Well i just told my parents

[cheryl]

i just couldn't phone and tell them because i wasn't sure what they would say. So i sent my mum a tx and told her. She didn't reply so i sent my dad a tx saying has mum got the tx and he phoned me and said they were out shopping when she got the tx and she will phone me in abit when she has finished whats she is doing. My dad said congratulations and was ok but he said my mum was in shock still and she said that i should have phoned her, but my dad said he said to her if i had phoned her she would have gone mad at me. Well if she had of done i would have argued back i am 23 and i am a big girl now so i can do what i want. I have 2 kids already aswell.
Do you think i was right sending a tx and not phoneing her?
Luv Cheryl xxx

 

[ablaze]

personally i would have phoned or told face to face, but wa sur decision hun

 

[cheryl]

I just didn't want to argue with her and fall out i think she still thinks i am a kid but i am not and she will have to get used to it
Luv Cheryl xxx

 

[Layla]

i told my dad by text that i had got engaged, i phoned him to tell him i was pregnant but told my sisters by text.

We are not a very big talking family so text message was normal for us, i guess it depends on what kind of relationship you have with your parents as to how you tell them things.

If your mum would of argued then i would have done the same thing to avoid teh greif, my nan is like that (she brought me up) we hardly talk atall coz everytime we do we end up fighting, so now my dad and sisters pass on info to her, its just teh way we are.

I wouldnt feel bad, they know, thats the main thing.

x

 

[cheryl]

Thank you that has made me feel better Layla. She still hasn't phoned me but maybe she is thinking of what to say
Luv Cheryl xxx

 

[Mango]

Hmm I personally woudl have told her face to face of via phone. but texting was yoru decision and if that is what you felt was best then so be it. You know your fam better than anyone One thing for sure, it's done now so hopefully you can relax a bit!

 

[Suz]

I agree with what Layla said. It really depends on what type of family relationship you had. But If I know my folks would get grumpy with me, I would send a text too.

 

[Jesse*sGirl]

I plan to tell my family face to face. My mom and I don't always get along, but if she thought I needed to "grow up" so to speak, then I wouldn't have texted b/c that would give her yet another reason to say that. But that's just me. I also understand that you didnt want to hear it, but in that case, why just not tell them? If you don't want to deal with it, and feel like you can't I just wouldn't have. I'm sorry she didn't take it so well, I hope once she thinks about it she calls with a congrats.

 

[cheryl]

Well i get on with my mum but if i need to tell her anything i tx her, I wanted to give her time to think and not try to tell me what to do.
I planned this pregnancy and want the baby, but i just couldn't tell her face to face because we would have ended up arguing if she said something stupid. This way she can think before she talks to me.
Luv Cheryl xxx

 

[lady3]

Then that is a perfect reason for a text. when she calls explain to her what you just wrote.

 

[Linzi]

Its up to you. I live a fair way away from my parents, and fortunately they were visiting the day after I found out, so I told them then. Otherwise it would have been by text or phone.

If you think that was best for you then thats the way you should have done it. You're 23, not a child anymore. She might be concerned, but Im, sure she'll come round.

Good luck honey I know its hard work

xxx

 

[ColtonsMom]

I think it is a personal decision whether or not to phone her as you know her better than we do, and everyone is different.
I personally told my mother face-to-face, I felt it was best since it's my first and I am still sorta young (I'm 18)..
Anyways, congrats on telling them!

 

[Ersurgeongirl]

My mom, I plan on telling her face to face, she had my brother at 19, so for me being 22, she would be a hypocrite.

as for telling my OH about this, I actually texted him, got a reaction, then phoned him, then sat down with him. We've only been together for 2 months so I didnt know how he would react. Its just safer in my mind to do it that way.

so no cheryl, what you did is ok. it gives her time to cool down and then think about being a grandmother again, come to her senses that she is going to love it, then talk face to face about it.

im sure it will all work out for the best!

 

[staceyp]

my hubby and i told his parents over the phone, we rang them up...they r the sorta parents who love us and alwaya want the best but they r really happy. i had a misscarriage a couple of months beofre hand and my parnters dad sed he was hoping we would try again it depends everyone is different (i am 21) so the age thing affects me too but they will b happy....some people can get wuite selfisshh and dont mean it but make sure she knows its what u want and how happy u r good luck with it all

 

[cheryl]

She phoned me and said she was really shocked but it gave her chance to calm down and she is ok with she says i have to look after myself lol. So it turned out alright in the end.
Luv Cheryl xxx

 

[Ersurgeongirl]

Well thats always good news!

 

[Linzi]

She phoned me and said she was really shocked but it gave her chance to calm down and she is ok with she says i have to look after myself lol. So it turned out alright in the end.
Luv Cheryl xxx

Thats good news I just remembered I told my OH by text actually coz he was at work when I tested. He works in a call centre and cant answer his mobile. I felt awful for doing it, but he was thankful I did!

xxx