what a moron!!!

[xxsteffyxx]

Well.... I got a phone call out of the blue yesturday.
'Hello is that Ms Wilkinson?'
'Yes'
'Hello, my name is Bev, I'm calling from social services is it okay to speak to you?'
'Yes, that's fine.'
'We have had reports from christopher that you are mistreating your son Harvey.'

Are you f****ng kidding me? The low life has reported me to social services for aparently not changing his nappy, having PND, putting Harvey outside my home doorstep in his car seat and ignoring him and for aparently being friends with a child molester.
ALL LIES!!! Where would he get such rubbish from?

Can someone shed some light on the subject, she has to contact my health visitor to see if my HV has any concerns, which I doubt she will, but what happens next?
- what do you think I should do?

We have mediation review next Tuesday, I'm seriously thinking of cutting the contact back again to fortnightly visits, chris doesn't have Harvey's best intrest at heart anymore, he's trying to score cheap points at me by reporting me to social services for being a mistreating mother.

God that boy takes the piss!!!

 

[ravenmel]

The social will come out and talk to you and your partner. Probably do a background check look through criminal records talk to health visitor, doctor etc and then write a report on their finding if nothing is found they'll write that and close the case.Sometimes they don't come out because they see this thing all the time reports made once parents are going to court etc so they just flag it if a complain is made again then maybe a visit will happen but nothing to worry about.

I would go to court and ask for a contact centre to be arranged so you don't have to see the ex and he doesn't have to see you. You can drop baby off and pick him up there without seeing the ex.That way your ex wouldn't know who you are dating or anything about your life etc his contact with you should be about baby only not who you are dating .

 

[xxsteffyxx]

Chris has been arrested for assault on me and a friend of mine. My friend has a black eye and had his ear torn and I have crushed tendons in my hand from where chris tried to break my arm. He is currently in custody now. Access has been stopped

 

[MommaAlexis]

Oh my gosh. that is terrible!

 

[xxsteffyxx]

ust got off phone to victim support and court is 23rd of April. He is being charged with criminal assault to me and my friend. So he is being convicted which is good news.

 

[teal]

Massive hugs I hope you're ok xx

 

[lynne192]

social work will come out just charm them, there is nothing wrong and they will see it and make sure you want this on record that he has reported you so that if he keeps doing it they can report him for harrassment he's trying to cause trouble it seems had this myself social work are too over worked to put much effort into much..... heartless doing something like this. hope you get it sorted soon, i would just go along with whatever and then complain about him reporting you in the future or get him done for harrassment and stop him in his tracks?

 

[whoknowsx]

Sorry you are going through all this drama mama

 

[medic76097]

Just a gentle suggestion to maybe concider what your writing on here before you post. I know personally that the Court can get all sorts of things from the internet that can or might harm your case.

Stay strong!!

 

[xxsteffyxx]

Thank you for the advice medic. I will deffo bare that in mind...

 

[destynibaby]

wow, what a loser!!
crazy people always show their true colors eventually and do something stupid to get themselves locked up!
i hope you and your son are doing okay.

 

[tooyoung]

He sounds very scary. Be careful!

 

[LJaydow]

Oh sweetheart! What a terribly stressful time for your and your LO. I hope now that the grief stops from him and his family - how awful

I hope you and your friend are ok and you are getting lots of support in this.

xxx

 

[angelpkj]

so sorry to hear that but try see the positives

now they will see your side of the story now they will believe and listen to you and now your lo is safe away from him

 

[xxsteffyxx]

You know what? I feel sorry for my boy...

At mediation it's been decided that a contact centre is now the best option, unfortunetly the contact centre has a 2-3 month waiting list. It is the safest option for both Harvey, myself and my family. But until the court date and such he cannot see Harvey (unless through a contact centre). I've been in touch with the centre and there isn't a lot they can do.

It just breaks my heart it has come to this. The contact we were currently doing, the 12hrs, was going so well... and then this happens.

Poor Harvey. :'(

 

[judge12]

You know what? I feel sorry for my boy...

At mediation it's been decided that a contact centre is now the best option, unfortunetly the contact centre has a 2-3 month waiting list. It is the safest option for both Harvey, myself and my family. But until the court date and such he cannot see Harvey (unless through a contact centre). I've been in touch with the centre and there isn't a lot they can do.

It just breaks my heart it has come to this. The contact we were currently doing, the 12hrs, was going so well... and then this happens.

Poor Harvey. :'(

You are such a good mother. I do not think, actually I know I would never find it in my heart to let fob see our child again if he reported me to social worker then attacked me! You are thinking of just your son having a father in his life...I think from what you wrote that Harvey would be better off without this man in both your life. He does not sound like a good man at all or a good male role model for your son. But it is your choice

 

[xxsteffyxx]

I hear so many times in my life...

'I am a dad, I have RIGHTS to my child'

But do you know what? Men and women do not have rights to their children. We as parents have responsiblity to our children, but it is our children who have the right.

Harvey has a right to know his dad, and depending on how the next 12 months goes who am I to deny Harvey a relashionship with his father? But Harvey is the only person I am thinking of, if I think that Harvey's relashionship with his father is detramental to his health and well being then of course I will have to think of other options. But unless Chris decides one month to see his son and then the next 2 months is too busy drinking and socialising to see his son... then of course, Harvey I hope will have a loving unionship with his father... and that is all that matters.

I am hoping the contact centre goes well, and that it works. But only time will tell what kind of father he is.

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Oh my gosh, what a total waste of air. I hope you & your friend are okay & that scumbag gets what he deserves! Big stay strong

 

[sophxx]

Do you have a solicyor? I'd push for a residency order to be placed in court so you have full rights. Then ask for his contact through a contact center x

 

[MyFirstNoodle]

Did they actually say who reported you? My aunts Ex is always reporting her to social services but whenever my aunt asks who made the claim they always say...we can't give you that information all we can say is it's a male? What an arsehole your ex sounds. Hope it gets sorted xx