whaaat!

[princess_x0]

You sounds really sensible and I think you know the answer to your own question.

Maybe he feels guilty for what happens and thinks having a baby would make you happy?

He sounds like he's made this desicion on an other whim, and it's a human life we're talking about. If he really wants to bring a LO into the world then he should get working on sorting out his life so that he can provide for his new family so he can provide for you both. And that might take a few years, but isn't it worth it to know that he will be able to give his baby everything it could want.

Yeah.
Well I think he thinks a baby would make everything ok. But I need to be working full time. xx

 

[princess_x0]

Just realised you are thinking about midwifery. I am applying for a degree in midwifery for sept 2009. It is competitive and the universities like you to know what your getting yourself into as its not like any 'normal' degree you have to work shifts and dont get long holidays off like everyone else but you do get a bursary (like a grant as you dont pay it back) and get to train in what I think is the most valuable job ever. The most important thing to the universities isnt so much your qualifications - although you will need to be educated to a level standard - if you havent got a levels (like me) an access course in health or something similar at your local college which takes a year is enough to get you in - usually without having to have any gcse's although every uni is different so you would need to ask each one that you are thinking of going to what they would require. The most important thing is doing your research - reas up loads about the role of a midwife - maybe subscribe to a midwifery journal and try and contact your local hospital to see if you can get some work experience - this can be difficult as some hospitals dont allow it - if you cant get work experience see if you can at least have a chat with one of the midwives as this all helps you to look a good candidate for the course. This is a great forum to chat if you are thinking of being a midwife www.studentmidwife.net. Good luck

Heya huni thankyou for the advice
I've wanted to be a midwife ever since I can remember, but then I messed my last year of school up and ended up going to college to hair. Not what I wanted to do, but yeah, I'm looking at local uni's as I don't want to stay away from home for a week, so hopefully I'll beable to drive backwards and forwards. I'm thinking I'm gunna do a part time access course next september, as I will be working full time. I will contact my local hospital and ask them about it, I'm not sure if they will give me any work experience as they are a bit tight but hopefully I'll be able to talk to the midwives etc. Thank you for the help xxx

 

[NickyT75]

Yeah it does sound more like guilt to be honest. And its completely not fair on you to have your body go through all that so soon. I would personally tell him yous need to think about it more, and its too soon after the abortion. See how yous feel in a few months?

Yeah, well i mean i would love to ttc now, its just the thing is i need to finish my course, pass my driving test and we havent even been away on our own together yet. I keep telling him we can start thinking about it end of next yr and will defo start trying after my 20th but he cant accept the fact, he is moaning coz its 2 and half yrs away..but i want to be working full time and earning enough to afford a 2 bed flat between us atleast..

You sound like a very mature young woman with your head screwed on, good luck with your course & driving test xx

 

[Chris77]

Princess, I agree with the others that it sounds like he is just feeling a lot of guilt. You have a very good plan and I think you should stick with it.

Good luck with school and your driving test.

 

[Charleeh08]

until you know how he really feels dont chance it bewt..

this could just be guilt talking..
and having another abbortion could reduce any chance of gettin pregnant in later life

YOuu dont sound convince your self about this guy. just wait and see how long hes awilling to wait for a baby


x

 

[claire1983]

Glad I could help - hope you can live your dreams! Good Luck, part time access is a great idea but if you cant find anything you can do an access course distance learning (like me!) you do have to be self disciplined to do the work but it means you can carry on workiing check out www.distancelearningcentre.com for the access to midwifery course xx

 

[princess_x0]

until you know how he really feels dont chance it bewt..

this could just be guilt talking..
and having another abbortion could reduce any chance of gettin pregnant in later life

YOuu dont sound convince your self about this guy. just wait and see how long hes awilling to wait for a baby


x

thank you hun lol.
just fighting MY urge to have my implant removed

 

[princess_x0]

Glad I could help - hope you can live your dreams! Good Luck, part time access is a great idea but if you cant find anything you can do an access course distance learning (like me!) you do have to be self disciplined to do the work but it means you can carry on workiing check out www.distancelearningcentre.com for the access to midwifery course xx

Thank you hun.
I think I will apply as soon as I've finished my college course
xx