Weird questions...

[Ali33]

So I lost my son last year at 24 weeks. I am having a hard time not thinking I am pregnant with him again. I am not crazy I promise. I know obviously it's not him but I still keep thinking of him and forgetting it is a complete different baby! Please tell me I am not the only one.. I just find it so weird..

 

[StillPraying]

Didn't want to read and run. While I have not been in your shoes, I don't think that's strange. How far long are you? maybe as you get farther that thought will go away or maybe not. I don't think it's wrong either way. Also when your baby is born I guarantee you will think differently

 

[Gwen77]

So, so sorry for your loss

You don't sound strange at all! I'm not a religious person by any means (and I don't know if you are either), but perhaps you're feeling this way because it's the soul of your other baby (perhaps watching out for this new little bundle)...?

Just a thought. All the best

 

[Topanga053]

I don't think it's that strange. When I was pregnant with my lost baby, I always swore she was a girl. When we lost her (1st tri loss), my husband kept saying that she just wasn't ready to come, but our next baby would be her again. I never believed him and thought it was silly. But when I got pregnant again and it was a girl, I really felt like it was the same baby. LO is 8 months old now and I STILL think of her as the same baby I lost before. Ever since I had her, I've been at complete peace with the loss and I really feel like she's the same baby who just came back a second time.

I really do believe that the first pregnancy was her soul trying to come to this earth, but the body wasn't strong enough, so she came back again the second time and this time the physical body was strong enough to survive, so she was finally born. I am NOT religious and NEVER believe things like that, so it's really odd that I feel this way. But I feel so strongly in my heart that it was always her. Maybe that's just because she's the only baby I've ever really had or because it's just my mind's way of rationalizing the loss, but it feels so real and it makes me happy, so I stopped questioning it a long time ago.

My husband feels the same way too. We both now always refer to the first pregnancy as LO.

 

[skyesmom]

i TOTALLY second topanga on this!

i am also by no means a religious person and even brought up in a completely non-religious family, but i always feel that when i get pregnant again, it will be my second angel coming back (not the first one... with him/her i always felt at peace as it is, but with my second the feeling is very very very different).

don't think you're crazy because you feel what you do. if someone knows your babies and their souls, it is YOU their mommy i think any mom would recognize their child in a million, and the same goes for angel mommies!

 

[Bumblebee24]

I dint want to read & run either but what topanga said can't be more true to my own thoughts with my little girl. It was as if she just wasn't quite ready. I think it's a healthy way to deal with such a heartbreaking loss

 

[Hopefulk]

Not crazy at all. Have you heard the saying, "you don't have a soul. You are a soul - you have a body"? That's what got me through my mcs (and I'm not religious). I believe Sadie is a perfect little soul and the first two bodies we created just weren't perfect enough for her (ours were both 1st trimester losses so this language probably wouldn't feel right for you but what I'm saying is, you're not alone with this type of feeling).

This won't be the same baby but it may have the same soul and you have the se dreams for this baby as you had for your little boy.

I'm so sorry to read about your loss and delighted to read that you are expecting.xxx