what are you most concerned about to do with labour?

[bethsbooboo]

I'm worried about everything! and at the moment i'm going through a stage of worrying about how I am going to feel after the birth as well!

 

[moomoo]

I worry about needing a csection, the first poo after giving birth and my milk not coming in properly again.

 

[lisabee]

I am afraid of pooing (AGAIN) oh its was sooooo embarrassing!!!!!

For the ladies who are scared of tearing....u dont feel it

The pain is like cramping which then goes into severe cramping and you will have moments of "I cant f**king do this" before you know it another contraction comes along and you have forgotten what you said untill u say it again

The most painfull part for me is when the baby is pushing down ready to come out it also gives me the fear that i will have the urge to go to the loo but usually after a few pushes baby is out then you forget what just happened!

The body is a wonderfull amazing thing - never fails to surprise me

 

[18singlemom2b]

i also am so worried about coping with the pain afterwards as well, first poop, all this other stuff..ahh. it's never ending ugh

 

[jackiea85]

I'm not too worried this time, I'm just a bit scared I might have another haemorrhage and need another blood transfusion x

 

[2016]

Don't know if this will help any of you (I wouldn't have believed this if I read it before the birth):

Waters went at work - I was wearing a pad and dashed to the loo so no embarassment. I daftly sat at my desk in shock for the next 3 hours carrying on work then got in the car and drove 1.5 hours home.

Had to be transferred to another hospital 2 hours away in heavy snow while in intermittent labour. It was an adventure and I didn't know the cramps were labour.

Was in labour for about 24 hours total but only the last 3 hours were intense but not even as bad as period pains, def not as bad as a tummy bug or gallstones and I have had cervical smear tests and blood tests that hurt FAR more.

I pooped! Nobody cared...even my squeamish hubby watched the whole birth and saw it. You don't give a hoot what comes put of where by that point.

To give you an idea how surprisingly easy it can be, I got to 10cm not actually realising I was in labour cos the "pains" were so mild even with zero pain relief. I was laughing and joking as I walked to the delivery room and started pushing, thinking "is this what all those horror stories are about?" I do NOT have a high pain threshold.

Pushing didn't start to hurt at all until LOs head was 2/3rds of the way out. Because there was no pain I didn't believe he was coming which is why hubby went down there to check!
At the worst point the pain was like when you whack your toe and it really smarts so badly you can't think for a second. That's all. Just a few serious pushes and that part was all over.

I had a second degree tear and didn't feel it happening nor did it hurt after. It hurt like heck while they stitched me but I could have cared less as I stared at LO.

It did not hurt to pee or poop at any point after although I made sure to drink tons of water so I effectively peed water!

It was truly the best day of my life - the whole thing not just being handed my baby at the end. The sense of achievement was immense and my normally non sympathetic husband treated me like a goddess after for being so strong.

Wish I could do it all again tomorrow!

 

[QueenMummyToBe]

I am worried that little man will stay breech and I will either have to push him out bum first or have a c-section

And at the same time I am worried I will have the same labour as last time, that lasted for four days, had pre eclampsia, end up with an episiotomy that tore and ventouse to help Amelia come out, then had a post partem haemorrhage and lost a litre of blood, and needed two blood transfusions and had what seemed like a million stitches, that then a few days later split open!!

I was less worried about labour the first time!!!

xXx

 

[2016]

Wow that was longer than I meant it to be! Sorry!

 

[Pixoletta]

That a birthing pool won't be available

 

[prgirl_cesca]

I'm reading a hypnobirthing book at the moment, which while I am taking a LOT of it with a pinch of salt, it really is helping me stay calm about the birth and not panic too much. I am also watching 'home birth diaries' on Discovery Home & Health (those of you in the UK who have the channel - watch it!) and although I'm not having a home birth, I am becoming so educated in how amazing some women are and it doesn't always have to be epidurals and screaming.

My main worry at the moment is my parents who live 3 hours away will drive down and have to wait for hours in the hospital because it will take ages to give birth. We're trying to plan our phone call as to when I'm about 7cms or something!

 

[blondey]

I was worried about a lot of these things too and the best thing I did was going into the delivery room with an open mind.

I know a lot of women aren't as lucky as I was (I only had a 6hr labour, waters went at 2am and when I went to the hospital I was already 5cm and bubs was here at 8.04am!) But in terms of worrying about the epidural, you might be suprised as to how you deal with the pain and you may not even need one. I managed with gas and air during the contractions and nothing during the pushing apart from biting down on the mouth piece I took off the gas and air! But at the end of the day, see how you go but there is no shame in having the pain relief.

Re pooing, I didn't actually poo but I reeeeeaaaalllly felt as if I needed to. To be honest, you are so concerned about the labour you probably won't even care! The midwives have seen it all before and your OH/birthing partner obviously love you lots and probably couldn't care less if you poo! I was in the birthing pool for a while and I kept feeling 'things' float out and I kept apologising as the MW was fishing them out, but to be honest I didn't really care!

Re crowning and baby coming out, I won't lie, it freaking hurts (think ring of fire lol) but you just block it out. Once you get that feeling you know you are seconds away from seeing your baby and the pain lasts litterally moments. Seeing the baby come out wipes away all that pain and is the most amazing thing.

Re the tears, I tore in two places, near where you pee and my perineum. I think the one near where I pee was due to the MW stretching me as Ava-Mae was crowning and this tear meant I had to have a consultant stitch me and that I have to have a catherta in for a few hours. But you are numbed when they stitch you and it did not sting a bit when I had a bath or went to the loo.

Go in there with an open mind ladies and go with the flow the best you can. What will be will be and no matter how scared you are, the fears and the pain will all disappear once the lil bubba is born!

xxx

 

[chelseaharvey]

I have not really been thinking about it yet

 

[JustMe.]

im worried about something going wrong, worried about being over due and worried about the pain. Also worried about having diahrea and being sick, or going for a poo whilst pushin baby out. Lol x

 

[emilyjade]

the thing im most scared about is not getting to the hospital on time

 

[Skye1]

I'm so scared of having panic attacks, I suffer them with anxiety bad.

I am so worried I won't beable to do it and I will make an idiot of mysellf.

I'm more worried that there'll be something wrong with my baby

 

[braijackava]

I have an Ava Mae too!

 

[babybear75]

think the only thing worrying me at the moment is acutally going into labour. like what im going to be like etc...i also really dont want my waters to break in any room in our house where we have a carpet or in my car lol. daft things really.

hahahah! just made me giggle. . . .we have had a new carpet in the lounge. . .no drinks allowed!!

i can see hubby banning me from the lounge at about 37 weeks. . .just in case my waters break in there!!!!

 

[tallemgirl]

I'm scared of not getting to the hospital in enough time!

 

[chuck]

I'm concerned I'll need to go to hospital.

I had a very poor experience last time and want to avoid being put in a situation where I'll be pressured into unnecessary interventions again.

I'm looking forward to labour and birth - I laboured last time (boy did I labour) but I didnt get to give birth. I can't wait to push my baby out and meet them properly, to reach out catch them and feel him take his first breath and him open his eyes.

I don't care if I tear up down in and out (of course I'd prefer not to),
I don't care if I poop,
I don't care if I'm hairy,
I don't care if I shout swear or make a fool out of myself - of course again it'd be nicer if I don't LOL but I'll be doing something far more important than all those silly worries.

Girls with all the 'what if's'....remember we al know of someone who had this that or the other happen but despite those stories being the ones that stick in our minds the vast majority of labours go well, need no help (depsite it being forced on people) and there are no problems that cant be remedied by a calm MW.

Worry about poohing or tearing or the state of your hair is ridiculous - it is labour it aint called LABOUR for no reason it's hard work and you are doing the hardest thing you will ever do but the best thing so put aside the silly worries and concentrate on the process not the worries.