What are the chances of him regretting it?

[wasey]

Maybe it's wrong of me, but I'm desperate for him to run back because he's realized how stupid he's being. I SO want him to regret our sort of mutual agreement to just see how things go. It just all seems to be so easy for him and I can sit and cry at how much I miss him and what I thought we'd have after LO was born. He's out right now, skating, with friends, having loads of fun and probably not missing us at all, texting me barely. He's still saying I love you and such but when I ask him what's really going on with us, where me and Summer stand he just says "I don't know what the future holds". As we're not technically together but still talking fine I don't know how to say I'm done. I'm desperate to say it, and then maybe, just maybe something in his head will click and he'll realize he wants to be in this with us. I don't know what to do, I don't want to just cut my losses incase he's fine with it I must sound so silly, but why can't he just see what he's got I'm so lost, I thought we'd be a little family of 3

 

[jessrabbit]

Sorry, its such a hard situation. Its like a bereavment, all your hopes and dreams have potentially gone and its a period of adjustment to go through.

Maybe things will work out. have you thought of maybe writing down how you feel so you can put your point across to him without getting into an arguement or not getting your point across clearly.

If he really doesnt want to continue the relationship there isnt much you can do but except it. Think of the best interests of your LO and start your new dream life together.

Just because you are not together doesnt mean it cant be amicable, but as you still have feelings for him, a bit of time apart would be good for you to heal.

Its really not fair of him to keep you in limbo land, it does sound like he doesnt really know what he wants at the mo, but its not fair to keep you hanging when LO is involved.

xx

 

[moomin_troll]

easier said then done but why want someone who clearly is keeping u hanging on incase he wants u again?
u cant spend ur life waiting for him, who sounds like a child himself not a father.

we all want our exs to be miserable without us and see how good they had it but that rarely happens.

let him be a dad but u need to stand up for urself and let him go

 

[cluelessnow]

I know exactly how you feel. FOB asked me to wait until the birth before he could tell me what's going on with us. In the end, it was driving me crazy so I pushed it (perhaps I shouldn't have but it didn't feel right just waiting) and he finally admitted that he was only with me because of LO and if it wasn't for LO, we wouldn't be together. FOB said same thing that he loved me but was confused and didn't know what to do. But pushed he said he loved me but didn't love me enough to commit for life. Well we're not together but we are amicable and talking because I still want him to be part of LO's life.

It's not easy but rejection now (before LO comes along) is better than after the birth when I need all my strength to look after LO. Well this is what I try tell myself when I'm really down.

If you don't know now, you will soon enough. If you're patient, you can wait it out. I wasn't and sometimes I wish I was. My male friends said that when men say they're not sure or they don't know, it usually means no. My FOB hated confrontation so he may have thought this but couldn't tell me but yours could just need more time. All the best.

 

[Laura2919]

Its like being stuck in Limbo and its going to pull you down. He either wants a relationship or he doesnt, he cant keep saying he dont know what the future holds because nobody does and if we all went about our business like that we wouldnt be succesful in anything.

If you feel like it would close that chapter by saying goodbye then thats what you need to build to but if you think there is something there to fight for then give him one last chance to sort it out, if he doesnt you know what to do.

The tears and the hurt is absolutely normal, but they pass and one day you wont cry and then the next day you wont cry and before you know it you havent cried in a week. Its a complete change and its hard to adjust to something we know nothing about but you can do it.

Sending you big

 

[sambucababy]

easier said then done but why want someone who clearly is keeping u hanging on incase he wants u again?
u cant spend ur life waiting for him, who sounds like a child himself not a father.

we all want our exs to be miserable without us and see how good they had it but that rarely happens.

let him be a dad but u need to stand up for urself and let him go

This so applies to my ex even though our situations are worlds apart. Focus on you and you've had some great advice on here already, avoiding contact does help well has me}, Im still struggling hoping he'll come to his senses but even if he did I think our situtaion is doomed.

Urs is different be strong, confident and show him you can manage without him, maybe he is confused maybe he is looking for a way out, he needs space to figure out what he wants and as the above poster said, he sounds a child himself, stand up for yourself and what will be will be take care x

 

[littlelinnies]

awww I didnt want to read and run.. i really feel for you, must be so hard xxx