnancy and i have been very supportive and tried to stay strong for my other half as up until 6 months gone, he was very on edge and held back a lot of thoughts and feelings towards me being pregnant and hoping that things went ok. Now its nearly time he is very nervous and excited....
Now i know when our baby comes everything will be all hands on deck and all eyes and thoughts will be on her but i really want to do something or get something for my other half to remember his little boy too. Is this a good idea? What do you think? Hi mum has recently asked him if its ok to put a photograph in the family frame of him and he said yes so i know he wont mind.
Ive thought about lighting one of those sky lantens when we are on our own and saying a few words maybe? If not, i'm not sure what else i could do..
I'm really sorry if the above sounds insensitive or brief but i really do care about his thoughts and feelings and i don't want him thinking that i don't care about what happened before and i want him to understand that he will always be in our thoughts and that its ok for him to remember his little boy. at this special time too.
Maybe its a bad idea and i should just leave all the thoughts to rest...
Please help.
Not sure if this is the right place to post this...
Ok so a brief bit of background info...
Before me and the other half got together a year after him and his ex had a baby that unfortunately passed away. He was born at 6 months term, weighed about 2 lbs and unfortunately only survived 5 days to Pneumonia. Now obviously i know this was a big loss for him and his ex and i found out she just up and left him because she couldnt cope with the news and needed to be with her parents. This was her 2nd loss and she found out she couldnt carry.
I'm coming up to 39 weeks pregnant and understand totally that im very lucky to have had a successful pregnancy and i have been very supportive and tried to stay strong for my other half as up until 6 months gone, he was very on edge and held back a lot of thoughts and feelings towards me being pregnant and hoping that things went ok. Now its nearly time he is very nervous and excited....
Now i know when our baby comes everything will be all hands on deck and all eyes and thoughts will be on her but i really want to do something or get something for my other half to remember his little boy too. Is this a good idea? What do you think? Hi mum has recently asked him if its ok to put a photograph in the family frame of him and he said yes so i know he wont mind.
Ive thought about lighting one of those sky lantens when we are on our own and saying a few words maybe? If not, i'm not sure what else i could do..
I'm really sorry if the above sounds insensitive or brief but i really do care about his thoughts and feelings and i don't want him thinking that i don't care about what happened before and i want him to understand that he will always be in our thoughts and that its ok for him to remember his little boy. at this special time too.
Maybe its a bad idea and i should just leave all the thoughts to rest...
Please help.