What do I do

[Poppyseed04]

I'm now 5 months pregnant and my boyfriend and I just don't have a relationship anymore. Ever since becoming pregnant I have lost all attraction to him, we've only been intimate twice I just feel completely turned off by his touch I don't know what it is. We don't get along, every little thing causes us to fight and we just can't be in a room together and be civil. I know he loves me a lot, and he does so much for me and has taken care of me since I've been so sick, I'm so grateful for that and it makes me feel so guilty for having these thoughts of leaving but I just can't shake it. I don't want to break his heart. But we aren't good together. I can't help but believe it would be better to raise her apart and happy, rather than together and miserable? I know that a baby brings added stress so won't it only get worse from here?

 

[moomin_troll]

I had anti natal depression when I was pregnant with my first son, I was always angry and felt like I didn't want to be with my oh anymore. I apologised to him and got help.
Go to your doctors and maybe try some counselling if you think there is something worth saving.

 

[BigLegEmma]

I read it could be hormonal - the turn-off when pregnant - but in my case, it wasn't and I can't wait to get the heck out of here because my partner makes me sick! Try not to make any big decisions while pregnant in case it is just your hormones all over the place x

 

[Dezireey]

I think because you are pregnant and it is such an emotional and life changing event, then try and be patient and work through it. Yes, it could be that you just genuinely don't want to be with him anymore but being pregnant, you can't be entirely sure that your body is sending your mind into a tiswas. I reckon you should wait it out until the baby is born and everything has settled down and then see how you feel. But, obviously if you can't even bear to even be in the same room as him, then you need to do something about it. Maybe ask him if you can both just have a relationship that is based just on 'friendship' for the time being and maybe he can stay somewhere else for a few nights a week, so that you can have space and sort your head out?

 

[Topanga053]

I don't want to trigger anyone, but in my case, it was definitely just hormones. I didn't want to be NEAR OH for most of my pregnancy. I normally have a strong libido and am very physically affectionate, but even a hug disgusted me most of the time. Sex was almost always a complete chore. Those feelings went away after LO was born (not immediately, but they slowly dissipated with time). Within a month or two, my feelings were back to normal. Just another perspective! But every relationship and pregnancy is different, so you have to do what feels right to you!