Waters broke at 17 weeks :'-(

[sunnydazegirl]

Aw, well I was really hoping you would hear something different. I know this is a difficult time for you but you have a ton of support here. Good luck with everything.

 

[Agiboma]

Pink sparkle i am sorry about your situation. I have not been in it personally but i have 2 friends that have been in the same situation. My first friend's waters broke at 17 weeks she was carrying twins, she managed to avoid labour until 25 weeks when the babues where born. They spent 4 months in the NNICU then eventually went home. My secound friend water broke @ 19 weeks she had a singleton, she went into labour @ 24 weeks and delivered her son spent almost 6 months in the hospital but eventually went home. I wish you all the best in whatever decision you make.

 

[Beaglemama]

Oh, Pink_Sparkle, I'm so sorry to hear this. You will deliver your LO exactly 2 weeks after I was induced and delivered my little Madison. I honestly can say I know what you're going through.

When I found out that Madison had passed, my first thought was wanting to deliver her right away. I just wanted to get it over with, to be able to "move on". But then, once she was born, once she was outside of me, and the nurse took her away... I even more desperately wanted her back. Because now, she was just gone. And I didn't feel like I could even begin to "move on" like I had thought. I guess, if I could give you any advice, try if it is at all possible, to take a moment and realize how special this time with your LO is. You just cannot get it back. And as painful as the next few days will be for you, at least you've had this time, even though it is far too short, with your special baby. In many ways I wish I could go back and relive my time with Madison, even though I know no amount of time would ever be enough.

My heart goes out to you. I am SO glad you'll deliver in a private room! I was in labor and delivery, right next to mothers giving birth to healthy babies. And, to make it worse, every time a baby was born, they would play a lullaby on the speakers throughout the whole hospital. I sobbed every time. Even with my door shut, I could hear it. I am so grateful you'll be spared that kind of pain.

In the days and weeks to come, try to think about the future. Have you heard of a "Rainbow Baby"? It's a child after a loss, just like we can look forward to a rainbow after a terrible storm. I know that may seem impossible right now, but I do believe with all my heart, that we will all have much happier days in the future. Even if it takes a long time, our Rainbow will come. I hope this brings you a bit of comfort, I know it has helps me. Sometimes you have to focus on the future to get through the pain of the present.

Keep in touch - write and vent as much as you need to. We are all here for you. Going through this makes us uniquely strong women. You'll be surprised at just how strong you will become, I know you will.

Take care of yourself. xxx

 

[sharan]

Ahhh...hun I am so sorry! I read your post from earlier on and really hoped for a happy ending. As others have said it is hard and it does feel as though the grief will consume you. However it does get better with time.

I gave birth to my son at 22 weeks just over 2 weeks ago and it's only now that I've started to feel a bit more normal. I've got his funeral on Friday which I know will trigger all those emotions again. But I know I will come through this stronger. As I'm sure you will too. We are all here for you if you do need to talk xx

 

[Torres]

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[Hunneytot]

I am so sorry to hear this I was rooting for you and baby. My little angel was born yesterday and fought for 55 minutes :'( If you want to talk you know you can message me.

 

[GuardianAngel]

I'm so sorry to hear this. Hugs and prayers sent your way

 

[Pink_Sparkle]

Thank you so much again for your kind words and advice. Its kinda like a bad dream, like its not really happening. I guess some babies are just too precious for this earth. I feel so guilty as im carrying our precious, much wanted baby still but knowing whats ahead on tuesday. Im dreading the emptiness, guilt, pain, hurt that I will feel once our LO grows its wings. My body failed our LO, hopefully we can find out why this happened....hopefully, one day we will have our rainbow xxx

 

[solitaire89]

Hon, please don't think that your body failed your LO - nobody knows why these things happen...

Much as it is difficult, treasure these next few days with your LO - talk to them lots, play them nice music - that way when they are called home you know that you have made their time here everything that it could be.

We will be here for you when you need us

 

[tummymummy]

I am so sorry to hear about your situation hun. All the love in the world for tuesday xxxxxxx

 

[mhazzab]

I'm so sad to hear your latest update, sending you so much love. If I can do anything for you please let me know xxx

 

[Nikki_d72]

I'm so sorry to hear things weren't as you were hoping hun, I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I hope you were given the space, time and information needed to come to the right decision for you and your partner. Much love to you xxx

 

[CanadianMaple]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I wish there was something I could say to make it easier. I, too, was going to suggest Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep. https://www.nowilaymedowntosleep.org/

I worked in a high risk labour and delivery about 10 years ago. Take anything they offer for a memory box, you'll want to look at them someday.

Are they going to scan you again before you go in? I know it's still a long way from viability, but there have been instances where if you are on strict bedrest, you can keep the fluid in. Most are in hospital during that time.

Do you have lots of family around? Don't be afraid to lean on anyone who is there for you. Take them up on bringing you dinner and cleaning your house or whatever else they want to do for you.

I'm thinking of you.

 

[Pink_Sparkle]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I wish there was something I could say to make it easier. I, too, was going to suggest Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep. https://www.nowilaymedowntosleep.org/

I worked in a high risk labour and delivery about 10 years ago. Take anything they offer for a memory box, you'll want to look at them someday.

Are they going to scan you again before you go in? I know it's still a long way from viability, but there have been instances where if you are on strict bedrest, you can keep the fluid in. Most are in hospital during that time.

Do you have lots of family around? Don't be afraid to lean on anyone who is there for you. Take them up on bringing you dinner and cleaning your house or whatever else they want to do for you.

I'm thinking of you.

Hi there, thank you for the suggestion for the photographer but unfortunately they dont cover my area. I think the midwives said they would take pictures of our LO also.
Ive been on bedrest at home, ive hardly been on my feet for 2 weeks. I know theres no chance as I am still leaking fluid
My DH, family and friends have been amazing, not letting me lift a finger. Thanks again for the kind words and advice xx

 

[Andypanda6570]

I am just so deeply sorry you are going through this............ XOXO

 

[Beaglemama]

I'm so sorry. Rest as much as you can these next few days. I've been thinking about you...

I wasn't able to get a picture of my Madison, either. But we did have the nurse do ink prints of her feet, and that's something we really cherish. We've made copies of her little footprints and put them on memorial cards for our family and close friends - it's a project my husband and I are doing together and it's giving us a bit of closure. We feel like we're helping Madison live on in other people's hearts. Also, if they wrap your LO in a blanket, why not ask to keep that? It's completely up to you what you want to do, but I was so overwhelmed and tired after delivering our little girl, I didn't think to ask for her blanket and that is something I do regret not having.

Take good care of yourself... you are in my thoughts hun xxx

 

[maisie78]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm thinking of you today

 

[Pink_Sparkle]

We lost her. Our precious Freya.

I delivered the most perfect tiny little angel this morning. My labour was painful but very quick. My DH was there the whole time and we were lucky enough to have a quiet private delivery room away from the main labour ward where we could spend the whole afternoon with her.

I cant explain how perfect she looked. Even the midwife said she had the most beautiful profile. Her face was perfect, a cute button nose and gorgeous little lips exactly like her daddy's.

We spent hours holding her, gazing at her and talking to her. The midwives took photos of her in a moses basket. We got to keep the little hat she had on and the shawl she was wrapped in. We also got a memory box full of beautiful little momentos and a card with her hand and foot prints.

Right now, im drained. Emotionally and physically. I just want to say a big thank you to all you lovely ladies who have supported me so much. xxx

 

[sunnydazegirl]

So sorry for your loss. ((HUGS))

 

[solitaire89]

You are all in our thoughts and prayers tonight.

Take everything easy, don't be afraid to ask for help, and don't forget that we are all here for you.