Ok, a bit of a profound question, but an interesting one!
I have been pondering my upbringing for a while, I think because I am pregnant and it stirs up old memories perhaps, or maybe I am just getting old and seeing myself and my parents in a new light....
I don't have a good relationship with my mum, and now that I am old enough to articulate the things that happened in my childhood, I make a conscious effort not to make the same parenting mistakes as she did.
Likewise, I probably learned a lot about what to do right too.
So my question is, what did your parents teach you about parenting?
I learned from my parents...
1/ That even though I am the grown up, I mess up too. My mum messed up lots and never acknowledged or apologised for it (even now), so I make sure I always say sorry, explain and move on....
2/ To say I love you at every opportunity
3/ To praise my children lots, even when I think their drawings are creepy or their singing worse than the neighbours howling cat
4/ To listen to my kids and give credit to their feelings, even when they are not expressed in the right way (show them how to express themselves without conflict).
5/ Accept that I can only do my best, sometimes my best isn't good enough, and that no one beats me up more over that than me... again, saying sorry goes a looong way.
I have been pondering my upbringing for a while, I think because I am pregnant and it stirs up old memories perhaps, or maybe I am just getting old and seeing myself and my parents in a new light....
I don't have a good relationship with my mum, and now that I am old enough to articulate the things that happened in my childhood, I make a conscious effort not to make the same parenting mistakes as she did.
Likewise, I probably learned a lot about what to do right too.
So my question is, what did your parents teach you about parenting?
I learned from my parents...
1/ That even though I am the grown up, I mess up too. My mum messed up lots and never acknowledged or apologised for it (even now), so I make sure I always say sorry, explain and move on....
2/ To say I love you at every opportunity
3/ To praise my children lots, even when I think their drawings are creepy or their singing worse than the neighbours howling cat
4/ To listen to my kids and give credit to their feelings, even when they are not expressed in the right way (show them how to express themselves without conflict).
5/ Accept that I can only do my best, sometimes my best isn't good enough, and that no one beats me up more over that than me... again, saying sorry goes a looong way.