Hi
This is prob not the right forum to post in but I can't find another that seems to fit.
I'm 26, my boyf is 28. We've been togheter 5 years. We're both educated, both got good jobs, career prospects, a house, cars and a reasonably amount of savings. As far as I'm concerned I've done everything they way society says we're "supposed to" when thinking about bringing a child into to world, except get married, (which I would like but I'm not toooo bothered about), but my bf says no when I talk aout wanting to start a family.
Its not that he says never, just not yet! Which is fine in principal but I would be a lot more satisfied if he said when. It makes me wonder if he means that he just doesn't want them with me. In an effort to try to come to a compromise, I said I would give me a deadline of 2 years, in which time he had to decide if he wanted kids or not, and if he decided not then I would move on from this relationship.
He now has 12 months left, while he had said a few encouraging things about if we did have a child, like baby names and possibly his mum minding it while I'm at work, his stance is still very much no, n he would be happy if I got a puppy instead. He admits that his attitude is selfish, not just towards me and my feelings but also the fact he enjoys just being able to do what he wants when he wants.
I'm at the end of my tether as I love him so much, I try not to push him on the subject but sometimes I feel is behaving like a spoilt brat and not considering my feelings/broodiness. I know he would be a great dad as in every other way he is extremely kind and loving towards me and his family and friends.
Am I being unreasonable and should I just shut up n be thankful for what I have?
This is prob not the right forum to post in but I can't find another that seems to fit.
I'm 26, my boyf is 28. We've been togheter 5 years. We're both educated, both got good jobs, career prospects, a house, cars and a reasonably amount of savings. As far as I'm concerned I've done everything they way society says we're "supposed to" when thinking about bringing a child into to world, except get married, (which I would like but I'm not toooo bothered about), but my bf says no when I talk aout wanting to start a family.
Its not that he says never, just not yet! Which is fine in principal but I would be a lot more satisfied if he said when. It makes me wonder if he means that he just doesn't want them with me. In an effort to try to come to a compromise, I said I would give me a deadline of 2 years, in which time he had to decide if he wanted kids or not, and if he decided not then I would move on from this relationship.
He now has 12 months left, while he had said a few encouraging things about if we did have a child, like baby names and possibly his mum minding it while I'm at work, his stance is still very much no, n he would be happy if I got a puppy instead. He admits that his attitude is selfish, not just towards me and my feelings but also the fact he enjoys just being able to do what he wants when he wants.
I'm at the end of my tether as I love him so much, I try not to push him on the subject but sometimes I feel is behaving like a spoilt brat and not considering my feelings/broodiness. I know he would be a great dad as in every other way he is extremely kind and loving towards me and his family and friends.
Am I being unreasonable and should I just shut up n be thankful for what I have?