Warning: Rant

[ForeverYoung]

So today I found out my (17 yr old) sisters best-friend (who's also 17) is pregnant....

For some reason, this feels like the lowest blow of all.

I'm 21, have a wonderful, gorgeous, supportive husband with a great job, a 3 bedroom house, I'm getting back in school, I live in a quiet little town just 60 miles away from all my family, and I want it so bad it hurts.

But no. I can't have a baby.

On top of all that, I found out I ovulate very late. Strips picked the surge up at CD 20 (doesn't that mean I ovulate like a day or two later?) of a 29-31 day cycle. Currently, it's day 29, and I'm getting cramps like af is about to come on. So even if we get the job done, the poor little thing doesnt stand a chance.

I can't get a doctor to take me seriously. The last one I told I was wanting to start a family, told me I was too young and didn't have a good enough education, called in a prescription for birth-control and insisted I pick them up and begin them immediately. Now I have an appointment in about 3 weeks, and I'm scared to tell my doctor I want a baby. I've been having irregular bleeding for 3-4 days 2 weeks after my period, and weird bouts of pelvic pain.

It feels like there is so much against me right now. I feel like giving up, because the obstacles seem too much to overcome without more resources.

Forgive my rant, but I'm so freaking heartbroken about this stupid stuff.

I just want my baby. Just one would make me happy. I'd love to have 4, but I would take 1 and be happy with it.

 

[Crochet]

 

[Tattoo]

I know how you feel. My husband's 18 year old cousin had a baby last year, despite being in a terrible situation (drugs, prostitution...pretty dreadful). She's being investigated by social services of course, but has already told her social worker that, if her daughter is taken into care, she'll "just have another one".
I'm 26, and my mum tells me I'm too young to start a family. My sister is 31 and has no intention of having a child. Ever. I guess it's just because I'm the baby of the family. But, like you, I'm happily married, own my own house and car, have no debt, have my degree and two postgraduates, have a decent job (it's not exactly my dream job, but it pays well), run my own small business (eventually I want to make a living from the business alone: freelance tutoring)...I think I'm in a much better position that some 18 year old, who has never worked a day in her life, and leaves her baby strapped to a pushchair outside in the rain!

 

[madmax]

Foreveryound, just a thought that may help you? I think you are thinging you have a short luteal phase? Could I suggest Agnus Castus and Vit B6 complex 100?
I am 36 and went to my doctors, she didn't want to know! I know my luteal phase was short (have been having af a long time!!!!)
I found a thread on here and took the advice and the first month I got BFP, I am now almost 12 wks.
I know it's really hard, people think bcos you are young it will all be fine!!!
DO NOT GIVE UP!
I had DS at 21 and DD at 31 (after chemo and radio for cervical cancer!) they told me I would never conceive! Then they told me she would be prem! 2 weeks over due date they had to induce me!!!!!! ha ha what do they know!!!

Most places when you are under 35 say you should try for 2 years b4 they will help you?!
Have you got a CBFM, heard some fab stuff about them! Also are you using your OPK's at the correct time of day? (afternoon?) I was using them first thing in the morning (which was wrong doh!)
There is so much advice on here.
Keep going sweetie.

 

[xPH03N1Xx]

Im also 21 and I cant get a doctor to take me seriously... kind of a pain in the ass, but im gonna keep looking until i find one who will listen!

just because they were immature brats at 21 doesn't mean we all are.

 

[nuffmac]

Foreveryoung - think you need another doctor - its one thing her not listening to you about OV day as from what I see posted on here this is common - its another thing for her to push her opinions on you with the BC. While I would be in agreement of a doctor giving patients advise thats surely where it should stop and be left to you to make your own choices. Its of no use to you to be seeing a doctor who you won't be able to tell the full truth to so that if there is a prob they might spot it. Is there any other doctor you could see?


Babydust to you XX

 

[tryingntrying]

I am in the same situation as you, my sister told me today that her close friend (who is SIXTEEN) is 10 weeks pregnant. She does not even live in the same state as her boyfriend. She came to visit him for two days and BAM. So frustrating.

So today I found out my (17 yr old) sisters best-friend (who's also 17) is pregnant....

For some reason, this feels like the lowest blow of all.

I'm 21, have a wonderful, gorgeous, supportive husband with a great job, a 3 bedroom house, I'm getting back in school, I live in a quiet little town just 60 miles away from all my family, and I want it so bad it hurts.

But no. I can't have a baby.

On top of all that, I found out I ovulate very late. Strips picked the surge up at CD 20 (doesn't that mean I ovulate like a day or two later?) of a 29-31 day cycle. Currently, it's day 29, and I'm getting cramps like af is about to come on. So even if we get the job done, the poor little thing doesnt stand a chance.

I can't get a doctor to take me seriously. The last one I told I was wanting to start a family, told me I was too young and didn't have a good enough education, called in a prescription for birth-control and insisted I pick them up and begin them immediately. Now I have an appointment in about 3 weeks, and I'm scared to tell my doctor I want a baby. I've been having irregular bleeding for 3-4 days 2 weeks after my period, and weird bouts of pelvic pain.

It feels like there is so much against me right now. I feel like giving up, because the obstacles seem too much to overcome without more resources.

Forgive my rant, but I'm so freaking heartbroken about this stupid stuff.

I just want my baby. Just one would make me happy. I'd love to have 4, but I would take 1 and be happy with it.

 

[Damita]

My younger sister who is 14, just told me there was a girl in her class who was pregnant (she had an A), sigh!

 

[ForeverYoung]

Thanks for all the replies lady, I'm on the run right now, but when I get home tonight I'll respond much more thoroughly!

 

[Lou1234]

ForeverYoung I'm also having the same late ovulation issues.

It appears I ovulate on day 19/20 and have cycles of 28-30 days so quite a short LP.

My AF arrived on Weds and I've just started taking Agnus Cactus in the hope it will bring my ovulation forward a few days.

 

[fairykate]

I can't get a doctor to take me seriously. The last one I told I was wanting to start a family, told me I was too young and didn't have a good enough education, called in a prescription for birth-control and insisted I pick them up and begin them immediately. Now I have an appointment in about 3 weeks, and I'm scared to tell my doctor I want a baby. I've been having irregular bleeding for 3-4 days 2 weeks after my period, and weird bouts of pelvic pain.

Your doctor can't FORCE you to do anything you don't want to do, and certainly not to take any drugs you don't want to. Throw the prescription in the bin and find a new doctor. If you were 16, or had some kind of life threatening illness I could maybe understand it.

I would call the surgery and make another appointment asap with a different doctor about the pain.

What country are you in, out of interest?

 

[ForeverYoung]

I know how you feel. My husband's 18 year old cousin had a baby last year, despite being in a terrible situation (drugs, prostitution...pretty dreadful). She's being investigated by social services of course, but has already told her social worker that, if her daughter is taken into care, she'll "just have another one".
I'm 26, and my mum tells me I'm too young to start a family. My sister is 31 and has no intention of having a child. Ever. I guess it's just because I'm the baby of the family. But, like you, I'm happily married, own my own house and car, have no debt, have my degree and two postgraduates, have a decent job (it's not exactly my dream job, but it pays well), run my own small business (eventually I want to make a living from the business alone: freelance tutoring)...I think I'm in a much better position that some 18 year old, who has never worked a day in her life, and leaves her baby strapped to a pushchair outside in the rain!

Wow... you sound even more situated than I am! I'lll never understand the way life works.

Foreveryound, just a thought that may help you? I think you are thinging you have a short luteal phase? Could I suggest Agnus Castus and Vit B6 complex 100?
I am 36 and went to my doctors, she didn't want to know! I know my luteal phase was short (have been having af a long time!!!!)
I found a thread on here and took the advice and the first month I got BFP, I am now almost 12 wks.
I know it's really hard, people think bcos you are young it will all be fine!!!
DO NOT GIVE UP!
I had DS at 21 and DD at 31 (after chemo and radio for cervical cancer!) they told me I would never conceive! Then they told me she would be prem! 2 weeks over due date they had to induce me!!!!!! ha ha what do they know!!!

Most places when you are under 35 say you should try for 2 years b4 they will help you?!
Have you got a CBFM, heard some fab stuff about them! Also are you using your OPK's at the correct time of day? (afternoon?) I was using them first thing in the morning (which was wrong doh!)
There is so much advice on here.
Keep going sweetie.

I want a cbfm so bad! And yesterday I started taking 100 mg of b6, so we'll see what that will do. I'm hoping to lengthen my luteal phase by quite a bit.

Im also 21 and I cant get a doctor to take me seriously... kind of a pain in the ass, but im gonna keep looking until i find one who will listen!

just because they were immature brats at 21 doesn't mean we all are.

Exactly!! I don't have an interest in drinking or partying. I started very young and got it out of my system early. The occasional glass of wine is really all I care for, and I can still have that when I'm pregnant.

Foreveryoung - think you need another doctor - its one thing her not listening to you about OV day as from what I see posted on here this is common - its another thing for her to push her opinions on you with the BC. While I would be in agreement of a doctor giving patients advise thats surely where it should stop and be left to you to make your own choices. Its of no use to you to be seeing a doctor who you won't be able to tell the full truth to so that if there is a prob they might spot it. Is there any other doctor you could see?


Babydust to you XX

Yeah, I've never ever went back to that doctor, and I never will.

My younger sister who is 14, just told me there was a girl in her class who was pregnant (she had an A), sigh!

God, why can't they just put them up for adoption?? I

ForeverYoung I'm also having the same late ovulation issues.

It appears I ovulate on day 19/20 and have cycles of 28-30 days so quite a short LP.

My AF arrived on Weds and I've just started taking Agnus Cactus in the hope it will bring my ovulation forward a few days.

I'm planning on B6 being my savior. The short luteal phase is frustrating, but explains a lot.

 

[ForeverYoung]

I can't get a doctor to take me seriously. The last one I told I was wanting to start a family, told me I was too young and didn't have a good enough education, called in a prescription for birth-control and insisted I pick them up and begin them immediately. Now I have an appointment in about 3 weeks, and I'm scared to tell my doctor I want a baby. I've been having irregular bleeding for 3-4 days 2 weeks after my period, and weird bouts of pelvic pain.

Your doctor can't FORCE you to do anything you don't want to do, and certainly not to take any drugs you don't want to. Throw the prescription in the bin and find a new doctor. If you were 16, or had some kind of life threatening illness I could maybe understand it.

I would call the surgery and make another appointment asap with a different doctor about the pain.

What country are you in, out of interest?

I've got an appointment May 3rd with a new OB. USA.

 

[xobabyhopes]

So today I found out my (17 yr old) sisters best-friend (who's also 17) is pregnant....

For some reason, this feels like the lowest blow of all.

I'm 21, have a wonderful, gorgeous, supportive husband with a great job, a 3 bedroom house, I'm getting back in school, I live in a quiet little town just 60 miles away from all my family, and I want it so bad it hurts.

But no. I can't have a baby.

On top of all that, I found out I ovulate very late. Strips picked the surge up at CD 20 (doesn't that mean I ovulate like a day or two later?) of a 29-31 day cycle. Currently, it's day 29, and I'm getting cramps like af is about to come on. So even if we get the job done, the poor little thing doesnt stand a chance.

I can't get a doctor to take me seriously. The last one I told I was wanting to start a family, told me I was too young and didn't have a good enough education, called in a prescription for birth-control and insisted I pick them up and begin them immediately. Now I have an appointment in about 3 weeks, and I'm scared to tell my doctor I want a baby. I've been having irregular bleeding for 3-4 days 2 weeks after my period, and weird bouts of pelvic pain.

It feels like there is so much against me right now. I feel like giving up, because the obstacles seem too much to overcome without more resources.

Forgive my rant, but I'm so freaking heartbroken about this stupid stuff.

I just want my baby. Just one would make me happy. I'd love to have 4, but I would take 1 and be happy with it.

foreveryoung- i def feel the same way you do about all of the girls still in hs getting pregnant. i mean i am only 19 (almost 20) but i have a supportive fiancee, a good stable job at a hospital and being a mom is all i have ever wanted. its like you said you want it so bad that it hurts and then when it doenst happen it hurts even worse.

also with your doctor thats why i am so scared to go to the doctor and bring up the whole situation becuase they will all say im to young and im not ready but i am ready and yes i am rather young but im ready as are you. Plus who are they to just kind of judge us and tell us we arent ready?


welll i hoep you get everything on the right track with your cycles and hoping you get your soon

 

[ForeverYoung]

So today I found out my (17 yr old) sisters best-friend (who's also 17) is pregnant....

For some reason, this feels like the lowest blow of all.

I'm 21, have a wonderful, gorgeous, supportive husband with a great job, a 3 bedroom house, I'm getting back in school, I live in a quiet little town just 60 miles away from all my family, and I want it so bad it hurts.

But no. I can't have a baby.

On top of all that, I found out I ovulate very late. Strips picked the surge up at CD 20 (doesn't that mean I ovulate like a day or two later?) of a 29-31 day cycle. Currently, it's day 29, and I'm getting cramps like af is about to come on. So even if we get the job done, the poor little thing doesnt stand a chance.

I can't get a doctor to take me seriously. The last one I told I was wanting to start a family, told me I was too young and didn't have a good enough education, called in a prescription for birth-control and insisted I pick them up and begin them immediately. Now I have an appointment in about 3 weeks, and I'm scared to tell my doctor I want a baby. I've been having irregular bleeding for 3-4 days 2 weeks after my period, and weird bouts of pelvic pain.

It feels like there is so much against me right now. I feel like giving up, because the obstacles seem too much to overcome without more resources.

Forgive my rant, but I'm so freaking heartbroken about this stupid stuff.

I just want my baby. Just one would make me happy. I'd love to have 4, but I would take 1 and be happy with it.

foreveryoung- i def feel the same way you do about all of the girls still in hs getting pregnant. i mean i am only 19 (almost 20) but i have a supportive fiancee, a good stable job at a hospital and being a mom is all i have ever wanted. its like you said you want it so bad that it hurts and then when it doenst happen it hurts even worse.

also with your doctor thats why i am so scared to go to the doctor and bring up the whole situation becuase they will all say im to young and im not ready but i am ready and yes i am rather young but im ready as are you. Plus who are they to just kind of judge us and tell us we arent ready?


welll i hoep you get everything on the right track with your cycles and hoping you get your soon

I just wanna smack doctors and point out it's really none of their business. If my body is grown and mature, it's my business if I wanna have a child. I'm paying them to help that happen. Also, not everyone is a doctor and pulls down like 200,000 a year, but we're just as qualified to take care of and raise a child. I'd also like to point out, 80 years ago, 16 was like the prime age to have a baby, so honestly, we're a little late in the game.

 

[mummy.wannabe]

it doesnt mean you havent got a chance because you ovulate a few days later than is what ''normal'' i have 50-70 day cycles.

a lady on here ovulated day 80 odd and found out she was pregnant on cycle day 96 so if thats does not show anyone that has long cycles that there is still hope, then what can.

she said why would people listen to what on google etc saying that if there egg older it has no chance, she said course its got a chance no matter what day it is realiesed as we are born with all the eggs that we are going to have!!

where are you from? doctors cant tell you to go on BC becasue your too young, youll find that that is one doctors opinion that they should have kept to themselves.

your married settled and ready and that is all that matters.

i have been trying for 10 months now and im 25, you just think its going to happen just like that because thats all you hear from other young people, but thats normally the accidents! x
keep postive x

 

[ForeverYoung]

it doesnt mean you havent got a chance because you ovulate a few days later than is what ''normal'' i have 50-70 day cycles.

a lady on here ovulated day 80 odd and found out she was pregnant on cycle day 96 so if thats does not show anyone that has long cycles that there is still hope, then what can.

she said why would people listen to what on google etc saying that if there egg older it has no chance, she said course its got a chance no matter what day it is realiesed as we are born with all the eggs that we are going to have!!

where are you from? doctors cant tell you to go on BC becasue your too young, youll find that that is one doctors opinion that they should have kept to themselves.

your married settled and ready and that is all that matters.

i have been trying for 10 months now and im 25, you just think its going to happen just like that because thats all you hear from other young people, but thats normally the accidents! x
keep postive x

Oh I know a doctor can't force me to do anything. And, the main reason I'm sure I ovulate too late is I've been feeling menstrual cramps. Still no period, but I know it's freaking coming. I started taking b6 2 days ago though. Maybe it'll help with my next cycle.

 

[mummy.wannabe]

but just what i was trying to say was even if you ovulate later than other you can still get pregnant x

 

[punk_pig]

. I've been having irregular bleeding for 3-4 days 2 weeks after my period, and weird bouts of pelvic pain.

Have you always had this - if so have you been checked for endometriosis etc.? This can cause probs conceiving and it's best to know sooner rather than later with these things.

If it is a new symptom could you actually be pregnant!!!!
Otherwise it could be an STI (no judgement there - my husband was diagnosed with Chlamydia 18mnths in to our relationship, he'd had it for years after an ex-girlfriend cheated on him!)

 

[ForeverYoung]

. I've been having irregular bleeding for 3-4 days 2 weeks after my period, and weird bouts of pelvic pain.

Have you always had this - if so have you been checked for endometriosis etc.? This can cause probs conceiving and it's best to know sooner rather than later with these things.

If it is a new symptom could you actually be pregnant!!!!
Otherwise it could be an STI (no judgement there - my husband was diagnosed with Chlamydia 18mnths in to our relationship, he'd had it for years after an ex-girlfriend cheated on him!)

I've had spotting 14 days after my period for the last 6 months. The last 2 have just been the bleeding for 3-4 days. I'm gonna talk to my gynecologist on the 3rd about that and the possibility of endo. And no way I'm pregnant. I've taken a ton of tests and had some really severe periods.

And, no sti's here. I get tested every time I go in for anything. My husband and I got tested together when we first started dating, and I trust him enough to know we've both been faithful. But I will get tested again to make double sure.

The witch got me today, so I'm thinking it could be my ovulation.