What could be wrong?!

[heyhailey]

Hey everyone! This is only my second post on here but I need some help! So my husband and I have been ttc our first for about 8 months with no luck. My cycles have been all over the place ranging from 63 days to 16 days. But as you know my dr won't do anything till the 1 year mark.
My last three cycles have been 23 days, 21 days and now it's 16. I've also been using OPKs for about 3 months and I haven't had ANY positive ones. I test every day of my cycle and none are ever positive?
Has this happened to any of you lady's?
Thank you!!!!

 

[2ducks]

Looks like you may not be ovulating regularly. You should start temping and charting to confirm if you are ovulating or not. After you get 60 days worth of data bring it to your doctor. It takes a couple with regular cycles up to a year to conceive. If you are having irregular cycles, that is not normal and you deserve to have some preliminary testing done such as a pap and a hormone panel. If you doc refuses then switch doctors to someone who will listen. I personally like my FNP, I find in general NPs have more empathy and listening skills than MDs or DOs. Also, not every woman will turn an OPK positive, so that is not necessarily an indicator of O.

 

[heyhailey]

Hi 2ducks!!! I knew you'd reply. I've been on here for months and I ALWAYS see you! So I just wanted to thank you for your response to me and to all the other women you've helped. It doesn't go unnoticed! I'm going to start temping this cycle!
Thank you again!

 

[2ducks]

Well thank you and you're welcome, you make me blush!

 

[Elle.T.]

Sounds like it could be PCOS because your not ovulating. I agree with the other response about the temping to confirm you are not ovulating and take the info to your doctor. It can sometimes be hard to get a doctor to listen to your concerns but if you are persistent sometimes it is a little easier. Good luck!

 

[Etisgonnab]

Agree you should start temping. Download the fertility friend app and start tracking everything--temps, cm, and opks. Yes not everyone gets a + --I know tons who haven't. I get multiple + in a month but so far still no bfp so it does nothing but confuse me. Do you do your oaks at the same time every day? You should try testing in the evening--a lot of people (myself included) miss their + by testing too early in the day.

Ff is really helpful. Tons of tutorials to help you track properly then all your data is right there with you and easy to access when you take it to the dr. Agree with the others to find a new doc if yours isn't taking you seriously. I've had bad experiences with male obgyns like that--took years and years to diagnose my endometriosis because they thought I was just a wuss

 

[pjmm]

I agree with the ladies above, I have really irregular cycles too and just started temping this cycle. I would recommend reading Taking Charge of your Fertility. It explains everything in detail best of luck!

 

[heyhailey]

Thank you all for your responses!! I'm going to start temping on my next cycle! And I have some doctors appointments Wednesday so hopefully I'll get some answers!!

Etisgonnab- yes all of mine look exactly the same! They're all pretty dark but not exactly a positive. And I take one around 4/5 then one before I go to bed around 10/11! But i finally just stopped using them because they were no help at all /:

 

[sarah2211]

Definitely agree with the others about temping. You can start mid cycle because you might ovulate, plus you'll get the hang of it in time for your next cycle. It's common with PCOS to not get a positive OPK or to get a couple each cycle. I get none but my temps and CM still show ovulation. My doctor also looked at my charts and said to keep temping. I'm on the waiting list to see a gynaecologist and he said they'll be interested in seeing them.

My doctor ran blood test and I'm starting Metformin next month. I've been trying 7 months now.

Do you have any other PCOS symptoms?

 

[heyhailey]

Sarah- No on the other pcos symptoms! Just super irregular periods. Also I am SO nervous for blood work. I've never had my blood drawn and when I was making my appointment they told me theyre going to get some and I am so nervous. But I have to get over that fear because I know I'm going to be poked at a lot once I get that positive!

Also a little vent:
I'm only 20 and my husband is 21, we've been together for over 5 years and we've had our own house for the past 2. I'm fortunate enough to be able to be a stay at home wife and eventually a stay at home mom. And that's why we decided to have kids.
Well I told my bestfriend I was ttc about 2 months ago and how it's been hard. And I knew I shouldn't have done that because this morning she sent me her bfp. She was able to get pregnant in 2 months while tomorrow I have my first appointment to figure out why I'm not. It's just so frustrating. They're not ready for it at all. And I've been waiting almost a year for that moment. Oh and to make it worse she's not even grateful.

 

[Etisgonnab]

That's so frustrating about your friend. I've had a hard time too with all the people I know who seem to get easily pregnant when it hasn't happened yet for me...to the point that I actually found myself getting angry with a friend who had a miscarriage but already had a kid then immediately got pregnant with her rainbow because she didn't seem to appreciate the kids she had and was solely focused on the one she lost. And I felt like such a monster for feeling that way (I still do feel like a monster to be honest). Edit to clarify: That was the point I realized I needed to let go and stop focusing on everyone else. I've felt horribly guilty that I ever felt resentment towards my friend with the MC; it was horrible that I felt this way for a moment--just wanted to share to show how far the resentment can go sometimes and how bad it can ultimately make you feel about yourself too.

I've tried to just remember that everyone's circumstances are different and what I want for myself isn't always the same as what others want for their lives. And that biology is biology; we're all different and have different journeys with TTC. Harboring resentment doesn't make it any easier for me to get that BFP, so I try to stay positive. Which is often easier said than done of course. We're not perfect. In the meantime, vent away. We're here to support each other

 

[2ducks]

You sound like a very mature 21 year old!

 

[heyhailey]

Thank you 2ducks!
And etisgonnab as much as I want to be I know I can't be mad at her. Im really crafty and have the machines to make t shirts so today she's coming over and we're making her a onesie that says "Surprise" with their last name on the back. I am honestly still upset about it. But me being upset isn't going to rewind time to not tell her. So I guess we all just keep moving forward and pray for the best.