Weird question but oh well...

[lilgemsy]

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[whoops]

I don't know what the legal position is - in my case, FOB has never met her and we live with my parents, so I'd imagine they'd take her. I do plan on writing some kind of will though with guardians named in it if something was to happen to me.

 

[punk_pig]

If there is nothing to prove he is the daddy then your parents would be classed as next of kin. If you were conscious you could make arrangments for them to become LO's full time carers without involving any authorities (private fostering arrangement) BUT if FOB wanted custody he could go the legal route and then everyone would have to be assessed to see who was most suitable. But he'd have to prove he was the Daddy if his name ain't on birth certificate and you were never married.

 

[AbbynChloe]

Hi there!

This time last year I was VERY ill and struggling to look after LO. FOB was around but everyone who was involved (adlut social services/hv/doctor) all knew of my wishes for Chloe to go to a family member if I got really sick - luckily FOB agreed, but I really don't think there would have been an issue if he had disagreed.

Your FOB is not on the bc therefore has no parental rights - he cannot take her and they would not give lo to him without your permission!

I really hope you feel better soon and LO is ok xxxxx

 

[Snowball]

Yes I'm sure it's right that if FOB isn't on there then they don't have rights

 

[lilgemsy]

Thanks. Put my mind at rest quite a bit!
Hoping it doesnt ever to come to that. But you know, just incase...

 

[SophiasMummy]

I asked my mum about this the other day incase something happened to me. Apparently even if I say I want my mum to have my daughter if I died FOB could still fight for custody, but he would have to prove hes her dad first and then fight for custody against my mum, they would look at his prior involvement etc and who would be best to care for her also if shes old enough then they would take her own wishes into consideration, this is the main thing that really scares me I want sophia to stay with my family as they are always there for her and her dad inows nothing about her plus she would have to leave all her friends if her dad had her as he lives and hour and half away which I think if he takes her away from her friends and family ahe grew up with then hes even worse than I already think he is. This is all hypothetical of course if something did happen though I hope it doesnt xx

 

[MummyJade]

FOB have no rights if not on b/c.... Maizies dad is on hers but he is a waste of space so i have done a will stating maizie is to stay with my mum i have got copies of solicitors letters and written a letter on why i want this to happen.. he can go to court but the judge will see whats best for child and my solicitor said with him messing around and my letter and the bond Maizie has with my family/mum she will be able to stay with my mum... xx

 

[anna matronic]

It would be your parents. I also have it in my will that should I die before Evan is 18 my mum will become his legal guardian x

 

[babydue2011]

hi ladys
SophiasMummy is correct... even if FOB is not on b/c he still has rights if he really wanted to fight and go through the court system. He would pay for DNA test and continue with court as SophiasMummy explained. This has happened within my family and no matter what the FOB will have rights if he fights hard enough. Even if a will is set up ... ofcourse FOB would have to go through lots of court time but it is possible.

 

[lilgemsy]

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